Sugarcoat

Ok I understand

I literally thought you were talking about a woman assuming that any man who approaches her is just looking for sex , that it’s wrong she is making such assumptions because it’s unfair toward guys who might not have that intention who loose their chance ok now I understand I think…

Dancing is one thing you can dance with someone without having any intention with anything further, I meant more rejection in terms of like they interested in taking it further dating etc , then sooner or later they gonna have to find out you can’t fake such thing forever that’s what I meant, wasn’t so clear from the get go that I meant that . So better to just be honest “uhm” I know my brain isn’t working properly atm, I mean it seriously . The last sentence is what got me a bit confused but I was thinking it was from female pov . And I do agree with it in some way

I don’t understand. You mean this would happen from the female pov ? So you wrote from female pov now

What’s worse, the possible momentary sting from rejecting someone or having to spend a bunch of time being fake

Yea i can agree sometimes if we push too hard it will backlash. Also try to catch yourself if you’re being fake that can sometimes make one feel even more cringe. Also maybe , I haven’t done this before really but if you say something that feels off maybe you could express it to someone like “I feel like what I just said didn’t come off right “ or something, maybe it could ease it to get some feedback . I had social anxiety in my past so just grabbing ideas from there

Force yourself over and over . Saying things you feel spontaneously in the moment if you feel that block in u. It’s gonna feel cringe many times afterwards looking back at it and you’ll have regrets but that’s ok . And maybe sometimes you’re genuinely gonna be a bit awkward but that’s ok too in this process can’t get better socially with trying so hard not to be awkward, that can counterintuitively make u more awkward even than just being more loose

I don’t worry about future lives no. One can be aware control is illusion maybe conceptually but how that would end worry I don’t see ok if you are so fully sure about it ..

you’re set on that.. I’ve thought about that exact thing how I feel like you can’t escape like sooner or later every “soul” or whatever is gonna go through the worst hell imaginable and nobody can escape it doesn’t help to think that tho since all we know is the present life so when you suffer that’s all there is to you doesn’t matter what comes in further lives if that’s a thing

@Schizophonia k ..

Nothing works on my fucked brain

She is lucky with that choice. Let her. I’m jealous . I think it should be more easily accessible considering how the world is today and how it can be , being human

i guess we could say it would be the same to say “if it’s infinity, then the possibility of nothing existing must be” ”and the possibility of everthing existing” So if everything and nothing is the same then it’s “solved”. maybe

It’s a paradox yea.. to answer that first part. I know just as little as u I’m no enlightened but it’s more intuitive hmm. I mean don’t some people say that the core of religions is non dual , I haven’t read the scriptures so I don’t know that. So maybe god isn’t how people think about it. and maybe the prophets on earth they are still human in a way so the message they spread about goodness will be humane and they stand by it but the ultimate god is maybe the non dual with no bias aka nothing at all. I don’t know just a bit of speculation now

I don’t think one needs to be enlightened to answer this per se, it can kind of be intuitive . Anything but this explanation feels kinda human made to me, ofc all words are but still there is a difference. I’d say there is no reason for it, it’s just appearing and nothing can stop it from it. If there is a god that has a will and that can choose to not create pain, wouldn’t that god be limited? Because it’s a something with a will. So it’s not all of reality, reality outside of it could appear as pain and nothing can stop it. I don’t think there is any why. And I’m not someone who glamorizes this I wish shit was limited too and some things shouldn’t exist imo , it’s the only sane way of feeling .

And I can tell people be glamorizing god as if they don’t deep down wish things were limited. You do wish it was limited. You love limitation . To limit things to the good stuff only.

Do y’all write as if “god” has an intention with all of this to be poetic and it sounds good or do you mean it genuinely ? I’m not enlightened but to me it doesn’t make sense that it would be an intention behind all of this like “oh I’m god I’m bored let me create something limited”

Might be true absolutely but as long as I feel real , words like that don’t manage to shake that sense unfortunately , despite being open to it

I say it once and say it again the self is its own curse period

Ok I see

I’m suffering yea, me as a sense of self. If awareness is nothing , then isn’t that the exact same as no self at all aka enlightenment ? So might as well just say “no self”

Well I do agree with the way you word it here. The thing do is that some seem to speak of this awareness as being this perfectly unbothered true self so as if your no longer capable of suffering if you awaken to yourself as it which I don’t agree with from my experience don’t know if that is even possible. Maybe only with enlightenment aka no self at all it’s possible to be perfectly unbothered right? Like I can still suffer not mentally really as before but psychically

I’ve never been without a sense of self except for maybe a brief moment one time I don’t remember the exactly tho but who is being that sense of self? You are. Isn’t it so. But you’re saying as if you are awareness (nothing) recognizing the self as if that self isn’t what you experience yourself as somehow, entangled with it “This is true. And yet every shape or density of ego is seen. The awareness itself is beyond all shapes and all qualities. ” I see this as detachment within the self, not awareness seeing the self. So the one who is aware of a dense ego is also the self it’s just a split within the self. The self can be attached to the mind in my experience, so you can observe and detach from this mind, but it’s still a self left that is doing that.

What is this witness awareness even. For me I don’t know this but it seems either there is a sense of self or not and then this self can be different in quality so some egos are denser than others , some attached to their mind some not is this witness awareness completely undisturbed and unable to suffer or what . Sounds nice to “abide as it” as some say

Ok I see