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What does self dissolution mean to you? For me you end up feeling like you barely exist. But I think there are different kinds of self dissolution

In my experience, with enough self dissolution comes an end to sexual desire, but it’s very hard to achieve. I have no libido , I wish I had it. Why would you not wanna enjoy sex in a moderate amount?

I don’t have a problem with those thoughts i have bought stuff that i could use to kill myself and done research but nothing further than that

So you actively held your attention in your chest? Maybe that just helped you to stop overthinking because it silences the mind when one puts attention on some sense perception.

If your desire for sex is strong enough it would overcome “laziness” and even sleep deprivation. So you seem to have a medium desire for it that’s not strong enough to propel you to go against the odds and look for sex

In summary: you just look good

It’s like the mind is those very things we mentioned (self image etc) and also the place where they occur as you say. Not super important difference In my experience paying attention to your mind is a crucial step if your goal is to see through it and dissolve it

It def plays a huge role. And also the mind is more than our internal thoughts, it’s our self image, and perhaps even image of others we have formed views about, about things too It def goes hand in hand

No. My dad tends to buy pork and he made for himself. Just drizzled in a little oil and some spices.

I ate a little pork belly today for dinner but it was made in oven

Everyone reading this I gotta clarify I did NOT like that 😂

Because it makes you more horny because it’s “forbidden” . I had the same tendency

It kinda depends on the reason why you have difficulty continuing the convo. If it’s fear then getting yourself completely relaxed is a game changer. Like if any insecurity is holding you back. But then you can still not know what to say even if you’re relaxed, it happens to me. Then it could be other factors such as lack of genuine interest in the other but I guess it’s not the case because you said you’re looking for genuine connection so that genuine interest is probably there, it could be lack of interests in your life in general so not having richness in your own life to talk about. It could be too stuck in head so it’s like you’re closed in on yourself, so you’re not able to react as spontaneously to the other person or connect to environment/the other person. You might have ideas in your head about how convos should go, what’s relevant to say or not, what’s appropriate so it’s kinda limiting your flow. Imagine that when you talk, your responses are impulses and they are traveling like on a stream in your head, traveling in your brain to your mouth when you speak. It should be quite a flowing stream, things shouldn’t be blocking it. It’s like you have a connection to yourself, that is your connection to your own stream. Anything that’s blocking the stream is a block in that connection to yourself. So the more your go into yourself, and clean up your psyche, clean it from trauma, insecurity, unwanted societal conditioning that doesn’t align with you. You are cleansing the stream so it can flow better

It’s hard to know where our mind ends and reality begins … they go so hand in hand

Sex can reflect other parts of a person yea

Ok I’m open to it.

@Basman Ok

Why is conventional fluoride toothpaste bad?

Does evidence prove the decrease in rape is directly correlated with the porn? Because a decrease in rape can be because of other factors in society.

As a contrast I could do experiment where I watched porn “neutrally” without thinking and it’s just seen as it is and doesn’t necessarily trigger arousal

I found in my past imagination plus porn watching simultaneously to be the strongest hit. It’s like you watch the porn, while simultaneously adding your touch of fantasy to it that matches what you’re watching. If that makes sense

Porn is a byproduct of our society simultaneously as it’s contributing to creating our society. It’s playing into what is already on people’s minds but also fueling it. It’s like a wheel. One question I have is do people have the capability to get turned on my their own mind or do they need to view sex externally in the form of porn to get off? Because if they can’t get turned on by their mind only, then it makes sense that porn offers a kind of sexual relief . But also it makes you crave even more, because it’s like it gives you too much dopamine, so you want it even more than if you wouldn’t watch porn at all. So it both gives you relief but can create toxic cycle of needing even more . So dependency

I agree but the only thing I’ll say is that in my experience letting go off attachments, beliefs etc are directly correlated to the dissolution of your self since what makes up the self is your self image and also all your attachments and your worldview kinda. It’s like this one mass. That’s at least how it has been for me. I struggle with maintaining my self while deconstructing the rest.

Ok I see your point yea you’re smart I lowkey take back what I say.

Thanks