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@flowboy Oh, do not worry. I have no issue with paying for the services that I get. I've paid all my therapists for their sessions. I am paying my current teacher for sessions with her. And I have also bought a bunch of courses and self-help books. What really makes me sick though, is the audacity to proactively seek out a person who is in pain, pretend to be a caring friend, just wanting to help, and then try to pitch them your product while they are in this vulnerable, emotional state. Actually, I am not sure if your signature and what you are doing doesn't violate forum rules about no self-promotion. This forum is not for you to run up to people and try to sell them your coaching sessions like a trader selling watermelons at marketplace. Oh wow, so now you have gone and started a full on attack on my education level and financial situation. I guess this really show the quality of person that you are. Well, I am sorry for being such a plebs compared to you, professor.

But don't worry. Yes, I am a bit pissed off now, but not at you. Just this whole state of affairs in general. And it's not your fault, @flowboy. Just like it's not a fault of those porn girls. They are simply doing what they have to, to survive in our difficult world. But it's just frustrating for us, outsiders, that you only see us as some ignorant money bags. Besides, I've been super lucky to finally find a teacher who puts her whole heart and soul into this work.

Secondly, it is funny how in the text quoted below you dismiss me expressing my frustrations as a patient with people working in this field and write them off as me simply being ignorant, but then you do the same thing. Is that because you are an "insider" who has a right to say those things because you are sooo educated? And yeah, I've had some experience with shit therapists, coaches, and self-help gurus. And you were actually one of them. I am not sure if you remember me but I was once in a pretty bad mental state, sharing my issues on this forum, and you reached out to me, pretending to care "oh so much" and wanting to help me. Only for it to turn out to be a pitch for your 1000+ dollar coaching package or something (I guess you must have been pretty desperate for clients at that time to hunt for them one by one on here). That kind of a behavior, finding someone in pain and then trying to make some money off of them, is a thing that really annoys me to be honest. Actually, now that I think of it, it's no wonder that you were standing up for those pornhub girls. What you are doing is not that different.

I am not saying that this is what a therapist does. I am saying that this is the intention I got from your original post. Notice how you didn't provide that context originally and are only now adding it. Maybe I wouldn't even started arguing with you if it was written like that from the beginning. All of that is to say that maybe you frustration comes from the fact that the way you communicate with people sucks, and not because of "ignorant outsiders who don't believe you".

@Javfly33 yeah, btw. You won't be able to deal with this Findom thing by "taking responsibility" or by using your willpower. What you need to work on is self-love. What's so neat about this is that it is a fundamental skill and you can just slowly chip away at it. As opposed to trying to find some mysterious moment in your past that will be crystal clear linked to your fetish, like your mom stealing your lunch money while you were playing under a dinner table *not that analyzing your past is totally useless.

@flowboy seriously, If a patient comes to a therapist and shares that he has a foot "fetish" and that he has a lot of guilt and shame around it. And a therapist decides to fix the part of his client that likes feet instead of working with the shame and guilt, and promoting self-love and self-acceptance. Then I think that they are a shit therapist. This is my genuine opinion. Not as a medical professional, but as a client who is sick and tired of under-qualified, dumb therapists, coaches, and other self-help gurus.

Look, I am sorry if I offended you, I didn't mean to. You are a nice person and I didn't mean to criticize you, just an example. And come on, it is a shitty example. Feet under the table, seriously? How many people are going to be able to come up with such a clear, simple connection? And how do you know that this memory is all there is and there is nothing more contributing to the fetish. And also, why would you even use a foot fetish as an example when the op is talking about findom? Findom can literally ruin your life. What's wrong with foot fetish? How is it hurting anyone? Who decided that liking feet is even a fetish? Like, feet are just another part of human body. They are not objectively uglier than breasts or ass or whatever, that's just cultural conditioning. Why is liking an ass considered okay and liking feet isn't? If anything, rejecting a certain part of human body and thinking that it is ugly, or disgusting is more pathological than liking it, no?

Unfortunately all the sex stuff is still taboo in our society and porn industry, as well as all of the digital stuff in general is too poorly regulated. The legislation simply sucks. So that's why such abuse is possible in my opinion.

@Javfly33 If you pretend to be a therapist, but don't actually have a license you can get into legal trouble. If a therapist manipulates his mentally vulnerable patient and makes the patient give all of his belongings away to him, he can get into legal trouble. If a nursing home abuses their elderly residents, they can get into legal trouble. A porn addict, addicted to something like findom is arguably in a similarly vulnerable mental state. So I don't think it should be okay for them to be scammed out of their money.

Yeah, that's what I meant. It sounded like something a self-help book would say. They tend to provide simplistic, overly exaggerated examples to sell you their five steps to successful success. Things are way more subtle in real reality in my opinion. You have a power to change individually, sure. But what I am saying is that we, as a society, should hold such people responsible. And we do, to some degree. For example selling drugs is illegal. And so is selling alcohol or cigarettes to kids below 18 years old. I have another example/question. Why is it not okay for an alcohol producer to claim that it's not their fault that some 12 year old kid wants to drink vodka with his friends and that they should have the right to sell it to them? What about a 17 year old? Why do we, as a society, protect children from harm in this way instead of just saying: "oh, whatever, it's the kids fault that he is dumb and wants to do drugs". But then, somehow, magically, once the kid crosses 18 years, it's okay? He is on his own now? One day we protect him, and on the next day he can go and drink himself to death for all we care. Did something about a kid change in this one day? No, nothing actually changed, he didn't magically become more mature and responsible. Becoming 18 years old doesn't work like a level up in a video game. The only thing that changed is our subjective view of him. Actually, it's the same with porn as it all supposed to be 18+. What if your underage kid went and gave 1000 bucks to some onlyfans girl, would you have said: "well it's not her fault that he likes findom or whatever"? No, you would have probably sued the shit out of her and out of the streaming platform. But somehow once the kid get over 18 it suddenly becomes okay for him to be scammed and abused. And it becomes his own fault.

@Javfly33 I don't agree with Flowboy saying: "it's not their fault that you like that". I think that they are basically preying on people's traumas and mental disorders, which is really low in my opinion. It's like saying that it is okay for big corporations to abuse human psychology and use whatever marketing and sales techniques they want. And say that it's not mcDonalds fault that people are addicted to junk food. Or that it's not facebooks / twitters / tik toks / instagrams fault that you are addicted to social media. That being said, there will always be those who prey on weak people. Like thieves who steal from old people or kids, or employers abusing their position of power. This is nothing new. And I don't think it's any different in this case. Basocally, all you can do personally is to become strong enough.

Sounds like an asspull

What angers me the most is that from what I understand there won't be much consequences for something like this. The officer might get fired because of the public outrage and that's it. He should be put into prison and then made to pay the victim for the rest of his life.

@mr_engineer I see. Never had anything like this happen to me. No worries then.

@mr_engineer I am curious why are ypu so afraid of being viewed of as a simp? Why do you mention it in literally every post? Simp, simp, simp, simp. It's all you are talking about What if I am a simp, should I be scared?

@Buck Edwards why are you arguing with a guy who has a troll face as his profile pic?

@flowboy i see, thanks for advise.

@flowboy ok. How do you apply it. I assume you need to use a lot to cover the whole hair?

Where did you get this information from, lol? There was never unconditional support for Ukraine. From day one there were conflicts regarding refugees, conflicts between politicians on both sides, conflicts among common people, people politicians supporting Russia, etc. This is nothing new and is natural in every situation like this in the world. Find me an example of a political decision in any country that was met with 100% unconditional support by everyone. On top of that, in my opinion, they do that to get the support of farmers. A very vocal group who even before the official grain ban were going out and blocking trucks with Ukrainian grain. You clearly have your own story that you have already decided on, so you want to see everything from the perspective that validates it. No matter whether it is actually true.

And yes, it is about the grain. This conflict has been boiling for a few years now and has finally blown up, given the final push by how poorly and stupidly Ukraine handles its diplomacy and PIS wanting to use the scandal to get extra votes.

Yeah, I am sure that you, living in Italy, know more about the moods in Poland than me, a Ukrainian living in Poland right now. Please educate me more on the public opinion here.

@Tobia @StarStruck 1. This is a response to the grain conflict and the retarded things Ukriainian officials said, not the war in general. 2. Another part of it is PIS just being desperate for votes in October elections. But who needs the context, right? It's better to just link a random twitter post and call the thread "Poles stick it up to Ukraine". Another stage yellow political analysis

@Majed btw, you you didn't get my point. But thank you for an uninvited mansplaining I guess...

@StarStruck oh it wasn't from this thread. It was just your thing some time ago. This is how I originally remebered you. So now every time I see you post something I am like: "oh, it's the stage yellow guy". Andrew Tate and Stage Yellow. These are my top associations when it comes to you.

@StarStruck you know what else is funny? I don't care what an amazing fighter you are, it lierally doesn't matter in a real, adult world. Imagine boasting about having a hobby I will start the next argument on this forum with: "while you guys were typing pussy ass comments on this forum, I went and collected some postcards ?"