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@peanutspathtotruthI appreciate your honesty and point of view "Painful feelings might not be the reason you pick up an addictive behavior, but they certainly are a major reason for the inability to quit when it is clear that this behavior is destroying you." Bingo, couldn't agree more. It's like a sticky tape trap or something. I think we are pointing at the same solution but in different ways. I see what you are saying in the sense of not shaming or hating the part of self that is addicted to and keeps going back to porn, because ultimately it thinks it is helping and doing something good. The dopamine and reward system has placed porn as GOOD GOOD GOOD deep into the subconscious. Once we realize we are addicted it's a long way out because of this and all the chemicals that get released during porn usage. When i say "loser" i can see how it hits people the wrong way, but it's coming from love. This type of talk is what got me to quit and get my life together, later on, i dropped it. Maybe it's just a teaching style, for me, the term "loser" carries that weight and negativity that i don't want in my life. I resonate with guys like Goggins and Rogan because they have this tough love kinda approach of "suck it up and do what you need to do, push through the pain" , no doubt there might be some toxicity there but it works, and to get started sometimes that is needed. I don't take that philosophy for life in general but to get a workout done? To get up early? To stop porn? it carries caliber. And if my saying that can get some of these young guys and myself to stop the bad habits sooner, then it's worth it. That shock factor of " fuck...do i want to be 55, single, fat, and still watching porn every night" can scare anyone to quit, especially if they can't muster the self-compassion to take your approach at the time. However, in the larger scheme, I totally agree that we shouldn't demonize or hate that part of ourselves, and ultimately no-one is a real loser, just hurt or healing... It's kind of contradictory, and this discussion with you has helped me refine the approach and understand it better. So thanks for that, I hope my take can make some sense. Ultimately, you are right in this discussion, the true healing comes from loving that part of the self and understanding it. But sometimes we need a loud insulting wake up call to just get out of a hole. I like to have a bit of tough love on myself in a way a loving grandfather would say "you knew better than that, and you are better than this" "I think it's an unhealthy habit we have of demonizing anything or anyone (mostly ourselves)" I agree, and again, this is insightful to some of my own habits.

@peanutspathtotruthI have to thank you for your perspective, because there is truth in what you're saying. Actually i just spent an hour meditating on this and found that a lot of the porn addiction is linked to insecurity. However, in another twisted way, I believe the porn causes this insecurity. It's almost like the porn causes Trauma when over viewed as a young developing man, I can't speak on what it does to women. Read "Your brain on Porn". So it's not always the case that one is deeply wounded and that is why they view and are addicted to all this porn, it can just be that the porn is designed to hit a primal root in the psyche which forms an addiction. Because it is so intriguing, exciting, and pleasure filled. This causes a trauma in and of itself for a young mind. That is why you see so many amazing benefits reporting when guys just quit, and sometimes to get that motivation, we need to see or say things like porn is for losers. Because in the long-run, if you stay on porn, you will become a loser, I don't know any other way to word it. It's not calling myself of other guys losers for watching it, i am just saying watching porn will make you and is for losers. Similar to how alcholism will ruin your life, relationships, career, and make you a loser, call it tough love. But still, thank you for your perspective because it revealed some shadow stuff for me

@LfcCharlie4Solid post mate. It truly takes drastic measures to quit. @peanutspathtotruthI see what you are saying, but i tried loving compassion, it didn't kick the habit. The only thing that stopped me was to see, clear as day, that porn is for losers, i dont know any other way to say it. And from there my healing was in "no, i'm not a fucking loser like this, I am a LION and i love myself so much that i will not go back to that poison, even if doing so requires calling myself a loser for watching it"

Hi guys, Serious question, I am almost 30 and figure if i work a few more years i can have 500K saved up. I have my money invested in stocks (70%) and Crypto (30%) This provided an avg return of 20%/year. I want to have the option to stop working, not like i will for sure, but just to have that option. I figure at 500K if i get a return yearly of even 7% (stock market avg) but let's account for taxes and saving, 5% That's around 2K/month "salary" In the US that's pretty bad but I have lived in Mexico, Brazil & Peru where you can live comfortably for 1K /month and I'm talking transportation, nice housing, doctor visits, yoga and gym membership, healthy food, etc. It would be simpler living, but not impossible. Is this realistic or am i missing something? Thx

"An introvert is more likely to question reality and care about epistmeic issues due to them being in their heads a lot more. I do not expect your party jock to watch Leo's videos. It will be the intellectual nerd that will." @Karmadhi You would think so, but i've actually met a few people who follow Leo in person and they were all pretty integrated, social, alpha-kinda guys. All male though. One guy was a total sports jock, the kinda all american kid you'd see as a football team captain who gets tons of pussy, and he does.

guys i'm going to go out on a limb here and say that porn is absolute shit. it's completely toxic and ruins your life. i wish someone had told me this when i was 15 because porn literally rewires your brain and fucks up your sexuality. ever notice how it's never enough and you always need more, more, more, and how after a video your just sitting there with your fucking laptop and phone and cum on your stomach like a fucking loser? Im sorry but porn is for fucking losers! Kings and real men dont need porn because they get real human sex, and all the dopamine, oxytocin and love that comes from real sex. Also, when you jack off and cum you lose your most vital energy, your semen. Don't believe me? Go check out reddit/semenretention. I'm telling you guys, and i know this may fall on deaf ears. But head my advice. PORN IS RUINING YOUR LIFE AND YOUR MIND I HAVE STUDIED AND EXPERIEMNTED WITH THIS FOR YEARS NOW AND FINALLY BROKE FREE OF THE SPELL OF PORN AND MASTURBATION IT IS NOT NATURAL AND IT IS A FUCKING LOSERS GAME

@Leo Gura In your experience, do you think RSD is the #1, highest quality source material for getting laid? @Vivaldo My advice is to make yourself have a goal (I will talk to 5 women per night) and literally force yourself to hit that goal every single night. Even if it's just "hey i like your shirt" because the biggest barrier to getting laid is basically being sackless. When you are sackless, you only end up talking to women who are below your standards, or when your piss drunk, and maybe do 1 or 2 approaches per week, if that. You'd be amazed at how sweet and welcoming most women are, and stay observant, the more observant you are you will notice little things that attract and push her away, test the feild, play it like a video game. This has been my tactic and I've slept with over 100 women and i'm not even 30, I solely say that to prove the validity of just staying observant and pushing yourself. Go into with the mindset of "i am willing to get rejected 5 times in a row tonight, because it will make me better stronger and smarter" All of that theory is just going to fuck with your head and make your nuerotic. I think you should have some theory to lay the ground work , but don't buy a bunch of books and courses on this shit, it's a natural interaction that is in your fucking bones. The problem with all this theory is that it emulates confident or alpha behavior, when the subject is not exactly confident. So they say "hold your back up straight and speak from your chest" and you end up looking like a fucking clown because you are doing something unnatural to your personality. They say "poke fun at her, it'll make her attracted" and you end up insulting her and looking like a dipshit because all you wanted to do was have a chill conversation and compliment her, which she would have liked.

"God is at his best when 'naughty'?" Ummm...yeah, but...uh...no, no, WHAT ?!

Fuck yeah! *Curt slowly becomes enlightened and just drops of the face of youtube for 3 months*

@Nahm Thank you for the feedback. I don't know if i could handle the stress of managing an AirBNB, but real estate is a good idea What do you mean by; "Psychologically, loa & spheres wise, avoidance or the escaping of something doesn’t created much. Focus upon wanted does. " @Michal__Czech is awesome and that's a great idea! Thanks @VidoThank you for your input, investing in LP is never a bad idea @Tudo Bom brigado. Y Sim, muito! <3

To start having people lose their jobs and being forced over what they do or don't do with their bodies is actually quite disturbing, no?

@martins name That was actually really helpful diagram. I find that my naval chakra might be blocked, does just meditating on it help? which kriyas? any books you rec? Thx

@Tudo Oi , ta bom!? I fucking love Brazil and this guy clearly doesn't know what he is talking about, full of fear and ignorance. I lived in Leblon for a month and felt safer than i do in los angeles, not to mention the amazing people, vibrant life and BEAUTIFUL women. This is why i want to move out there and life would be great. Sorry @Shawn Philips but you are incorrect. While it always smart to be safe no matter where you travel, to label all of south america as dangerous is just plain ignorance. This is what all my family and friends think and i live most of my life out there and i feel safer than i do in the west

something i really liked about the interview was that Leo was "forced" to answer all of Kurts questions, and explain the answers very detailed and in laymans terms and using a lot of metaphors. This helped me have new insights that i didn't get from just a video of Leo speaking to the camera because with the interview he had to actually break things down based on this guys questions, if that makes sense. Anyway it gave me a new perspective on many of the things Leo speaks about. So thanks Leo for doing that, and Kurt for being a solid skeptic!

Hm, very interesting. Thanks guys

I have begun to really feel that reality is a dream/halucination. The one thing i can't seem to gain clarity on is other people. There is clearly another agent acting on its own accord, of which i have no control or understanding, I understand how a tree is just my mind, consciousness, i feel that, but when i see a person, i snap out of it completely

@aurum Thank you for the insight/feedback!

Thanks everyone! @LordFall Yeah that's the truth, I want to find other guys (or girls) who want to travel and party and do pickup but also do spiritual work and work remote. Tougher than it seems though. As far as the goal would go, I just want a tribe where we can be authentic, vulnerable and grow and support each other. But also be stupid and goofy. @somegirl Your right, it's also tough to make any solid crew because I jet out the second i get bored. So maybe in some ways i am just creating this for myself, a part of me thinks that i really just want to be a lone wolf anyway and maybe the travel lifestlye just comes with the price tag of fleeting friendships

i travel the world, i have been to almost every continent and over 50 countries. i love the traveling but everyone i meet is fleeting and they know i am fleeting too. how do i find my place and my people? I don't want to be a part of this party "fuck it" culuture but also don't want friends who take life and spirituaity super serious because they usually have even worse egos.

Masculinity is beautiful. Fuck more women Spend time alone without distraction Get in your body, run . lift, yoga Strong determination sits Nature with your shirt off Semen retention

I'm in no place to judge as i wouldn't hold the conversation like that, but i feel as an interviewer he could've been a bit more focused and socially intelligent. Nonetheless , was still a great listen

@Waves my list is absurdly close to yours as i was also highly motivated by that video , cheers

anyone else have this? I have a ton of spiritual books, stuff i genuinely want to read, but i find wanting spending my free time just in nature staring at the trees and water. Not really even contemplating, but just fucking being, just enjoying being alive and enjoying my monkey mind when it gets all riled up too. But i feel i am missing on tons of wisdom and if i just keep doing this i'll be super quiet and lose interest in social games completely

Very insightful and wise thank you guys @peanutspathtotruth @Eph75