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It’s a difficult topic. Basically there are legit people who want to physically change their gender and the best way to do it is at a young age. BUT kids at a young age just aren’t really mature enough to do these kinds of decisions. It’s also a question of is the kid just interested in acting more like the opposite gender but feels like it can’t because of what is expected from a boy or a girl or does the kid actually want to change its physical body. I am no expert in that field but I lean more towards the conservative side. The surgery and medications aren’t healthy, that’s just a fact and if there is a way to make people happy in their biological body that should be explored. I feel like it is easier for people to accept trans people then to accept femboys/tomboys because in the first case it actually agrees that the physical body dictates certain behaviour so it’s actually less radical then the second case.

Even though that is true, the thing that makes atoms different is, if you zoom into the smell particles of a skunk you will find atoms there. Just like with any other object you will find atoms there. It’s a consistent dream. Now explain a materialist that this consistency doenst imply truth. It’s very tricky.

I used 100mg Modvigil for the first time today. I noticed strong effects but I also have a lot of concentration problems all the time, so there is a lot of room to improve for me.

These thoughts are on my "favorite-thoughts-playlist“ at the moment.

My problem is this. I have pretty good social skills when I am used to socializing. But because I have a tendency to isolate myself because socializing is very energy draining to me I often go days and sometimes weeks without socializing. I rarely even text message with people. And after some alone time it always feels rough to get into socializing again. I feel awkward and boring and I can’t do a good conversation. I realized that this is something that I can’t allow to happen anymore because I loose so many opportunities to date, pick up, find friends, .. because I just don’t feel in my power. Even though the answer is probably really straight forward „Just integrate more social situations in your week bro“ because I think this is a very common problem that many people have I thought that some of you have a more nuanced/in depth answers/strategies to deal with this.

@Happy Lizard The drug is new to me. I ordered a sample box with 4 different ones. 10 pills of Modalert 200mg (modafinil) 10 pills of Modvigil 200mg (modafinil) 10 pills of Artvigil 150mg (armodafinil) 10 pills of Waklert 150mg (armodafinil)

A philosophy professor of mine talked about a special philosopher he knew personally. „Even when he was 80 years old he could talk to people at every age at eye level because he had the attitude that he could learn something from everybody.“

Thanks that’s really motivating. I had intense negative social experiences in early childhood and school. I didn’t learn in early childhood how people naturally connect with each other so now I either overwhelm other people or I am very distant. I have concentration problems which cause me to miss information which often bring me into embarrassing situations. I was never accepted in a group. Subconsciously I believe that I am a looser, weird, an outcast because I played these roles for so long. I also have very little knowledge when it comes to common things people talk about like films, music, stars,.. I just don’t give a damn. I know that one way I can heal myself is if I have a gf who accepts me for who I am because that already happened before for a short time.

Have a few questions regarding Daily Affirmations. 1) Should they all focus on one category, (for example productivity) or can they be diverse (for example productivity and self love). 2) How do you get the best time to effect ratio with them? (For example how important is it to do them daily and do they get less effective if you do them very long at a time. (For example a multiple hour session))

Given what you say later, I don’t think that’s realistic to do emotionally ? Oh okay. Well I think that goes perfectly hand in hand because if I feel resistance when doing affirmations I can get into that resistance right away.

Well that’s my list. Would you change something about it? I can completely change myself how I want. I will do daily affirmations my entire life. I can archieve my goals. I have unlimited energy. I do important things immediately. I am healthy. I am funny. I love to be funny. I can find something funny in every situation. I am confident. I love to be social. I am the core of the group. I am good enough. I am loveable.

That’s true. It’s been some time since socializing felt natural for me. I kind of forgot that you can get to that point. I will take it as a motivation. Do you have anything specific in mind? There are these jobs where you have to speak to approach people on the street to talk them into donating for some good cause. I don’t really like that approach, BUT it’s basically paid pick up training. To figure out if slacking off isn’t bad for your social confidence as long as you don’t feel guilty about it? I love the idea but I don’t have enough friends to make plans for an entire week and it would also be stressful to isolate myself an entire week as well. Too much costs unfortunately. Yes. No, maybe you didn’t want to make a point but I think it’s a perfect analogy actually. I trained hard and learned a whole lot about nutrition for many years and for the past two years I just maintained my muscle mass with two workout days a week and eat healthy automatically. It’s probably the same with socializing. At the beginning you have to build up all the skills but then it’s easy to maintain them. @StarStruck I often experience a lot of emotions I don’t feel like are acceptable or like to be seen like loneliness, sadness, frustration, .. There is a guy in the theatre that I go to and I recently just saw him crying outside and a girl just hugged him all the way through. He always expresses himself however he wants without holding back. Its amazing I want to be like that guy. But the thing is that guy is also super confident. Maybe he can allow himself to express himself however he likes because he has enough inner strength. I still have to work on that.

CockCalvin seems legit ?? The other ones are cringe though.

What I sometimes fade out is what is going on internally like how I feel about myself and how that is connected to the present moment. Years ago I often had social anxiety from playing a lot of video games because I used it to hide from life challenges. And then I remember me after school graduation allowing myself to play video games one week straight. There was not a single bit of insecurity and I felt completely fine because I completely allowed myself to do it and didn’t feel bad about it while in other times that would have put me in a deep rut. How we talk to ourselves is so important. I am kind of lost in life right now, don’t know what direction to go and feel a bit like a looser. I probably underestimate how much that drags me down. That’s a good point.

From what I understood we already hypnotize ourself all the time. If activate a social state through effort in myself that is already hypnosis. At least that’s what I think with my limited knowledge. Haven’t dived deep into the subject of hypnosis yet. I try to love myself to the best of my ability when I am the one quit guy in the group but honestly I do feel a bit guilty about it and feel that I don’t contribute anything to the group/ drag the fun down.

You can learn to be funny by yourself. You can do daily affirmations. Maybe you can also learn to hypnotize yourself to be extroverted on command. I go to the theatre where I practice once a week for 1.5 hours but it’s def not enough.

I was never into football. How can you say these two players are so much better then the rest? I understand that in 1v1 sports like boxing you can say that someone is the best if he has a great winning streak but in a team sport like football how can you reduce an archievement of a player to the player itself? It’s much more about the intelligence of the team dynamic and the template of other players rather then the finishing blow at the end. Nobody has a list of his top five defending football players, it’s always the top striker everybody has in mind.

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I thought DDD stands for something else. ?

He isn’t your diet coach, he is trying to teach you boxing. You don’t have to take 100% advice from one person just take what you want. If you think he doenst have enough of a champion mentality just learn boxing from him and take inspiration from other people when it comes to champion mentality.

If only a few of the elite have the power to rule the country they will act in their own benefit and not for the people. If all people rule the country, everybody will have a voice but this makes the decision making of a country as stupid as the average citizen of the country. The ideal case would be a population of people who deeply trust their leaders which are trained to be very intelligent and wise and who only have the interest of the population in mind. That would work if everybody would selfless. But given that everybody is selfish democracy is maybe the best solution for a bad situation.

Not sure, I only know a handful. But not all of them are into anal play. Depends on the individual I guess.

@Someone here Epic! It’s a myth that all gay/bi guys are into anal play.

I worked at a coffee job and at the supermarket before and it was okay but pretty stressful and I think the effort money ratio could be optimized. My idea is to have a job that requires little effort so I can spend most of the time productively working on my studies or whatever else. I thought about working at a casino but when I entered a casino the first time of my life I could smell the vibe of desperation everywhere. It would be a perfect fit practically but the misery there would drag me down I think and it would conflict with my values to work at an unethical place like that. Other ideas I had were babysitting, working at a small shop with little customer or working at a gas station because I heard you have a lot of free time there but I never did it myself. Any experience or recommendations?

Talked to a women about it today and she said you can basically activate a certain stage of consciousnis that you programmed yourself with at command with the use of will. I personally see immense use for it for social anxiety, pick-up, motivation, relaxation, basically every aspect of life. You can make a course for a week and learn it. Sounds like one of the best investments you could make if it actually works.