Ben_P

I’m getting there guys, erections coming back, not quite as hard as I’d like but slowly slowly!

Thank you all for the feedback, we have hooked up a few more times since and I did get erect a couple of times so I was able to have intercourse, the last time I did struggle again (semi hard). I feel like I can’t fully let myself go and get out of my head, maybe because she’s high value to me. I’ve left the porn alone for a little while now and I only masturbate occasionally. I’m also changing the way I masturbate. The sexual chemistry is high and she’s loving it. I’m not particularly embarrassed I’m just a little frustrated because I want my erection back.

Okay, thanks for the advice

Is it a big deal for a woman? She definitely seemed satisfied, don’t want it to turn into a big deal I know I can get past this

If I’m totally honest I’m not sure, attraction is certainly there but it’s early days and I don’t know her well enough yet. I certainly do like her. There is ego involved, I haven’t had that many sexual partners and part of me wants to have sex with more people. I had this situation with my previous partner and after a few sexual encounters with her I was fine, it’s almost like a switch was flicked.

I could do with some clarity with a situation I had recently. I had sex with this girl recently and I’ve been in my head over the encounter. The issue is I can’t get it up when I first have sex with someone new, it’s purely psychological and I’m sure it’s to do with me not feeling completely comfortable and insecurity on my part. I spent most of the time giving her oral which she seemed blown away by, her exact words were ‘I’ve never had anyone do it that good before’. She kept telling me to put it in but I couldn’t get up, I explained to her why and she seemed fine with it. What are some steps I can do to get past this problem and do you think I’ve blown it? Thanks for any feedback

@Eph75 @meadow thanks for the advice, I have been introspecting a lot, I need to change my ways enormously and so does she. We got too comfortable and lost our passion, and now we’re losing connection. I’ve managed to get her talking to me a bit more, I’ve been paying attention to her and changed some unhealthy habits we’ve got stuck in. We need to learn how to grow together if we’re going to succeed. I would try psychedelics but my workplace have random drugs tests unfortunately. I want us to get our passion back but she’s turned quite masculine over the years, probably as a result of our neglect for each other, it also feels like I’m living with a teenager sometimes, she shuts herself away, puts earphones in and wears unattractive clothes. If we’re gonna get anywhere we’ve got a ton of work to do, but I do believe it’s possible to get her to work with me in time.

@Raze Thanks for your help, I’ll have a look in to it.

There’s is no passion at all, we don’t resent each other though. We both take responsibility for our failings, we’ve just gone completely stale, we’ve fallen down the slippery slope a few times but this will be the last opportunity to repair it. I’m prepared to change drastically, but her mind is closed and she’s emotionally shut down.

I’ll try not to bore everyone for too long, basically ive been with my partner for 11 years (4 years married) and we’ve grown apart almost completely, we’re just roommates at this point. She’s at the point where she’s so fed up she doesn’t even want to try and make it work as she believes it to be pointless, understandably due to the fact we’ve drifted many times and never properly become intimate, at least for very long. It’s make or break now and I was hoping for some advice on how I can at least get her to consider making our relationship work. I believe it can work but we both have to change and grow. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

Over the years it does seem as if his grip on materialism has eased a little, I listened to a podcast recently and he was talking about the no self experience/non duality, unfortunately he fits it in to the material paradigm. If I remember rightly his wife entertains the idea of consciousness being fundamental. Maybe he should listen to his wife more ?

Leo, will you do an update on where you are on your journey? Like in your day to day experience? How much more awake are you compared to say 3 years ago?

I always hoped I’d see Leo on joe rogan, but after watching the recent podcast I can’t see it doing much good. I’d love to see him talk to Sam Harris though, imagine if Leo opened his mind, surely some of his fans would follow suit? I mean a material atheist who actually realised he’s believing in a false ideology, that could be a key turning point in history.

I’m not much of a county music fan but this is a cool song about reincarnation, I’ve heard Willie nelson believes in reincarnation, maybe smoking so much weed gave him this thought https://youtu.be/bMdeg-WKt1U

If you’re not willing to look in to it then aren't you being ideological? As much as mick west is a debunker he admits he leaves room for alternative theories. His website offers explanations to unusual phenomena. Of course mick is ideological and quite closed minded but his explanations are quite thorough and informative.