Gesundheit2

You, not me.

It's not a lie, but it's also not the truth. Untruth.

Enlightenment (Buddhism): a final blessed state marked by the absence of desire or suffering.

@Someone here I believe that after death you will become enlightened.

Through the biases that It doesn't have.

Shit Magnet: "Person who for some inextricable reason attracts bad things and events to happen to them."

No. They just aren't taught how to be grateful.

You have to understand the chaotic nature of the feminine energy. Any sexual attempt that seems direct, organized, pre-planned, etc... to them, that's a major turn off. It's boring. And at best it makes them feel stressed/limited, and at worst it makes them feel like a prostitute. Women flourish in chaos, they just are not compatible with order, or at least so they think. So in order for you to lure in a woman, you need to learn how to create a pre-planned chaotic experience and be the director/driver of that experience and at the center of it. You have to make it seem like everything is happening spontaneously, and yet everything is somehow working in your favor and going your way. From the moment your eyes first meet, every little step is getting you closer to that pussy, so innocently, with no effort or will of your own. You're just playing, and she's just enjoying. Learn to integrate chaos into your life so that it becomes like a second nature to you. Chaos is a creative force when controlled perfectly. Learn how to tame it, and you will capture the eyes of everyone around you, including and primarily, those of women.

My best friend, let's call him H, will probably be moving to Germany in a few month. I'll be left alone with one final close friend, let's call him F, and an attempt at rebuilding my social circle from scratch. I used to have a lot of friends most of whom I ended up ghosting when I decided to go fully monk-mode. As for my friend H, part of me feels like it's dying, another part feels okay with that, and another part feels excited both for me and him. I think our friendship is unique and not like any other friendship, or the thing that's advertised in the movies, think Harry Potter's flashbacks. No, nothing like that. I don't think we have any memory of that type, we don't romanticize anything. Our friendship has always been deep and classy, but never exciting. It's a masculine type of friendship, where we both care about each other, but don't show that we do, similar to Goku and Vegeta's friendship from Vegeta's pov. We don't show any emotions at all, it's somehow established between us that that's not cool, so we keep things as stoic as possible. That's probably mainly what made it possible for us to be able to discuss the deepest questions/topics in life, which of course had always played a major role in sculpturing my thoughts and sharpening my mind. Anyway, H has been there for me when I was at my lowest. He supported me, never judged me, even when I was half-psychotic and delusional. But apparently, none of that made it possible for us to develop that kind of emotional connection or attachment that most people develop between each other. We always kept a distance from each other. But maybe it's just me who doesn't feel anything. He shows signs of attachments, for example he told me he does not want to leave because he will lose me and his family, and that it's a major reason why he delayed his moving out this much. I told him that it's his path and future at the end of the day, and that he must proceed regardless as he wants to get married and become a doctor in a better country. Then the topic somehow melted away, as it almost always does. I'm not sure every friendship has this, but there are certain things that we never discuss. Things like the ground rules of the friendship or the topics we should not be discussing. Like, for example, he does not know anything about Actualized.org or enlightenment, and I don't know anything about the sources of his knowledge and information. We just don't ask, it's like a norm between us. Sometimes I try to move out of that frame, but then he dodges for some reason, which I understand subconsciously. We have discussed almost everything, existence, God, religion, philosophy, medicine, politics, economics, sports, music, you name it, but all at a high level, and open-endedly. We don't conclude almost anything, that's how we keep something more for tomorrow. And we don't force our beliefs onto one another. He's still a Muslim and he knows that I'm not anymore. He thought that it was a phase then I would return, but lol. The strangest thing is that we almost never talk about sex. The most explicit thing I remember him saying was that Nicki Minaj's tone/accent was kind of sexy, like in a way that stimulates his instincts. That's it, literally. That's the depth of the dirtiest sexual topics we've talked about. Other than that, when it comes to sex, it's always a classy discussion and vague statements. The last time I saw him he was telling me that technology has made it easier to connect with people from anywhere. He was hinting at the possibility that we might be able to continue our friendship even after he moves. But we both know that it's not possible for us. I have lots of friends and family members abroad, but I never contact them. I just don't feel the connection anymore, it's never gonna be the same. My friend H is the same way. We've talked about this before. Technology does not replace human connection, we both agree. And we both know that our friendship will end the day he moves out. He's the fourth best friend of mine that moves out, and then I will be left with F, a candidate for the fifth best friend position. H is specializing in nephrology, and he's an actual genius highly developed individual, by the way. My first best friend to move out was a high-school friend who moved to the US the moment things went down to hell in 2012. He initiates contact from time to time, but things are stale from my end. The next one was the one I've known the longest, he's an electrical engineer and has moved to Iraq, then to Turkey a couple of years ago. We never talked since then. The third one was a medical fellow, he's now in Turkey, probably planning to move to Germany. He moved out a couple of months ago. Now, there is a possibility that F will rent an apartment close to mine soon, which could be good. He might get promoted to the best friend position, but I'm not sure yet. He's great and everything, though. Very well educated, respectful, and 3 years older than me medical fellow. We'll see. Maybe I'll move out too. Who knows what the future is hiding for me? However, I still do plan on building a new social circle from scratch. Cuz I didn't choose any of my past friendships, they all just kinda happened. Maybe I'll just keep F and get in touch with a few of the ones that I've ghosted, and some of the ones that I used to go to primary school with. But mainly, I will be meeting new people from workshops, seminars, volunteering, and things like that. But first things first, I need to get my financial situation in order before everything else. Still number one on my list.

Sit. Close your eyes. Observe. AKA, meditation.

Silence is the highest teaching

@Raptorsin7 Whatever dude. I was just trying to get you to see things from my pov. I consider myself to be very unbiased and impartial, and I thought you might benefit from some of that. Good luck.

It's not the responsibility of the teacher to force understanding into their students' minds. It's not even possible to do that. They can try, but there are no guarantees. I tried teaching (not spirituality, just regular school stuff) for a little while, and I was frustrated by some students and their ability to learn, but maybe we simply were not compatible. Maybe another teacher would have known a way to teach them better. Also how would you know he was aware of anything that's going on inside your bubble? Maybe that's just a delusional thought that you'd had back then. Typically, a teacher is more like a robot that has ready-made answers for everyone and a book that he sticks to and derives his understanding from. In the case of enlightenment teachers, I suppose they mostly have their own experiences coupled with the most advanced teachings that they know, so that's what they use to guide their students. I think Nahm specifically derives most of his understanding from ACIM. His insights sound like they all have that flavor. You should not. Know your responsibilities.

Sorry dude, but it's 100% your fault. You can't blame others for your naivety and immaturity. I'm not a fan of Nahm to be honest. I even left his forum on bad terms. But your story is not a story of a charlatan preying on an innocent victim. He did not force you into anything. You did everything willingly. And you could have stopped talking to him when he started charging money. You had the choice, and you simply chose to continue. It's your decision, take responsibility and stop playing the victim. Or don't. Just my 2 cents.

Plot twist: Rumi was just another Nahm.

Deep friendship is different from a strong friendship. The former consists of highly developed people getting together, sharing ideas, having a similar vision, building towards a better future, etc. While the latter is a fantasy that people with unresolved childhood trauma are obsessed with.

I don't believe in personality types and that kind of thing, but I would like to have the ability and skill to connect with everyone. I don't know if it's me or you, but you certainly are a hard one to understand. It would be great if you could give some directions and general guidelines on how other people should be interacting with your species.

There are levels of consciousness. Even considering your definition, that imply levels of some sort. But in reality there are levels of consciousness as in actually higher and lower. It's hard to come up with a map for them because the levels are infinite in both directions, and because the subjective factor plays a big role, so there's always a bias at play and there's never really an accurate picture. It's both similar to and different from -- at the same time -- levels of skill; If you're a skilled surgeon who has a lot of knowledge and experience, then it is absolutely correct to say that you possess higher medical consciousness, or in other words that you are medically higher consciousness, compared to a noob surgeon, or just an ordinary person, or a cat, or a germ. On the other hand, this example is different from spiritual levels of consciousness because you can actually measure and prove who has higher consciousness in medical knowledge and experience. It's a lot harder to do the same with spiritual attainments, and basically the best judge that could be is the judge of oneself. It becomes more speculative once it gets out to assess another person's level/attainments. The reason why there are levels of consciousness is because consciousness is not only one, but also dual. Duality means distinction, and the consciousness that can see more distinctions is practically the higher consciousness. What's even higher than that is a consciousness that can also collapse those distinctions and return back to non-duality. Typically, a seeker is higher consciousness than a completely asleep person. And a guru is higher consciousness than a seeker. But a seeking guru is higher consciousness than everyone else.

I'm not sure how this kind of therapy looks like, but it sounds like aided spiritual practice. In other words, it seems like scientified spirituality with similar foundations and goals to spiritual practice.

Looks like a troll.

Evil is not only a necessity, it's also God's creation. God creates evil by fighting it. The whole premise of "being good" hinges upon having the identity and inclination to fight evil wherever it might be. In that sense, "good" people are the source of all evil, and it is precisely because they don't realize that that they keep creating more evil unknowingly and unwillingly. There would literally be no evil without those "good" people imagining it into existence, fighting it off and denying that they are. God is literally the biggest devil. That is one super delicious strange-loop! As well, goodness is something that "evil" people imagine by projecting their selfish agendas onto the world. The lesser Jihad. It's just nice to have clarity.

Then, I would likewise suggest another solution, which is for her to accept him as he is and have sex regardless of his porn consumption.

This is a common narcissistic tactic. It's called the double-bind. Heads I win, tails you lose.

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