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Still in 2023?!!? ???

Interesting! Generally, I'm not shy and can even be quite charismatic with people and be very talkative. Though, I also am dealing with some shame and guilt due to specific life circumstances. This means that I'd rather like to avoid certain topics of conversation and I can also hold myself back from talking to specific people when I think it's likely these conversation topics will come up.

Not for me, I rarely ever cry. I'm more likely to cry when watching a cute kitten or puppies video. Though in some demonstration videos I've seen that some people do cry a lot when they use the technique while thinking about events in their childhood. I might get watery eyes when I think back to a few incidents in the past, but usually not more. It's more like during the tapping I feel the exact emotion I want to work on, mostly anxiety, feelings of inadequacy, anger, stress and similar things. But then it also feels like this emotion gets defused, so it doesn't bother me anymore and overall the entire pattern is weakened in the long-term and at some point gone. Especially anger is an interesting example. You know it when something triggered you and then you could rage about it? It's so addictive to think aggressive thoughts. If I'm experiencing this I simply think my rage thoughts while using the tapping technique and then I can let go of it.

Interesting. So you made your own recordings with your voice or you found some super specific professional recordings? Yeah, I'm noticing that moving my eyes also creates a little bit of tension. Even thinking my thoughts with my inner voice does that.

@flowboy somehow my post got screwed up, so I hope you can still work with how it looks like now ? Yep. That's why I'm always like "gooosh, I thought this was it and now there's more again ?" 5 minutes ago, flowboy said: It tends to go in the order of: later childhood stuff, early childhood stuff, birth. But not always. I personally know people whose birth trauma was so intense, that they started having reliving experiences right at the beginning. Complete with their body reproducing the fluids in their nose that they were choking on, and the intense heart rate and body temperature. It's a physiological memory. Here's a video of someone having such an experience, under guidance of her husband: Me: Mind-blowing stuff. Our psyche and body are a mysterious miracle... 7 minutes ago, flowboy said: That's awesome, what techniques are you using? Me: I use emotional freedom techniques (tapping), which is what works best for me from the things I've tried. I also tried things like, well hypnotherapy, self-hypnosis and meditation in which you aim to reprogram the subconscious mind. These approaches in which you try to put something positive in your subconscious mind are fun and also beneficial for overall mood and stress levels, though they often didn't remove the traumatic things, it's more like you put something positive in your mind that kind of competes with the negative stuff. But EFT has shown to be much more effective for "deleting" things if you will. 13 minutes ago, flowboy said: I'm currently reading an account of hypnotherapy being used in combination with trauma work. This particular case was in 1851, where over a period of 11 months someone was cured of their psychosis. What they did was bring her under hypnosis, question her about the memories that still bothered her, and she'd be able to talk about them. Then she would need to go out of hypnosis in order to relive them. (because under hypnosis, conscious integration can't happen) I don't know too much about hypnosis, it seems there are many levels of it, and there's a particular level where some sort of intelligent self-diagnostic consciousness is activated and can be talked to, which knows exactly which steps need to be taken in order to heal. Me: That's all such fascinating stuff. And yes, it seems incredibly complex. Like its own world to get lost in.

Yeah, that's what I assumed too. Also, I even have a health condition with the underlying main dysfunction called "maladaptive stress response". That's when a state of stress has become the new default, which is the result of many years of chronic stress and trauma. Interestingly, when I recently had a psychedelic experience I meditated in the beginning and was still aware of that same jaw tension. Some time later, when the trip had gotten considerably deeper, I was sitting in some chair and then entered into the most relaxed state of all times. Even though my sitting position was kind of awkward (unideal posture) there was absolutely no tension left anywhere in my body, the jaw was as loose as a chewing gum, the tongue just resting on the bottom of the mouth. I didn't even know it was possible to be so relaxed.

@flowboy That's damn interesting. I'll definitely put the book on my "interesting books list" ? So we overcome our trauma backwards, starting from latest and going to earliest? I mean, I'm already working on overcoming emotions of traumatic genesis anyway and I'm making good progress, it still takes quite some time though. These traumas are things I can still remember very well though, from teenage years to adult age. Aren't these very early traumas also supposed to be revealed when you do hypnotherapy? I've had many hypnotherapy sessions, but never anything traumatic from early childhood came up, in fact, not even anything I didn't know already.

@Cathal Interesting! I'm actually trying to make all of my emotional baggage as conscious as possible and work through all of it. Though I could still see how it might be some mechanism of the body to reduce or cope with stress or maybe trauma that hasn't been processed yet. I could be completely wrong about that too, maybe it's just some random behaviour the nervous system has learnt and made into a habit. I can only say that I'm not "doing" this (kind of like I'm not doing my heartbeat) but still can repeatedly undo it when the muscles created the tension again. We'll see...

So you mean you repeated the loosening of the tension over and over again and then it got less? What a privilege it is to have the forum, isn't it? ? True! I just noticed a bit of tension in the jaw even now while I'm not meditating. I'm wondering if it might be some mechanism of the body to reduce stress...

@Leo Gura good points. I think you and the mods indeed have to still become a little bit stricter. Some individuals really only learn it the hard way that (even in the Internet) there are rules for how you communicate with others. If everybody asked themselves "is my comment adding value or is it creating/exacerbating the drama?" the majority of ego wars could be avoided.

Sounds like great news!

Too contrived. Too much pointing out that it's awkward and weird. Make it completely spontaneous like it just hit you "damn...you have the most badass look ever" "oh wow, that shirt is fire! There's no way you could be boring, Hi I'm...." Why all this lying and putting her so much on the pedestal? Just say "you have the most Bangladesh look ever! I just had to say hello to you Hi, I'm [name], who are you?" Why? WHY? WHY? WHY? Why all of this hiding intention, inventing some event that's not true, to then put her so much on the pedestal ("shook my world")? "Hey, you look intriguing, so I guess I had to say hi". Again the pedestal thing. You are such a foregone conclusion. NOOOOOOOOO!!!!! Just no. Everything is wrong about this opener. But if any of these openers help you to open at all, then still use them (except for nr. 5 please). Just know that they're not ideal.

If I consider that Leo's 3 hour video wasn't enough to persuade you then probably whatever I say about the matter won't persuade you either. That's why I typically can't be bothered anymore to try to convince people of something when they've already proven to be very rigid with their views, it usually just doesn't go anywhere. But when someone's character is so shitty then the overall net impact he's gonna have is still negative. It's like if I tried to defend Hitler because he had some remarkable traits. You know, Hitler had a big vision, he knew what he wanted and was very dedicated to achieve his goals. He was charismatic and intelligent. Isn't that inspiring? He just wanted to rule the world no matter what the cost would be. What a masculine alpha badass he must have been. Why do we demonize Hitler then? Can you not learn a thing or two from Hitler? Well, because when someone has such bad intentions and character (from the rest of the world's pov) then he's just still a horrible role model. You can learn the same lessons from less dangerous, less sociopathic people and that's why there's no need to learn from him. Not to mention the high risk of getting your mind infected with toxic ideas. These ideas sneak past the goalkeeper of your mind maybe because they're mixed together with a bunch of decent ideas/paradigms. And if you're as immature and impressionable as the typical A. Tate follower you won't even be able to recognize the toxicity in some of his ideas/attitudes/paradigms, so on net you will be more damaged than improved and any improvement you do get from listening to A. Tate you could have gotten elsewhere.

@bloomer but why should now anyone try to change your mind? Just keep liking him if you want.

@Patrick_9931 thanks for sharing! @Kamo ok, thx to you too!

I think that it's not an Andrew Tate problem, but a augisltucia problem (not attack here though). It's about your fears and insecurities as a man. If you have a sense of inadequacy regarding your manhood or masculinity, then anything can trigger you and make you feel like you lack X or need more of Y to become attractive to girls. And surely, if you haven't developed your masculinity and haven't build any attraction skills then there is still something for you to be learnt in order to improve your results with women. But you don't need Andrew Tate for this. Watch Leo's videos on getting laid, watch his A. Tate video, maybe get some course on attraction or at least a book and work on your skills and inner game. You don't need to be rich to get girls, you need to be more social and overcome your fears. One more thing: it is possible that your ex got attracted to that guy based on his changed behaviours influenced by A. Tate, but that's still not a good reason to follow Tate, simply because there are better, healthier teachers/theory you can consume. It probably would also imply that your ex might have been immature, insecure and poorly developed, because obviously manipulation and sort of primitive, "macho" type of masculinity works best with this type of girl. You don't need her. Develop yourself and go find great girls.

@Zedman I'm not entirely sure what you mean and what your exact intention is, but I'm still gonna add my two cents. If you're asking "do the thoughts I speak with my internal voice affect the programming of my subconscious mind?" the answer is "yes, to an extent, but how much they affect your subconscious programming depends on how you think your thoughts and what is already programmed into the subconscious mind". It's like this: the more deeply something is programmed into your subconscious the more effort you have to put into it to program in something else to replace that old program. If you had a deeply rooted longterm limiting belief like "I'm not good at anything" stored in your subconscious it might not be enough to just sporadically tell yourself (or write down) "I am good at many things" to reprogram your subconscious because the limiting belief is too strong and rigid. In this case you'd probably have to challenge the belief in various ways and e.g. speak affirmations with a lot of energy or visualize the positive opposite of the negative belief. Or you might want to use modalities like hypnosis. In some cases you might have to release some specific childhood trauma to release such a belief etc. When the belief is old and strong whatever you do to overcome it must carry a lot of emotional energy/impact to unwire that limiting belief, because the limiting belief itself also has a strong emotional load. I hope this helps.

@Patrick_9931 cool! How much did you take and was it pure cristalline mdma? Did/do you experience a down after the experience? (They say that mdma depletes the serotonine stores of the brain which can lead to depressed states in the days after an mdma experience).

Good. That's why at some point you just tell her the facts. "So you mentioned you have a boyfriend...I thought I'd let you know that nothing sexual is gonna happen between you and me for as long as you're still in a relationship. Though, if you're happy and don't intend to end your relationship any time soon, there's also no point in the two of us meeting up more times...so you'll have to contemplate what you want."

These are some amazing powerful and Inspirational instrumental tracks. I have them in my meditation playlist and they play after a calm part (meditation background music) when I've transitioned to visualising perfect health, happiness, freedom and so on. Apart from that I like mystical sounding meditation background music and also binaural beats. Here I like the music from "binaural beats meditation" (e.g. Kundalini Awakening, deep meditation, lucid dreaming) and as "pure" meditation background music I like the tracks from Barry Goldstein, especially "the infinite" "a voyage into cosmic consciousness" and "the heart codes". This music is inspiring but calm.

Looks like mastery to me.

@Vlad_ Sounds like amazing insights. Congrats for this trip and may you further heal in "the future" ?

@Tyler Robinson Honestly this sounds like the most terrible psychologist I've ever heard of. Realize that her issues are probably more severe than yours and that's why she's such an unempathetic bitch. This might be also be why she chose to become a psychologist to begin with. So she could treat her own issues. Don't take her seriously. Seek another psychologist. There are much better ones. You can get good help.

@Leo Gura Leo I wish you a great 23!!! You're me!!! Love ya!!!!

@Unlimited Amazing! Congratulations for your awakening! So this is also the first report of 1D-LSD I've seen. Seems like the substance is perfectly fine, no issues whatsoever right? The difficulties you described were just due to high dosage I'd assume, weren't they? Anyway, enjoy your new levels of consciousness! ?