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If you search "going out alone" in YouTube you find many videos on that. It's not nearly as impossible as it might seem. I don't know how big your city is. But in many cities you can find Facebook groups for certain activities, like "new people in [whatever city], meet up groups for speaking a certain language etc. Maybe you want to consider a new hobby where you would naturally meet new people. Like language learning courses, learning to dance salsa (you'll never regret having learnt that dance, it's amazing to meet girls), going to the gym. And doing "cold approach", at day or night. If you do this at night you can certainly just chat up some people. There's no need to flirt or anything. You must learn to just start more conversations wherever you are. It doesn't matter exactly what you do. People are everywhere.

Ok, cool! Thanks!

From your posts I get that same impression. It's hard to develop a high level of abundance if there is no abundance But of course it won't hurt if you just keep going and work on the details and then try out other cities once you have the opportunity to do so. How do you use your looks to your advantage? That sounds interesting! Sure. It really is about actual abundance. Funny how these same basic principles apply at every level Haha, I love it. I really had to laugh out loud when I read this. That frame is amazing. She's trying way too hard, lol. Yes, it would probably be considered rude, but I feel like the girls we're talking here find it rude when you're too friendly and ass-kissing with them and love it when someone is edgy. I'd still like to see the shift of facial expressions after saying that line, the pure disbelief and maybe a bit of apologetic-ness haha. You're welcome. I enjoyed this thread a lot too! Exactly. I think you got this. Pursuing my life purpose of helping others to improve themselves, I want to become a coach at some point. Reach a maximum level of emotional freedom. Reach a maximum level of health (currently dealing with some health struggles). Having a balanced life style of work, fitness, personal development and spirituality, meditation, dating, friends, sometimes traveling, maybe learning more or improving languages I already speak, starting experimenting with psychedelics. In dating I first want to reach a high skill level, hard to define how high but probably what you'd consider "advanced" and just be casually dating for some time. Then, when I'm sick of that, I could see myself in a long-term relationship with some amazing girl. Ok, that was a really cool exchange. I wish you the best for your goals!

Maybe dumb means silly? Like when you let loose and do some silly things, maybe putting your pinky finger in her nostril or something like that? ? This might be what others refer to as self amusement.

@Hardkill I think Todd shouldn't have done this, nor should he have included it in some program. I don't think he was desperate, he simply refused to accept the rejection, for demonstration purposes, but again that's not ok. On the other hand the clip is completely taken out of context. Have you watched Todd's reaction to it? I just hope nobody uses content like this to further limit themselves with "approaching girls is so awkward" or similar BS.

So if one does the standing overhead press and the bench press there is less likelihood of causing rotator cuff issues? If so, why is that? You think doing dumbbell shoulder press instead of the overhead press is also fine?

Just try it out. I don't think it hurts your chances, especially when you jerk off the day before going out. You'll probably still feel more than enough desire as soon as you see an attractive girl. I think desire can even become too much, like when you're super horny when going out you might start to act too desperate and maybe supplicate instead of being the guy for the whom she has to work a little bit.

I've been wondering this because since I know that self help and personal development exist I have definitely achieved great improvements for myself but I'm also realising that at the same time I have simply raised my standards for what is good enough and when I'm achieving etc. So basically when before self help I would have been ok with slightly above average results, now, because I have all this knowledge I need exceptional results. Earlier I probably would have been ok with a cute girlfriend, now the girls must be amazing. Earlier I would have been ok with a normal job, now I'm gonna "have to" become a successful entrepreneur or something like that. Earlier I would have been ok with a reasonable level of confidence, now I'm striving for James Bond level confidence, and so on and so forth... From what I've heard spirituality is what's supposed to help you solve this problem, but even here I'm wondering if I'm not just gonna be chasing more awakenings and still deeper awakenings and enlightenment etc. So what's your take on all of this?

Hey man, I didn't mean to be a dick. I just wanted to loosen things up a little bit with a "spirituality joke". You know, I'm self-amusing sometimes. I think it's cool that we can talk about personal development and spirituality etc with a somewhat serious attitude, like analyzing, understanding etc. but then sometimes I just like to enjoy a little bit of "meta-humor" about all of this stuff, you know what I mean? So thanks for your posts.

There is a self?

Talk to 300 hot girls.

I was gonna ask about this. If he has a really good friend then maybe you first wanna have a discussion with him and tell him all your worries, maybe then he will talk with your brother. Yeah. Here I'm a bit concerned about the 2on1 kind of conversation. It's one thing to open up to just one person, it's a different thing to open up in front of 2 people, the perceived pressure and potential shame is higher in the latter scenario.

Am I understanding this correctly, all of you still live in the same house, so you see him daily? Anyway, the first issue here is how do you get him to have any kind of meaningful conversation with you at all? This won't be too easy judging by your post. Anyway a few things come to my mind. Given the stuff you said about him and his relationships (or lack thereof) with girls I'm gonna have to assume that there is some major major issue here. He might be seriously wounded or potentially traumatized in some way. For guys if the girls' department isn't handled this can mess with us big time, make us feel like a loser etc. I'm saying this because you better believe that your brother is probably gonna feel extremely vulnerable and ashamed and potentially judged for whatever it is that could be revealed to you or others. This is super sensitive stuff. If you can't even really access him as in start a conversation with him then there's only one solution I could think of. Maybe you want to write him a message, either on paper (basically like a letter) or in whatever digital kind of communication you're typically using and communicate a few things to him. If you indeed do this, then I believe it's very important to include a few things. You must make him understand that you truly love him (as a brother) and care about him. You must tell him that no matter what kind of issue he may be dealing with, that you would not ever judge him, no matter what he reveals (remember: he's probably feeling very vulnerable about his problems). Make him understand that you'd truly like to help him, for his own sake. Make him understand that you wouldn't ever want to lose him. Let him know that whatever is troubling him, you'd be there to listen and help. Maybe you even want to mention these positive memories you two share in common, to emphasize you truly care about him. You could basically explain everything that makes you worried regarding your brother, but be careful to not sound moralising or judgemental, just describe how it makes you feel as a sister to see him in this state/condition.

@softlyblossoming Holy shit bro. I hadn't even seen that you replied 2 more times here (I don't have notifications for when someone mentions my username switched on). Sorry for not replying. You dropped a few more value bombs man! As I'm tired now I'm not gonna reply to specific points now, but when I'm fresh again I can surely pm you regarding the 1 or 2 questions you asked somewhere. Keep up the good vibes ??

Just to give you all an idea of how arbitrary this 6ft thing is... As we don't use the foot/inches system but the metric system in Europe, over here the magic number is 180 cm, which is like 5ft 11"... Obviously 6ft was determined because it's just a round number just like 180 cm in Europe. I mean how weird would it be if the height in Europe was 183 cm, which is 6ft or how weird would it be if it was 5'11" in the US?

@Ampresus The harder you try to cum the harder it will become to cum Just make more experiences so you get over your nervousness and you will start to cum more easily every time, so much so that you might start thinking about how you can last longer and not cum so fast!

Generally speaking yes. It can be effective to overcome fears, insecurities. But you must (obviously) collaborate with the therapist as in confronting your fears, changing behaviours etc. I don't believe though that it's very effective for dealing with severe trauma, here CBT is limited.

There was never a big group called "manosphere". This is just an artificial consolidation of several groups that consist of man, and it's usually done by opposing groups like e.g. feminists. The manosphere can include all kinds of groups like e.g. men's rights activists, PUAs, incels, red pillers, black pillers, Mgtow etc. It helps the opposing groups to attack and strawman whichever group is in question. E.g. an argument might be: pick up artists are part of the manosphere (even though they themselves never claimed to be part of some group called manosphere), incels are also part of the manosphere. There was some shooting in a university where 6 people were killed by somebody who consumed incel ideology, so now we conclude this: PUA = manosphere incel = manosphere incel = homicidal maniac PUA = potential homicidal maniac So amongst other things the term serves to villainize members of a certain community more easily by forming associations with other groups etc. It also serves the egos of members of opposing groups, because they can just simplify things by saying "aahhh wait, so they are a part of the manosphere, right?! ok, then we know what's up"

Which part of my post indicated to you that I concur?

Ok. Thanks for sharing your views on these things.

For sure. But wouldn't you say that this is just as true for these other pursuits like attaing status, being well connected, making lots of money, having an amazing life style. Will most guys (you try) attain that?

@Migue Lonas So what are your conclusions by now?

How did you arrive at the conclusion that most guys who do pick up for five years do not get good game (no offense here, just pure curiosity)?

That's what I thought lol Maybe he should just get a job in sales haha

https://youtu.be/bmav517MQJc Regarding the necessity of a great career or a lot of money to pick up girls, just watch this...