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@Tearos It probably depends a little. It can be done in a way that is pretty much harmless for you, if you have the right mindset. The other person might end up with a heart break though (in some cases). Some people get attached and then can't deal with it if the other person doesn't want commitment. I think there's no way to avoid heart break completely, you can only minimize the damage.

I don't know. Anyway, I should have added that this only applies to pure masturbation without porn. Porn is a different thing and masturbation + porn does indeed affect in me in weird ways that I can't control (and trust me I've tried to control it). After porn masturbation I can feel unworthy, insecure and just weirdly limited, no idea what that is. So, if you've been masturbating with porn, cut that out, just use your imagination.

@Someone here On top of feeling relaxed (which I voted for) I also feel satisfied, well-balanced, maybe confident (in a sexual way).

This is so funny, lol.

Find a hot guy, that will make things spicey. Depends on the mood. It could be kinda dirty like "ahh I love how you lick my little pussy" or just "yeah, that feels good". If you want to be a naughty girl then you can say things like "are you gonna take (or f**k) me from behind?! ?" or similar things. Maybe tell him that you were naughty/had naughty thoughts/misbehaved or something similar and that therefore you need to get your ass spanked ?

I love this dude ? It's just so hilariously uncomfortable what he does ?

Man how could I forget about Final Fantasy X?! That was truly a masterpiece!

"B-b-b-But it's because this guy is so tall?!?!!!! I would have gotten rejected ?????"

@Kksd74628 Yeah that video is really funny too. "Hey you a Milf, is that cool if I grab ya number?"

Your wise words will be remembered for millennia! Thanks! ?

It used to be counter strike (mostly source, sometimes 1.6).

I really wonder what the thought process for creating such a character must be like ? Like "hmm...how about some guy who's got ants in the eyes and who's insensitive to touch...yeah, right "

You just keep having conversations with her and befriend her. I think it's the better strategy to see if you can do social activities with her, maybe even go out with her. Just use this as an opportunity to desensitize to hot girls. You don't need to have sex with her. Actually I don't know if you want to take this risk, if then the two of you don't get along then you're stuck with her in your apartment. I'd rather socialize with her and then maybe one night you'll get home together and are both horny and fuck, but that's just a "it just happened thing", you don't need to force that. Just keep meeting new people and practice talking to hot girls with her.

@Fernanda Sounds like a guy who plays "hard to get" mixed with some other manipulation strategies. Like, "I'll fuck her, but tell her there's no chemistry, so she starts to doubt herself and chases me even more". I could be wrong, but it sounds like he's just trying to keep you on your toes. Having sex (making you attached) but telling you he's not really into you (make you work harder/chase). Or maybe he's just really weird and does this for other reasons, anyway it sounds like a guy you should avoid.

This definitely sounds like you do care too much ? Not fully yet, but I'm getting there. You have to put yourself out there. Expand your comfort zone, overcome trauma, limiting beliefs and emotions. Everything that is talked here on the forum is supposed to get you closer to not caring about other people's opinions anymore. But to be more specific you could devide this "not caring what others think" in two categories of strategies, the inner work and the outer work. Outer work includes things like comfort zone challenges, desensitizing yourself = progressive desensitisation and/or confrontation (do the things that are uncomfortable while embracing the uncomfortable emotions), learning social skills like quick-wittedness, humor, frame control, free association etc. Inner work is the stuff you do at home, where you actively work on your emotions, do emotional releases, maybe self-hypnosis, affirmations, visualizing. I like to use EFT/tapping, others here do shadow work. Some people have techniques to ground yourself/your emotions (the fearless man, sometimes mentioned in this section). You need to know what limits you, your inner demons or negative programs (social conditioning), your limiting beliefs and corresponding emotions. When you know what you're dealing with you can apply the inner work and outer work techniques in a purposeful way.

Yeah, I mean this is a core concept of attraction. You must be coming from abundance (or create abundance). The more options you have the more carefree you can be with each individual girl.

Yeah, this is kind of what attraction theory says about the subject. "Look like you don't have an agenda" etc. Can you understand how this can be confusing for guys? Like they're supposed to initiate and lead, escalate, but also to look like they're not even trying, have no agenda, no sexual interest etc. This can make it really hard, especially because there often is no other option than to open her directly. I would still recommend guys to do direct openers a lot of the time. This can still be mixed with "just having fun", like out of the fun mode you just quickly say "hello" to some girl and pull her in and then do some silly dancing and singing and then talk a little etc.

@Closed Sure, I've seen him before. Doesn't seem like someone to follow for me. This is about as stage orange as it can get.

I don't really think this applies here. He's just capitalising on his good options due to popularity (using status for dating purposes), which I think is fine, he'd be dumb if he didn't do it. Doesn't seem like the desperate guy who messages hundreds of girls on some platform.

Ehm...Selective focus and confirmation bias?! ?

Leo? Me no understand ?

It's very naughty! ?

What do you mean by that? Like his success does not add to his value as man? Because in the perception of a lot of people it would actually add value if someone is successful. Or did you mean if he pursues the girl, because you called it "social trophy on his checklist"?

Sure. Trying is definitely worth it. There's nothing bad that can happen, except maybe getting your ego crushed ? Of course. But once the guy knows how good the cookies taste, he's more likely to buy the cookies. But you must be convincing in other ways too ofc, like being someone who is fun being around.

Yeah, at least a little bit. It must become clear to the girl you have a penis. It depends on the girl too. With some you can escalate fast, with others slowly.