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Anyways you guys are from different backgrounds ,different life circumstances and different results . I hope that you all make the most of your lives. Love you - people who took time to interact with me in a kind manner . ❤️

@Inliytened1 I think that we all are equal and are as good ,as bad as each other. Nobody is superior ,nobody is inferior - if someone thinks it based on his external results then that person is deluding himself .

@yetineti Ok thank you. I just honestly felt a little bit hurt from the fact that I attacked him a bit. Yup vulnerability is important. I just wanted to know his perspective and that's it . After all vulnerability is honestly expressing oneself despite feeling initial fear. And I can tell you right now that by typing this message to you on phone I am feeling nervousness but acting despite it .- Also I have noticed this is the single bottleneck that has the potential to improve my results. By the way @yetineti have you read Models by Mark Manson. I assume you have read it. I respect you too. ❤️

@LordFall Ok but how do you overcome your approach anxiety ? I mean what I have found is that taking action despite anxiety surprises me about my potential. I mean one day at work - basically I am into science work and all. So I expressed myself honestly to a girl aka being vulnerable . She scolded me and told me to focus on work. Later the next day she initiated a conversation with me about my career plans , we had multiple joyful conversations . And also like earlier I wasn't practicing vulnerability , I mean I was obsessed ,needy and desperate for getting laid . Which was outcome dependent goal and my results with women sucked more than now ( honestly ) despite approaching .Lately I have been getting increased engagement from females. So could you explain that ? As per work I will be joining at a new workplace. And what I have noticed is that wherever I go some women reject me while some women are receptive to me . 😅

@yetineti Ok but let's just understand this theory and if that fits then ok otherwise we will use another theory . That's all. I stood up for myself and that's enough , we don't need to attack each other. I mean let's create a healthy space on this forum . I don't know about @LordFall personally but we can still learn something from his advice and theory . Let's see.

@LordFall Ok sorry if I misunderstood you but I mean even though I have never been in a relationship expressing myself honestly to women even though I have anxiety has improved my results a bit . It's good that you pointed something in me. Maybe I must try something different besides vulnerability . So what methods are you using , I'm curious and sorry if you felt bad .

@yetineti Welcome I have even had a physical confrontation with a narcissist in the past and I had beaten the hell out of him. Even my super senior can't save him . I discovered that the narcissist who was a college senior if mine acted realistically towards others but was kind to himself . I mean he was a hypocrit.

@LordFall Oh really a lot of assumptions . People like you obsessed over getting laid and treating others immaturely is a sign of foolishness . I know you don't give a F-- because you are indeed a narcissist and as per your narcissism only immature women will like you . That doesn't generate results it generates hatred . Also remember one thing. And it matters what I have been through . If you don't appreciate don't comment on my posts. I am better off without you and people like you.

@LordFall Isn't life already brutal and trying to make it easy leads to a more harder life rather than accepting the discomfort of life then taking action anyway. You don't know me personally dude ,leave apart the challenges I have faced and currently face . A part of training is also to challenge your own assumptions about people so that your advice doesn't add to someone else's distress . You can lead the horse to the pond but you can't make it drink water if you kick it you can't even lead it to the pond it will rebel. Try this - Before being harsh on anyone and making any judgement remind yourself that you don't know what the other person has been through . Sorry dude I hate your way of talking . You are practicing pseudo -skepticism.

@Inliytened1 Ok . 👍

@Inliytened1 He is good but at times he is brutal. Ok great you two get along after a bit of standoff.

@Inliytened1 Ok 😂.

@Inliytened1 Sorry I didn't understood your full message .

Yup me . I have done more than 60 cold approaches in the past 3 years. Even few women have approached me .

Man I mean I must be underestimating my happiness by comparing to the excitement of other couples after they get into a relationship. 😉Gotta take a happiness test quiz.

If that's the case then I apologize to @Natasha Tori Maru even if I didn't create the thread.

How's your experience of singlehood compared to your relationship experience. I mean mentally.

@LordFall Nope I don't want to fall for toxic ideologies .

@Inliytened1 I don't know about future but I have been alone in the past and haven't felt the need for having a girlfriend sitting beside me I mean I was just jealous of other people having relationships but now as per my perspective I have realized these 2 truths- Going into a relationship to fix loneliness is a terrible idea.( After I came to know that people go into relationship to fix loneliness) Secondly - Those who walk alone are strong while those who walk with others are weak.

@Inliytened1 Being alone is good. Many people run away for it. Man, I have remained single my entire life .

I would rather dare to challenge that assumption. Why many people settle in lon term marriages ? Why many men stay single ? These are questions worth contemplating.

@Inliytened1 So you transitioned from quantity to quality. That's great.

@Joseph Maynor Yup and also I would suggest that one thing which is very counterintuitive that can resolve this problem to a large extent - Acting despite feeling fear/anxiety.

@Inliytened1 Great . Men must be authentic with other men first and that gives confidence which bleeds to other areas of life including dating ,career etc. Domain specific confidence leads to border confidence. No the other way around . I think that's what you want to convey ,right ?

@Inliytened1 I appreciate your efforts man. Even I don't know you personally and you are years elder than me by looking at your profile . But yeah your working for a better cause . I mean your work has the potential for cleaning up the forum for the better . Just ensure that everything revolves around honest ,transparent communication.👍