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@Leo Gura Then it's mind boggling why most people spend their time watching YouTube shorts or instagram reels . In college my friends used to make fun of me by reading philosophy books , self-help books , watching videos. But they were a little surprised when they came to know that I meditate for 20 minutes and they also made fun of my insights which I came to when I contemplated.

@Leo Gura I am grateful that I made an investment for myself by doing self-help which later transitioned into a philosopher's life. By the way-- What are your views on how ancient Eastern philosophers lived ? As per suffering Leo the most advanced stuff Self- help has taught me to accept suffering and see it as temporary as happiness.

@Leo Gura Contemplated for 2 years but then got sidetracked. Now I have began my contemplation journey again.

It is one of the most powerful tools to direct yourself to truth. I was contemplating -- How do I get a girlfriend ? And the answers came to my mind were:- It doesn't matter weather I am in a relationship or not(I was bombarded with this first insight by my mind over and over ) By talking to girls Thanks.

@EternalForest Thanks. I will try to contemplate more different questions in the future.

I sat down 30 minutes contemplating this question-- How do I reduce my suffering due to external circumstances? Answers - .By realising that they fluctuate like switch . By realising that they are just in my mind . By realising that other's actions, words, attitude towards me is reflection of their own thoughts . By realising that other's are not within my control . By realising that I am imagining external circumstances . By realising that in the far future I won't look back at them . By realising that external circumstances doesn't mean anything . By realising that suffering due to it is temporary

@Ulax Thanks.

@Human Mint Thanks.

@Leo Gura But what about acceptance of suffering ? I noticed many times that when I accept it I begin to smile no matter how much I am in emotional pain. I used to have a fantasy that positive psychology will cure my pain but as soon as I discovered acceptance of suffering via Acceptance and commitment therapy-- I began to engage with pain How to overcome the challenge of people disrespecting you and being haunted by the past ?

@Leo Gura I have one question -- How to find peace amidst emotional suffering ? Regarding this I have noticed that accepting it reduces the amount of suffering. Also when I took a perspective regarding the inevitable nature of suffering I noticed myself smiling once while suffering this morning. And am unrelated question --According to you which spiral stage does Martin Seligman belongs ?

Hope you live happily with what will come in the unknown future.

How do I act in my life? Insight : According to my rational thoughts which don't feel hurting but neutral.

Before acting in a given situation , is it a sign of intelligence to first be present then think through and then act ? or just thinking through and acting is intelligence ?

@Leo Gura Honestly speaking I am thinking of restarting my contemplation. So sitting in a room with a diary and writing at top the following questions : 1.What is success ? 2. How do I become successful ? 3. How do I stop chasing success desparately ? 4. How do I improve in the things that I do ? And thinking through each of these on my own or using direct experience for each of these ? Another good episodes of your are: How to contemplate using a journal. The power of asking questions.

@Leo Gura And the remaining 5%? 😂

@Leo Gura Your episode -- What is actuality ? pulled me out of intense suffering in 2018 December. Thanks.

@Leo Gura Yeah action is important in every domain of life. Otherwise thoughts remain just mental gymnastics. Even in career massive action is important.

NoSelfSelf abused me few months ago. Here is the screenshot of whole conversation. I once started talking to him about game so that he could help me. However, regarding his approach to game it felt like narcissism. Thanks.

@Hojo Thanks. It's great advice.

@Leo Gura No difference. Thanks.

@Leo Gura Ok. Did you mean it for being present or for meditation ? As per meditation I am already meditating since, 5 years.

@Leo Gura Right now I listened to one of his YouTube videos and he said that to be present we must be aware of surroundings rather than interpreting them.

@Leo Gura What about reading books like Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and What the Buddha taught by Walpola Rahula ? Is reading them a waste of time ? But they have helped me. By the way I am struggling to remain in the present moment which is sabotaging my tranquility. Could you give advice to me of how to stay present even though thinking is important ?

Guys, maybe I'm wrong. He tried to help me. If anyone is feeling bad due to my post then I'm sorry.

@Chadders Thanks.