Rishabh R

I bought read the book Subtle art of not giving a ____ and I want to live out it's values : The values are : Radical responsibility: I am responsible for everything that happens in my life regardless of who is at fault Uncertainty and not knowing: Questioning beliefs,thoughts,assumptions Failure : willing to see one's mistakes and flaws Rejection through commitment to a particular career, place or person Contemplation of mortality Thank you

@Leo Gura merry Christmas.

@Leo Gura haha you typed good mistakenly two times😂. However , I must learn from my failures by asking the question that What can I learn from my failures? And writing answers in my diary.Like this

@Leo Gura ok but those values in the book resonated with me and the best value which resonated with me from you was questioning and curiosity. I daily sit and contemplate a question . Thank you

@Leo Gura my interests - the answer to the question. Also you gave similar values in your videos like questioning and not knowing,responsibility, learning from failures. Yes radical honesty was also a value which is honesty to oneself ( in most cases I don't know). By the way how can I learn from failures - Is questioning , What can I learn from my failures the key ?(I was contemplating it yesterday)

@hyruga that's a good list.

@Leo Gura ok and what do you say on my classmates who have relationships without approaching random strangers and I approached more girls than them. What I did was worth it ? Even now also I am approaching my classmates and those girls are rejecting me calling me brother and later committing to some other guy. How do I reframe it ? One of my classmate told me to study and not approach a random stranger because of I do it nobody will save me from getting beaten by their boyfriends?By the way here are my statistics : 2 approaches per week in since last 6 months (girls who are my classmates).And continuing. 58 approaches(random stranger girls ) in previous semester which is 6 months .

@Leo Gura thank you but how to handle awkwardness and confrontation, threats etc The looks of disgust on girls face when you approach strangers whom you don't know.Plus insecure people ? You also said that you will do a video on victim mindset in the future. Even I no longer feel like a victim cause I have taken radical responsibility in my life - whatever happens in my experience I am the one responsible for it.

@Leo Gura so the skills gained are handling fear, learning from failures etc.

@Leo Gura So you mean that pursuing to get a relationship is better than having a girlfriend?

When I sat to contemplate the question I realised -By recognising that I am ok. Then I ask why ? - Because I am ok. Then I asked chatgpt it gave an answer that one must do positive self talk, challenge negative thoughts and slowly step out of one's comfort zone. Afterwards I listened to mark manson podcast and he said that confidence is comfort in failure not an expectation in success. It is recognizing that you will not always succeed but it is worth trying anyway . Could @Leo Gura and people help me out ? And also I would like to hear opinion of you'll on Mark Manson as Leo told to listen to more than one teacher I am also listening to Mark Manson besides Leo .

@Thought Art congratulations

I purchased it the third time and it is good. Every time I learn something new from it. Even I bought his two recent books and an another book called Obstacle is the way - by Ryan Holiday.

@Princess Arabia ok thank you.

@Princess Arabia yeah but the mind journey of questioning is beautiful -it's the journey which makes you grow (which Leo showed the path). Awareness is also awesome .

@Princess Arabia ok but by contemplation I mean questioning that- What is the most wisest way to live life ? I have generated more than 150 insights regarding it and written in my diary.Thank you.

Thanks @Leo Gura for improving our lives too even though I need to work more on it.

@NoSelfSelf that is why I do those things which is I mean -doing the work as Leo tells in his videos ( from 2019 December which is 4 years for meditation). Could you suggest me how can I go deeper.

@Princess Arabia to get rid of those lies first one has to question them(that is what contemplation is ) and experience the opposite in life . As far as intention goes I am well aware of the power of intention -it has positive impact on other areas of life too. For example when I was returning from hostel to home in my train I set the intention to read Dating essentials for men by Dr. Robert Glover and by the end of journey I read almost the entire book. In that book it was written to challenge the self limiting beleifs that one has regarding women in dating and then practice one's skill such as testing for interest wether girl and you are interested in interacting or not. Some signs of interest is smiling, holding eye contact and from that conversation flows.

@Princess Arabia yeah absolutely they didn't do all those things but I am doing those things for myself not for a particular girl. Yes , to get a girl one needs a different set of skills which I am developing .

@NoSelfSelf Regular studying habit , daily meditation,contemplation practice,self help practices such as CBT etc and much more things .

@Princess Arabia I was struggling with the idea whether people are the same in the fact that they problems or are they unique . By the way what's 8bill ?

@Leo Gura The game seems ok Have you played BGMI?

Yeah you are right .

@Insignious I thought that I am the one who suffers due to being single and get angry/jealous when I see a couple but didn't realise that others who are dating suffer too. You will find someone who is worth your time after a few setbacks.