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@Leo Guraand guys. Is it Good for me to be hopeful for the future that I will get a girlfriend in the future?As a 21 year old who has been single from a lot of time ,it is paining me as when I come to know that if a girl has a boyfriend.I become extremely jealous of couples. Although from my side taking action is important to attract a quality girl in my life.

Would optimism lead me to become more attractive ?

@Ulax thank you.

Will eye contact work like if I am trying to make eye contact and she is not making it?

Hi @Leo Gura and all. From long time I have struggled with the problem of taking life too seriously. I get angry ,hurt easily when somebody says something to me. I take life and people too seriously. So what is the solution of it? Any books ,videos(especially Leo's videos) recommendation guys?

@Carl-Richard I am hurt by what people say to me as many colleagues of mine have called me inferior from time to time.They say that don't get involved in dating and relationships as you are a child whereas they themselves are getting engaged at early age ,entering into relationships,dating etc.

Hi @Leo Gura and all. So I was contemplating on this topic and came to the following answers . So what are thoughts of you all on it ? .Non seriousness .Past is the only thing which happened to me .Only bad happened to me in the past .I will not fall into a trap .Future dosen't contain beautiful things .There are no upcoming traps .Not questioning assumptions .Traps are the traps .Thinking that everyplace and everything is safe .The thing which we think is good .Falling for vague thinking .Acting out of impulses .Falling for what seems beautiful

Sorry from my side as I am talking about other person's work on @Leo Gura 's forum.I just want to ask that are the books like Fearless Dating,Subtle art of not giving a -- ,Models worth reading along with Mark Manson's YouTube channel ? As I found lot of useful content there and some similarities between his and Leo's work.

Yes and change is already happening as it is evident from your second and third pic.

As 1 year ago I posted about a girl rejecting me then what happened later that her friend called me and threatened me to study and don't do all these things. After a year I messaged my friend to tell her that I was hurt by her and I contacted a senior to tell her that I was hurt by her so he contacted her and told her to talk to me. What followed was her abusing me on WhatsApp and the matter being resolved as I apologised to her as she was defamed due to me in college.Few days later I contacted her friend who threatened me and he abused me and said to stop crying(in fact I was not crying).When he was talking to me he was with his girlfriend She then said me to wait till the college reopens and she will handle me. She even shared the screenshot of his girlfriend calling me juvenile,inferior. Then I blocked that girl whom I initially proposed.I talked to one of my friends who is a girl about this she said that contacting her friend was a immature decision and don't do all these things as you are a child.I argued that I am not a child as I am of their age.So the question is what are reasons that people call me inferior since childhood (I have a childhood trauma associated with it ). I also fear that what will happen further in college.Why people are so tribal?

Thank you for the replies people.

@Leo Gura what is your opinion on this condition of mine ?

@SgtPepper thank you.I was contemplating what is the way out of this situation and one of the answers came that I am good as myself.

@SgtPepper Ya but there is one more thing that I just wanted honestly to communicate to the boy that I was hurt by him but he abused me called me to meet in the college place and that girl whom I initially proposed when I called her she abused me and told me to tell him sorry so I told him sorry as I didn't wanted to provoke him and he said ok.But she told to meet me in college and she wouldn't spare me .By the way I also don't understand myself till now that why do I get jealous of people who are in a relationship.Whenever I hear or see people in relationship it makes me so hurt that I cannot stomach that.

Please guys reply as I need answers at this moment and also am utterly confused ,fearful ,angry,jealous etc.

@Breakingthewall thank you very much.

As mental images of the past run in my mind.I contemplate the above questions and came to the following answers: .By recognising that image in my mind is not the actual event .Image in mind need to be questioned .Mental image needs to be blurred .Recognising that the event was not one sided as I saw it .Recognising that it is normal,ok people have faced it

@Max_V I also feel sad ,angry,depressed,jealous at times but after it passes away I feel again back to normal.And even the happy moments or normal moments are temporary they last for a longer period of time.

Further answers after further contemplating: .It made me stronger .That event has long passed by .For other it was fun .The problem was not with me but other

@ted73104 ok.

@NoN-RaTiOnAL Thank you.By the way I tried therapy and antidepressants it improved to some extent but not much still I face the issue of hitting the imaginary person, sometimes screaming etc.

Hello @Leo Gura and guys. What are the questions by contemplating which I would make the counterintuitive move in almost many situations ?

Hi all. As I am practicing actuality from over an year by day to day by looking at my hand I gained an insight that reality is both real and illusory.Also as I practice it in the dark my hand disappears and also becomes visible.What is it @Leo Gura and guys ?

Hi guys. I have been practicing actuality for over 2 years and when I concentrate on my hand then there appears a spot around the point around which I concentrate.Also like my hand starts to become blurred and at the same time becomes real like interchangeably.Could you all guys tell me what is it?Also the surroundings become blurred and real interchangeably.

@Someone hereYou are facing a problem but the answers to the above posted questions by you can help you to navigate through life as you can contemplate them.