Rishabh R

Hey everyone ,it is difficult to walk the path of personal development . My friends insult Western philosophy like stoicism ,Greek philosophy they say that it is not rational and they insult me for watching these kind of videos. They say that God Krishna (Hinduism )has got a superior philosophy than other philosophies . Whenever They see me reading a self help book they say that to read Bhagavad Gita . I appreciate Indian philosophy like Bhagavad Gita besides Buddhism and Western philosophy .I can say that Bhagavad Gita gives the freedom to believe in any God they betray their own philosophy by misunderstanding other religions. They never watch personal development videos but rather Instagram reels , YouTube shorts etc. Some of my friends who are not in my group and who give me advice to read Bhagavad Gita smokes cigrete while being college students , spend hours watching reels , YouTube shorts, playing video games. Even tough different philosophies talk about different things but the function of these things is to improve one's life isn't it ? They themselves don't read Gita .And psychology has taken a counterintuitive route such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy which integrated Western stoicism to mindfulness of Buddhism ? Recently I ordered a book Tao Te Ching on Amazon Kindle. So guys you can share your thoughts on this.

@Rafael Thundercat nobody I think.

@Rafael Thundercat yeah I must not expose them to my personal development materials.

@thenondualtankie ok.

@Nilsi yeah .

@Nilsi ok.

@Nilsi I understood it a little. One of my friends told me that you are not Oppenheimer and you can't practice philosophy if you are a student of science.

: So I couldn't eat my antidepressants medicine one night. I was suffering (thoughts from the past like how girls treated me badly ), that I don't have a girlfriend , girls of my batch in college are dating other guys etc. Then after some time ( I guess 2 hours) I had an insight like I had a memory from much more before -- which I was telling my father to buy me a toy and when he denied I was angry, stressful, full of intrusive thoughts suffering for the thing which didn't matter .So I put that analogy to now like I was suffering for not having a girlfriend ( analogous to toy in my childhood) which is silly and it does not matter. I also like did self reflection ( feeling inwards) and I big smile came on my face .

@MarkKol yeah I have fallen into that trap . You will find someone as you have just 2 years gap of dating whereas I never dated in my life. I was only rejected , heartbroken , girls whom I liked got committed to boys other than me . However I think the solution is to realise that there will be new opportunities in the future.

@ryandesreu yes. @Leo Gura yes I asked to myself and the answer was yes absolutely.

@Max_V hurrah you are overcoming a huge obstacle.

@Someone here😂😂😂😂 but my story is real .

My life story.

@Leo Gura I posted my life story on Claude and told it to rank my resilience(ability to bounce back from setbacks) on a scale of 1-10? Here's the summary.Is it true , am I not deluding myself with these prompts but the story that I have provided of my life is real.

@Leo Gura is negative self talk a trap . I have found that during suffering when I become concious or live in present and do positive self talk it improves my mood .

Guys , how do I practice detachment for most situations in life or Karma yoga ?

@Rahul yadav thank you.

@Leo Gura by percentage I mean my college marks in this case. How much they matter in placement packages ?

@Max_V I felt bad hearing it my friend.

@Butters it can count as knowing the book but I think that reading physical books is worth it. Till date I have bought 4 books (3 Self help and 1 philosophy which is meditations) and I would say that reading actual physical books is worth it. Even tough I have 1 Kindle ebook.

@Leo Gura Resilience means bouncing back from adversity or negative situations in life. So, I am worried that weather I will get a good job during campus placements or not or I will be unemployed. So is the solution that having a backup plan that even low paying job I will get , I will take it because as an engineer/ scientist my experience would matter and if I didn't get a job in campus placement I will try off campus placement. Also is an optimism too required that I can get a good job since I have a descent percentage of 76% in the 4th year of my 5 years of integrated masters of biotechnology engineering and I can perform better next semester by understanding the subjects?

So @Leo Gura doing negative visualization that things will go bad and what I will do at that + combining it with CBT helpful. Cuz I suffer a lot due to past issues and I have taken Cole Hastings self mastery course in which like there is a worksheet that relates to removing habits and creating habits. I choose to remove the habit of rumination to doing positive self talk during adversity and when that adversity is gone I write the number l have conquered adversity and till date I have conquered 52 adversities ( from the day I started writing my victories). Thanks to self mastery/self actualization and your YouTube channel. What are you're thoughts on resilience ? Thank you very much.

@Leo Gura is being pessimistic about problems like not reframing them and ruminating the issues from past also a trap. Even tough you mentioned negative visualization/ pre mortem to avoid traps. Thank you . A beautiful episode , I am doing negative visualization since more than 3 months.

How to move on if I am hurt by girls . Currently not wanting a girlfriend because placements will be starting from this semester onwards. Even tough I attracted some girls but I have never been in a relationship😂😂. How to heal ?

@Leo Gura thank you.