Rishabh R

Do watch these videos for guidance.

This is the key. Having something more important in one's life other than women. It is the advice of top dating books which I have read - not to make women the purpose of your life. Even though before reading those books I tried to have my career more important than the opposite gender and this I have learned after painful circumstances in my life.

This is a great question. I was thinking of it right now.

@meta_male Reframe the rejections in the light of Growth Mindset and keep going until you don't get the results. As well as realise that most girls whom you hit on won't be receptive to you.The moment you find out that a girl is unreceptive leave her and move on to the receptive one's. For example- If a girl is smiling at you, if she approaches you then she is receptive. I was in a similar situation of experiencing chronic rejection in college but now if a girl isn't receptive to me , I don't care and move on.

I think that life purpose is important but epistemology can improve your sense making. You can practice basic epistemology in it's simplest form by deeply questioning your own beliefs , assumptions and thoughts - The benefit of rigorous questioning is that it helps you to unearth your limiting beliefs as well which can help you fulfill your life purpose and improve your decision making. In case of metaphysics I am not sure but practices of epistemology such as questioning my own thoughts has helped me a lot.

@Leo Gura Yeah your episodes- Assumption is the mother of all ----- ups and The power of asking questions mafe me questions my thoughts when I was desperately chasing happiness which made me unhappy. But now a these days my happiness is more than that of my past even though I still feel negative emotions sometimes which is normal. Yesterday I remember that my mind was creating imaginary scenarios from based on negative events of the past but when I questioned them then they disappeared from my mind and my reactivity , anger dissipated. @Leo Gura Even though your work is in the spiritual domain why do I feel that what you say is mostly similar to Mark Manson. Such as counterintuitive nature of life etc.

I have discovered that after a few years of questioning oneself that it is the root of most self-improvement if not all. Even therapy utilises questioning to alleviate mental illness. Developing resilience too requires ourselves to unearth our initial thoughts,beliefs and assumptions about a certain situation. @Leo Gura correctly said that one's question determine the quality of one's life. But we are so blind to this depth of growth reached when one consistently questions oneself. I don't mean to be in the state of analysis paralysis but rather questioning oneself and still taking action. If one develops this habit then life becomes more beautiful as it embarks a person on a series of surprises and well as primes the brain to function optimally. Thank you.

@Something Funny Man you are moving ahead and it's good to see you . Seems like my best wish worked 😂.

@SimpleGuy No it's not normal for you to have negative emotions. Instead having negative emotions indicate that one is a healthy and functional adult . The positivity culture is guilty of promoting unhealthy pursuits of never having negative emotions, or never feeling bad. I have been guilty myself for this as years ago I used to "Eliminate suffering" rather than accepting or dealing with suffering which I do it since more than an year ago. And life has improved due to it. Negative emotions are necessary to be acknowledged and processed of you want to create rock solid, real happiness .

@Something Funny All the best.

@Schizophonia Ok I saw it now.

@Sincerity Accepting negative emotions are the key to emotional regulation and living a happy life.I have learned this the hard way. Earlier I used to number my negative emotions by thinking positive but when I started accepting them, my suffering reduced.

Your post resonates with me as I was once a believer of victim mindset but later , I mean recently (for 1 year) I adopted the growth mindset by reframing each failure, setbacks, adversity and I can say honestly that it is better than having a victim mindset be it in case of resilience, success and tranquility.

@Schizophonia 👍. But I have discovered that reading actual books has improved my life. Even though it might not be a necessity.

That is why most people want a quick fix to their problems and improve their lives without actually doing the work. But reading is far more valuable than consuming what algorithm tells you to. I really love reading - Read approximately 16 or so books in almost 2 years( hard copy and Amazon Kindle combined ). Recently ordered my 17th book. By experience I would say that reading is worth it.

@Majed Good job.

@Schizophonia No there is a lot of wisdom in the books.

@Natasha Tori Maru Yeah , I re read the book related to my subject or even self-help/philosophy books.I remember that when I read the first time I don't remember the information but 2nd time a little bit then with third time a bit more and so on. Thanks.

@Zenterus It just reaffirms my belief that getting into a relationship doesn't make a person happy. Even though I never had a girlfriend but there were many receptive women whom I encountered as well as unreceptive girls. I think personal development/self-help is better than pickup even though other people's view vary . I have been consuming and applying self-help since 8 years , 10 months ( still counting by the way) which started from Leo's video on negative thoughts. Fast forward to this day I don't try to eliminate negative thoughts but rather reframe the situation. I had a few romantic rejections along the way but later realised that I didn't like those girls.You present a counterargument to most guys who chase girls and a lot of them told me that I am not capable of attracting a girl , pay attention to your/career instead of chasing girls. You are not a hypocrite and even you encouraging us to pursue relationships shoes your emotional growth and maturity. Thanks for this nuanced post.

@jacknine119 Focus on absorbing the information through repetition. Read over and over again. I also forget things that I read but I discovered that the more times I iterate the information in other words re reading the same thing more I remember it.

@SimpleGuy It's called limerence or fantasizing about situations with don't happen. It happens with me a lot. What I have discovered that questioning those images even though it can be painful to realize that one's imagined world is different from actual world is the key. In fact I would say it's necessary to question them so that one doesn't end up suffering unnecessarily. It's not a mental illness by the way.

@Leo Gura What about Programming the Subconscious mind course. Will it be affordable ? Just wanted to know when it will come out ?

@Leo Gura Why it is that questioning others is easy while questioning oneself is tough ? Also I have found that questioning oneself is the cause of a better life as it opens you up to surprises in life . So is it better to ask yourself questions or asking others question ?

@Yimpa Great quote. To add to it I would say- Rejection is a saviour from wrong people in life.( Making this quote based on my experience)

@Yimpa Thanks.