Rishabh R

I have been talking to girls since my 9th standard to know in college. I have experienced rejections and a lot of heartbreak. Does that count as experience? Will they be valuable for me in the future ?

Happy Birthday @Leo Gura

@Dauntment is reframing negative situations positively to overcome them a kind of growth ?

I am single, 23 year old studying in college . Whenever I see any couple it hurts me a lot and makes me jealous. How to deal with it ? I have cold approached many girls and girls of my batch are insecure( I am also an insecure person ). Will this phase of my life pass ? Cause girls of my batch prefer other guys over me . How do I deal with resentment , anger , a feeling of taking revenge towards them . Even tough I have not abused or beaten any girls and I don't want to ask I am doing self directed CBT and recently ordered a book meditations by Marcus Aurelius .

Ya @Leo Gura can we get a time frame ?

@Leo Gura happened with me once and I was kicked out of a campus beside mine campus.

@Leo Gura ok thank you and there I must approach. And also before approaching a girl I must see around if she is there alone or not?

@Raze yeah you are right. I am in India and cold approach here is seen like stalking.

@Leo Gura Is there any other option since I remain in my campus after coming from the classes to study in my hostel. By the way sorry for making excuses.

@Leo Gura I have approached girls but when I approach a random girl then that girl becomes insecure and their boyfriends become angry. I fear that will I land in trouble if I approach a senior girl. I now approach known girls.

@Schizophonia how ?

@mr_engineer I am already working to improve my life by studying for exams, reading philosophy or self help books,doing therapy etc.

@NoSelfSelf hope is the key which inspires action.

@NoSelfSelf the solution is to stop caring and move forward. You could also talk about that in a respectful manner and also hope to find a better person is one of the key aspects of inner game. So don't demotivate me.

So, guys are these experiences valuable ? Will they contribute to something good in the future like finding a good relationship / girl who doesn't treat me badly and loves me for who I am ?

@bebotalk Nobody is inherently evil or an enemy. Even tough I feel the same way but I don't go around hurting women like this. @Thought Art as for this guy forgive me if I am being a hypocrite but I hurt women who have hurt me in the past and generally don't hurt women I need to stop demonizing beautiful women which I need to work on. And also there is an avoidance of truth mechanism going on. You did excellent job by posting that video. The truth being avoided here is: Beautiful women are also human, beutiful women suffer in their life too.

@Leo Gura even tough there are many degrees of seeing reality will CBT help in seeing the situation more objectively when one is faced with suffering? Also like can creating one's own life philosophy like - I WILL PERCEVERE THROUGH IT help in overcoming challenges ? Also Leo you wanted to come in podcasts to make yourself familiar with public so can you come in Cole Hastings podcast as I can request him ? .

@Leo Gura is therapy like self directed Cognitive Behavioral therapy seeing the reality accurately?

Hey, Leo hope that you are doing well. Any courses, videos coming as you told that your course will be realising soon in 2023 but 2024 is going to be halfway complete The mind course and The Awakening course. And also you apologized to us once for your mistreatment of us -so are you making progress on that. And finally how is your health?

Congrats to you @Thought Art too. I didn't knew that you were so good.

@Antor8188 congratulations. You and other successful guys show us that there is a way out.

@Asia P I also remember that in my school days I used to love a girl and got my heart broken . But now I now I no longer love her. Also I realised that I didn't love her back then. It was just infatuation and I took the right decision to move from one sided love. Your situation is different but I don't think that you must leave a 5 year relationship for just another guy whom you met online cuz your relationship is bound to grow and it is already growing since 5 years which is a good thing. Thank you.

Your avoidance of truth was a good episode even tough I watched that episode for multiple of times I still like it. The only question is how do I act in alignment with truth in every situation or see the truth before acting on it ?

@Leo Gura ok that's normal but one has got to take action despite that . By the way are you returning to YouTube or is it only this cuz you once told that you're best work is yet to come. Also I discovered is that the best way to succeed is to think and act.

@Leo Gura searched . The challenges of making bold life changes. By the way I was asking you because I was getting confused with the overwhelming amount of the videos of yours.