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Oh, sorry, perhaps I didn't explain myself well! I was talking about MP3s for the new actualized clips channel, I've already downloaded a good deal of the MP3s for main channel videos. My use case is downloading a whole bunch of them at once and sticking them on my phone to listen to when I'm out and about, instead of having to do it through the clunky YT app which also uses a lot of mobile data.

The actualized clips are really good when you need a kick up the ass. I usually listen to the MP3s of the main channel videos anyway, but it would be nice to have a big bundle of the actualized clips that I could lump on my phone and listen to when bored and lazy. I know it's possible to generate MP3s of YT vids using tools online, but it's not quite as convenient. It'd be great to download a whole bundle of clips to work through. Is that something that would be feasible?

Any of you who have reasonable technical knowledge might be able to recover some stuff from your browser cache. I've done that in the past in similar situations, I don't remember the exact methodology though but if you feel like you particularly need something that was lost it might be worth investigating further

Damn it's so fucking satisfying. I do this as well. My mum also did, and she said she started to enjoy the taste of the bad tasting stuff used to treat it after a while lol. I've noticed it comes and goes. Boredom and hunger seem to be big triggers for me, if I start noticing that I'm doing it, eating some food can help. Another thing you can try is alternating hands. i.e. for one week you can only bite skin on your right hand, next week left, then back to right and so on. This helps increase your awareness of the habit at the very least, so it's a decent starting point. But yea, in the long run you need more effective strategies if you want to completely cut it out. At least it's not that harmful of an addiction though

I've recently just moved out from my parents house, and have just graduated. I've got a job as a software engineer which is essentially perfect for me right now, good pay, amazing and highly motivated people, remote work and extremely flexible with when I work etc. My plan right now is to work this job for a year, and during that time really focus on improving the social parts of my life. I missed out on a lot of that in university, due to being in a relationship for the first half, and covid for the 2nd half. And I feel like I really missed out. This lack of socialisation feels like the cause of the most pain points in my life right now. However, should I be seriously considering and experimenting with what I really want to do long term with my life as well, or just focus on improving socially? I'm aware from talking with friends and family how easy it is to slip into a routine of working a well paying and reasonably stimulating job. I don't want to fall into that trap. I want more. TLDR; My mind keeps flip-flopping between telling me I'm A) being lazy by not also considering what I want to do long term and B) being wise by limiting the scope of my improvement to one area: socialisation. Which of these seems more truthful to you? Any comments/advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks

I know you feel passionately about this. But maybe calm down a little. Being so aggressive helps no one. Pressuring people to debate or fight helps no one. Discussions like that will be more valuable if they arise naturally anyway

All of this just sounds really culty. I don't think the solution to the cult PR problem is this kind of aggression because that's exactly what people expect from cults. People don't expect level headedness from cults. So if they see the majority of people associated with actualized come across as level-headed and open then maybe that would help with the whole cult thing

Weirdly, this feels like it adds to the cult vibe. Anyone reading that is just gonna think this is more of a cult. The more someone tries to argue against it being a cult, the more it seems like one, just how it is. Most of the defensive comments I've seen on videos criticising actualized.org have probably made the situation worse. There were some zingy one liners that do a better job, but you have to be careful with your wording and not come across as defensive if you're going to do this at all

@Leo Gura I'm remaining completely open to whatever spiritual teachings I come across, I simply don't have the experience to claim I know better. The only point that keeps cropping up in my mind that I think is worth sharing here is on the nature of progression. It's undoutable that you did a lot of so called 'traditional' spiritual work regarding non-duality and no-self and so on before you started giving the God-realisation and Love teachings. Do you think that for anyone else who also wishes to explore God-realisation and Love, these other steps are important grounding work before one can tackle more advanced teachings?

This is something I've been thinking a lot about recently as well. I've just recently moved out of my parents house into my own place, and as the freedom is sinking in, the desire to be more random and spontaneous is as well. To me, going on random walks at any time of day or night is good, especially on Friday/Saturday nights when just by walking around the town where I live you can encounter all sorts of interesting people. It is one of my strategies for starting to deal with my general social ineptitude in a gradual way while clubs are still shut, because the people I encounter will often do the initiating. I happen to be lucky in this sense, where I live random people will often interact with you on the street out of nowhere, especially if they're drunk lol

Some people just don't like the style of dating apps. It's not about it being easy or hard, necessarily. There's a reason there are significantly less women on dating apps than men in the first place. It isn't the best or most appealing environment for many girls either, even though they could meet many high quality guys through it quickly. This has always been an interesting point for me. If Tinder is so great for women, and they can all find high quality men there, why don't all girls have Tinder?

No one here can tell you what is realistic for you. No one here can answer general questions about what types of girls will like you. It depends on an unlimited number of factors about you that none of us know. It's not like women are all identical 1-dimensional creatures that will all rule you out because of your skin colour. Maybe some will, maybe some won't. We don't know, you don't know. You are looking for excuses to sit and think about girls instead of going out and talking to them. I do it too. I'm doing it now. It's a bad habit.

I am by no means an expert, but this right here sounds like the mindset that's fucking you over here. Too much theory, worrying about making mistakes, too much thinking. Go and actually try stuff out. You honestly think that speaking to a bunch of girls who you find attractive would be costly and wasted time even if you don't end up with a single one of them? The goal here is to socially calibrate yourself. All social interaction is beneficial here. You're trying to minimise embarrassment and risk for yourself by planning everything and overthinking everything in the comfort of your home. That's not gonna work.

Go find out

Why are you even spending this much time thinking about this? Really, it doesn't help the situation much. Maybe you will attract 8s, 9s, 10s, maybe you won't. Maybe you will need to develop a social network first, maybe you won't. Maybe some girls will find that social proof more important, maybe they won't. Depends on where you live. Depends on your charisma. Depends on the situation. Depends on luck. There are literally an uncountable number of factors at play. So keep rolling the dice and levelling up your skills, see where you get. It can be cathartic to read and write answers on here, I do it too. But I think you'll get more value by asking practical questions. And at the end of the day, you need to go out, do the practical work and find out for yourself.

@bliss54 From your experience, maybe. How do you know this applies to everyone? Why would evolution allow for all/most men to be weak and drained from consistent ejaculation? That gene would die out so fucking fast If you're jerking off everyday to cope with being bad at attracting a mate then sure, I agree with you. Mentally that will drive you insane. However the solution there is not exactly to stop, it's to fix the root cause. Which is being bad at attracting a mate.

It could also make you desperate, which would definitely not help you get laid

@Leo Gura Have you ever tried mescaline cacti? For practicality reasons that's what I'm planning on starting with

Says who. How would you know? I meant conscious in terms of being aware of why exactly you were watching porn in the first place. If it's out of addiction you have no control over it then we agree entirely, where we disagree is that it's impossible to enjoy it in a way that is not destructive to your psyche. I suppose most people who watch it probably are addicted, and it's definitely something to be careful with. But it seems like you've turned it into something that triggers a pretty aggressive reaction in you which I'd say is something else to be careful of.

Nope. If I had to guess, to stop it from being overcrowded and restrict the list to books that are really the cream of the crop

If you're a little bit technical you can find the old books that used to be on the list but were removed. If you right click on anywhere in the book list (likely under Emotional Mastery in this case as @Waves pointed out) and click 'Inspect element' on Chrome you can see commented out HTML for all the old books. Perhaps you'll find it there?

Maybe if you're addicted. You honestly think watching porn once a week or whatever is gonna damage you psychologically? You probably get more psychological damage by obsessing over how bad and evil something is than indulging in it consciously and in moderation.

I practiced self-inquiry pretty heavily for about 3-4 months, at the end of which I had my first experience of a different state of consciousness. I identified with perceptions like the sounds I was hearing, mainly water running as I was in a public bathroom practicing self-inquiry. Yes, I had my first mystical experience in a public bathroom cubicle while a dude was shitting in the one next to me. It's a long story. It was nothing ground breaking, but it was the first "Oh shit there's something worth further investigation here" experience. Weirdly, after that I had a really difficult time doing self-inquiry, I couldn't focus on the questions and my mind just wandered. Perhaps the ego was thinking "great, we got what we wanted, no need to look any further hee hee " Anyway, I've now been doing Kriya for 6 months instead to quiet the mind, and I'm planning on experimenting with more psychedelics as soon as that's practical for me, then I'm going to start up self-inquiry again. It did do something for me.

Are you trying to tell me you think you're better than the people thinking "I'm better than you"

Consider that you don't know that much about the dating scene yet, and that you're extrapolating a lot from limited experience and hearsay from communities online like blackpill/redpill. What they preach is so so so easy to believe when you don't have a lot of experience socialising or talking to people in person, but really how do you know any of it actually applies to the real world? I'm only a few years older than you so I can hardly say I'm that experienced with dating either, but accepting that you don't know how dating works yet leaves room for the idea that you can learn. You're just inexperienced, and that's normal. Accept it and start looking for ways to change that. Online dating is kind of a crutch, even if you can make it work for you. At least, I have used it as a crutch, and I'm in the process of trying to change that