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the practical solution is move to a big city where you never see the same girl twice and you're free to experiment the root solution is a lot more complicated, I struggle with the same problem

This is spoken as someone who has a distinct lack of friends so take it with a grain of salt IMO going out 'looking for friends' is kinda not the right approach. Nor is really giving too much thought about 'how to make friends.' The right approach is to do things you yourself enjoy and then you are frequently in contact with those who are at least somewhat similar to you and friendship develops naturally over time It sounds like you are 'trying to make friends' when really you should just do things you enjoy and be sociable at these places. When you try to force friendship it's kinda like going up to someone and saying "I want to be your friend" which if you actually did you'd scare the person off I think friendship is even less susceptible to 'force' than relationships. With relationships you can kinda control and influence your situation but with friendship things do need to happen quite naturally

I'd recommend Brazilian Jiu Jitsu if you wanna do a martial art. All the guys I've met there are super chill, then they'll absolutely fucking destroy you on the mat Jiu Jitsu is good for learning to express your full physical power against others, because unlike a striking martial art you can actually put everything you've got into a spar/roll every day without worrying too much about injuring yourself or your opponent With a striking martial art you're running at half power when you spar so you don't concuss each other all the time

Most dudes here don't want to be 'pickup artists' they just want to get better with women and be more sociable. Pickup is a decent framework to start out with. Even you went through a pickup phase, and now you're preaching about how it's not the path. Sure, but you still went through that phase. It's a valuable thing for guys to do even if they transcend it at some point I mean even if you build a social circle of dudes you still need to know how to approach and talk to girls. It is a skill in and of itself. Or at the very least you need to have talked to enough girls to desensitise yourself Honestly I don't know why you're so aggressive towards others about it, it seems very strange and slightly toxic

These are bizarrely specific years. Afaik 'pickup' as a style was a thing that started to gain traction in the 60s If you're trying to tell me that the idea of guys going out to meet girls died in 2015 I don't really know what to tell you As for the rest of your post I don't really disagree, all I'd say is that healthy pickup is more about unfucking up your social skills, learning to let go, have fun, let loose, get the stick out of your ass. Many guys are socially fucked up from years of time online and pickup is very effective at undoing that rapidly. Pickup and learning to socialise is part of that lifestyle change you talk about

If it still works, how is it outdated? Also, again, you are kinda contradicting yourself. You talk about how we live in the most superficial times yet you're suggesting that the most superficial venues that exist (clubs) are not good places to meet girls anymore. By your own logic they should be better than ever The purpose of that kinda style of pickup is just to get you as much exposure to a lot of girls as possible. It's hard to build a lot of experience with girls if you're only talking to a few new ones every now and then as you go about your normal life I think you are right in the 2nd paragraph, of course these are good things to do. But combining them with some clubbing and partying is not bad, I don't understand your dislike of that approach really

That wasn't about daygame, that was about that post making no sense. Those two quotes are from the same paragraph but they contradict each other entirely

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I doubt that talking about your plans one time to some people has caused any lasting effects. If your overall desire is strong enough it won't matter and your motivation will come back My point was more about not making a habit of talking about your plans to others frequently. You shouldn't feel bad doing it every now and then

It's not irreversible and you'll have to tell people about your plans sometimes anyway Just don't make a habit of 'showing them off' to other people and you'll be totally fine

It brings forward the dopamine rush you get from achieving your goal by giving you some of the social recognition now Part of what appeals to you about your goals is being seen a certain way, a successful businessperson, a skilled craftsman and so on If you tell others about your plans a lot, they start to see you as whatever you're aiming for without you having to actually achieve it and that's very appealing to your ego What can happen is you essentially become all talk, because you can satisfy some of your desire for the goal by just telling people about it, which then leads to inaction

I'd recommend jiu-jitsu. It's all grappling, no striking What that means is you can actually go almost full out against an opponent frequently and not permanently injure them. With a striking martial art like boxing if you go full out all of the time you're going to seriously injure someone or get seriously injured This fact makes it great for letting loose It's also quite intellectual. It's kinda like a game of chess with you and your opponents body, except checkmate is squeezing their neck til they see stars or threatening to break their arm til they tap Winning is immensely satisfying and would satisfy your urge for domination/power without becoming a human meat shield

You certainly implied it. If you had framed the question as 'hey, no new video for a while, is everything alright?' then fair dos. But it was this part: You sound like someone's boss telling them to get back to work and that you expect better from them lol My point was quite aggressively framed, so sorry. But was just trying to say that you aren't owed anything as it's totally free content

Are you honestly that addicted... Jesus christ, get a hobby or something It's not disrespectful to anyone, you're not owned anything. It's free content

You can also walk down the street without worrying about getting raped and murdered Yes girls get a better deal on dating apps but that's a very narrow slice of life

Out of curiosity (and feel free not to share if this is too personal!) were you bullied when you were younger? Or how was your social life in school is perhaps a more accurate question? I'm asking because a few of the attractive dudes I know who had confidence issues were bullied quite a bit and under socialised in school

The grass is always greener on the other side It always looks like things are better for others than they are for you

The grass is always greener

It doesn't really need explanation. If you could sign up to an app and have 5 hot girls a day wanting your attention you would do it

I didn't say only low value girls use tinder. I said that as an average to even above average guy on tinder you are only going to be able to consistently match with low to medium value girls

Duh

It doesn't even look like there's that much correlation. Stuff just looks kinda randomly arranged. The only strong pattern I see is that a lot of the super dark shit is authoritarian right

Well at least show me someone who you think deserved a ban but wasn't banned, if it's a big issue there should be plenty of examples I know. But unfortunately you can't ban people for that

I mean, there are more male internet users, more male users on the forum, and it's usually men who struggle with dating more than women. I would say those are the main reasons that the dating section is mainly male posts Can you show an example of someone not being banned after being sexist and misogynistic? I'm fairly active in this section and I can't really think of many, maybe 1 or 2. But I do know that examples of it are not going to be as apparent to me as they would be to you, so I know I could easily have missed them

Got my first long term relationship (when I was a shy insecure 17 year old) on Tinder. Stayed with her for 2.5 years. Was an ok time but mentally she was quite unstable After that I started using Tinder again and in a year and a half I've slept with maybe 10-15 girls from tinder? Some were maybe slightly above average, some were... uhm... not. Many of the girls on tinder I found had self-esteem issues too, or just generally slightly quirky personalities but not necessarily in a good way, at least for my tastes. I've only ever met 2-3 girls from tinder that I would even consider a longer term relationship with, but I'd feel like I was settling --- The thing is, you gotta ask yourself why a girl in the 18-25ish age range who is: at least average looking; has friends; has a stable personality, would use tinder. The answer is that in every country in the world except the US (lol) they don't. It's like <10% of girls in that age range that use dating apps in most countries I can think of three main reasons why a girl would use tinder: 1. short term loneliness & boredom 2. access to extremely high value and good looking men 3. struggles to attract men she's attracted to in real life I'm sure there are more but these are the three main ones I can think of. Now when you swipe through Tinder and see the really hot girls who are clearly pretty basic and just living your average hot girl life, they're absolutely in #2 and good fucking luck matching with them, you won't even show up in their stack for them to swipe on you #1 is the girls who download tinder whenever they want to fuck, swipe for 10mins, pick the hottest dude they can match with nearby which is almost certainly not you or I, then delete the app #3 can either be because she doesn't look great or because personality. She could be unattractive, she could be nuts or best case she could just be introverted/shy and not go out much So basically, if you're like average to above average you're going to be fighting over the girls in #3 which is not a great pool of choice. Maybe occasionally you get lucky and find a girl in #1, but she's probably not that hot If this makes online dating sound like a shit show: good. It was meant to. If you can get matches it's useful as something you have running in the background but don't ever make it your sole method of meeting girls because it will destroy your self esteem and waste tons of your time