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How bout you rewatch older videos while you wait lol Or have you already learnt everything there is to learn from them?

One is pretending to be a certain way, the other is just doing whatever you feel like without inhibition Think about all the weird dumb shit you do when you're alone. Like sprinting up the stairs as fast as you can on all 4 limbs or some shit. It's super dumb and there's no reason for it, you just do it because your brain tells you it'll be fun lol That doesn't mean that if you go out to a club and run up the stairs on all 4 limbs it will make you attractive. If you just go and set your goal to go to a club and do that you'll come across as extremely weird because you're going out with the intent of being dumb. But if a situation arose naturally while you were at a club then maybe it could legit be funny This translates to what you were saying where if you go out with the intent to 'act' dumb and silly it can come across as quite inauthentic However this is kind of a subtle distinction and it's not so useful, it's very theoretical and not that practical. You learn how to make this distinction and be more authentically playful with practice I have noticed you tend to ask a lot of specific questions when I think you may just be better served with practical experience

For many men I would say the benefits outweigh the negatives It's kind of like money. Yea, having billions of dollars isn't really high consciousness per se, nor will it fulfill you, but having no money at all will cause you many many problems In the same way if you lack social skills, can't get laid, can't attract girls, can't find a relationship etc. you will find it very hard to move towards any other higher consciousness pursuits

I don't think I struggle with the theory of attraction. I know what behaviour is attractive, I'm just incredibly under socialised so I am bad at putting it into practice myself Since partaking in forum discussion here in the dating section (I haven't actually watched the dating series) I've started going to clubs a bunch and I feel like it has developed me a lot. I've had a reasonable amount of success with girls in clubs and also I'm now just generally getting better at socialising Mostly any dating content I consume is just about motivating me to actually go and socialise rather than learning any particular theory

Omegle or face to face chat rooms are kinda interesting for this. I used to use them a bit. If you can fight the hordes of middle aged penis you can usually get a few good convos and it's totally risk free socialisation. It isn't even really close to real life but it's a start

I will never understand how any human can sleep with curtains shut Waking up when it's pitch black is one of the most depressing things I can experience in an average day

If this is purely about other students asking annoying questions in lectures (and I'm not sure that it is... ) then you just learn to deal with it There are always annoying fuckheads in lectures and they come in so many different forms that you just end up having to laugh at them. Usually if they are actually consistently annoying, someone in the class will call them out or the lecturer will tell them to fuck off, politely of course In my first ever maths lecture at uni a girl put her hand up and claimed that the lecturer was technically incorrect because he hadn't put arrows on the axis of his graph

Yea, a fair few are addicted to porn, I'll give you that. The positive is freeing up your mind to think about other things clearly

Alarmy. It works really well on Android but I imagine on iOS it might not work as well

I got an alarm app that in order to turn off the alarm, I need to take my phone to another room and scan a barcode It also has other options like solving maths problems It works, but I'm still always miserable when I get up in the morning even though I enjoy my life quite a lot. I'm just not a morning person

Why do you care? Knowing the answers to these questions won't help you in the slightest. Go and do something practical instead of pondering silly questions like these Both men and women want sex, men on average want it more, men on average have less access to it and have to work harder for it. There you go. Now go do something practical @Thestarguitarist14 "Self-pleasure is anti social" The fuck are you talking about? Jerking off a few times a week is not gonna hurt you. It's certainly better than being unable to think or focus on important shit because you need to cum. Yea, if you get addicted it's bad but you can say that about many things

Also my man, @patricknotstar I just saw your face in the show your face thread and you are an attractive dude! You seriously do not have anything to be concerned about! Why on earth do you think you're not physically attractive?

I know what you were trying to say, the point is that giving such advice to people is insensitive. That kind of advice only starts to apply once you have obtained a certain amount of material success

Online dating is not representative of reality. There are a million factors that make it an extremely disadvantaged situation for guys. Even above-average looking guys will often struggle with online dating The supply/demand is completely fucked up, there are often 10x as many guys as there are girls on a dating app. If you're not at least moderately attractive your profile won't even be shown to girls at all. But in real life you can talk to as many girls as you can find You also can show off very little about yourself other than looks. It's very hard to show any masculine personality or charisma Yea it sucks if you don't have the best looks, but seriously, don't use online dating to base your understanding of dating in reality. It's just wrong and incredibly skewed. Don't translate online dating statistics to reality either Ultimately women don't want great looks, they want a man. And you can be masculine without good looks. My mother is probably an 8/10 in looks but my step dad looks like a tomato. He embodies masculinity very well though, in other words he's a man. And thus he's still attractive even though he doesn't look great. You can find lots of examples of physically unattractive men with girls who are physically way more attractive. Just pay attention when you are out and you'll see it The main thing is that you're not physically out of shape. If you combine these things with being overweight then it's pretty bad. I've seen plenty of bald men with attractive girlfriends. Like I said, my stepdad's head is literally circular (no bone structure to speak of) yet he seemed to do pretty well for himself with woman from what I gather This is not what anyone wants to hear. Try telling a starving African that food is just an attachment and he should let go of his attachment to food

In my experience with tinder this is very rare and obvious when it happens What possible incentive do guys have to do this? The ones that are bots/men are ridiculously obvious if you have more than three braincells

You sound like a 15 year old boy who's been reading a little too much redpill content on reddit

This still seems crazy to me. How on earth can jerking off every 3 weeks be that different to jerking off every 3 days Your body is designed to ejaculate pretty much as often as it possibly can

I would bet like $1000 they've both cheated again lmao

@Ineedanswers Do you have some past experience with being cheated on or someone you know being cheated on? It seems like a slightly strange perspective even though I can see you're technically just asking, you're very persistent You should not stand for being disrespected by a partner like that, if they cheat you should not just forgive them and move on because what you're basically saying when you do that is that you're ok with being walked all over. If someone cheats on you and you have this attitude, 90% chance they'll cheat again when whatever circumstances lead to it before occur again, because now they know there are limited consequences Sure, you tell yourself that if they cheat again that will be the last time, but if you forgive them the first time then your mind will probably find a way to forgive them the next time as well. You either set the limit at ZERO times or you don't get into a committed, monogamous relationship

Putting yourself through total misery in the name of selflessness is not always right At some point you've gotta do what's right for you If he stayed and looked after those kids now it would end up being very dysfunctional If the kids were not biologically his alone then it would be fine, however they are the kids of a man who his wife of many years cheated on him with...... You talk big but I am 100% sure if you were in his situation you would not find it so easy to stay. It's easy to talk a big game when you're not emotionally attached to the situation

It's easy to say this when you're not in that situation. Reading your words just screams total lack of empathy to me Like put yourself in the guy's shoes. His world is collapsing around him, basic truths of his life that he's held for years have been pulled out beneath him. Massive destruction of trust Raising the kids that your wife cheated on you to have? Holy fuck that would be hard. They're a permanent reminder of what she did! How she totally betrayed you and lied to you for years! Jesus fucking christ have some empathy for this guy instead of calling him a piece of shit The whole situation is terrible for everyone involved, yea it sucks for the kids. But expecting the guy to be a good father to these kids now is extremely unreasonable and may even make it worse for the kids because his resentment will shine through no matter what if he stayed. Basically the mother is the only person to blame in this situation, everyone else is an unfortunate victim who has to do their best to deal with the aftermath

My ex girlfriend was diabetic and ended up sending herself to hospital at least 3-4 times by not taking her insulin She also never paid attention to the food she ate either She had depression, mostly unrelated to the diabetes, but I think the main insight I gleamed was that if a diabetic is unsatisfied with their life, there is almost nothing you can do to make them look after their diabetes It requires so much micromanagement and effort, plus it doesn't pose an immediate threat to your life. This is a dreadful combo for someone with depression Mentally, a diabetic with depression is essentially being forced to ask themselves like 7 times a day if life is worth living, and worth all this effort that no one else has to go through. This takes an enormous toll on your mental health This doesn't really offer a solution, which I'm sorry for, but I figured it was worth sharing And my absolute deepest condolences if you have to deal with the US healthcare system for this as well

Yea I actually don't think this is an awful deal. You essentially paid 5k to enter the job market in quite a lucrative field, which is a lot less than a degree would cost you If you could have done it self-taught that would obviously have been ideal, but that wasn't an option so you did what needed to be done I agree that the concept of coding bootcamps are actually retarded though, I've never met anyone who thought they learnt anything useful from one. So for that I can understand your frustration. Hell, I didn't learn anything especially practical from a 4yr CS degree. Courses don't teach you how to code, you learn by coding practical, real-world projects I think you made the right choice, though. You're at least moving forward. View it as 5k to enter the job market in a field where you can start making many times that pretty quick If they don't charge you ridiculous interest just pay it off monthly over like 3 years and you'll barely even notice it's there. By then you might even be making more money and you can pay it off quicker

I think manosphere might be in my top 5 cringiest words of all time

because sex has the ability to bring you right into the moment, to open your mind, to make you impulsive and not give a fuck this is very dangerous for a structured society if you want to contextualise this into stages, stage blue wants structure and control over population and sex is very effective at destroying this control