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I'm pretty sure this kind of thinking is why the solipsism video was taken down lol

Grass is always greener

I mean everyone has celeb crushes. But it’s quite disrespectful to rub it in your significant others face like that I remember me and my ex used to joke about what celebs we each found attractive, but it was done in a tongue and cheek humorous way and it was mutual

Oh yea totally agree. That’s pure scumbaggery. If you know the other person wants more and you don’t but you keep seeing them that’s pure manipulation Being direct about just wanting sex isn’t bad as long as you’re not a total asshat about it either. But it’s kind of a bad strategy for guys and a very risky strategy for girls. It’s more fun for everyone if you’re a bit more playful and flirty about it

I actually can’t understand this. It’s totally not a criticism, it just feels so totally alien to how I (and I suspect many men) experience sexuality that I struggle to even empathise with it like I wish I could

Nah I'm a dude. No one is making you, and you certainly don't have to, but it's nice to do things for others sometimes. The picture I get here is that these ladies feel left out since I'm assuming there aren't that many men their own age there. It's good to try and include everyone in these kinds of activities if you can. You wouldn't want to feel left out either

Why can't you just split it and sometimes dance with girls your age and sometimes the older women? If they make up 10% of the scene then 1 in every 10 times dance with one of the older women. I bet if girls your age see you having a great time laughing and dancing with the older women they'll want to dance with you even more Yea no one is altruistic when it comes to their dating lives, but this isn't dating. This is salsa dancing

Some people are born to be in the military. It's what they want to do, they get a huge kick out of everything about it. And some people are not really like that, but they have a massive sense of national pride motivating them. Those are the two types of soldiers who win wars. If neither of those describe you, don't join the military if you can avoid it. Let those two classes of people join the army, while you do your own thing with your life. They will be better soldiers than you will ever be If you're not one of those people then you're just likely to die pointlessly in a war you don't really care about, forced to hurt and kill people you don't want to hurt or kill

Trust me dude, height on dating apps is not like some magical key. Facial appearance, coolness and lifestyle are way more important there Yea it’s nice to be able to put 6ft+ and it helps but if you’re 6ft+ with a crappy profile it isn’t gonna save you

This kind of fits my description. My lack of social skills definitely hinders me. I've never been diagnosed with anything but I probably have some kind of social anxiety and mild aspergers or something maybe Honestly though, I've made tons of progress in the past 6 months since moving out of my parents house, I'm just pushing my limits every weekend in terms of going out partying and just meeting lots of people. I've joined sports classes (jiu jitsu), I go to a chess club. Not to meet girls (you probably couldn't find worse hobbies to meet girls lol) but just to make sure I'm doing something social almost every night of the week If you're not seriously autistic or have serious mental illness then you can learn social skills. It isn't easy and it's definitely scary but it's possible

I’ve had social anxiety ever since school I’m not totally incapable socially, but I almost never feel at ease in social situations and in many of them I get downright overwhelmed I was wondering if anyone had experience/advice with therapy for treating, I would say, moderate social anxiety? I reached out to what appears to be the main therapy group in my city to see what they say, but it’s gonna be around £100 (~$130) a session so it’s certainly not cheap I’m doing my own stuff to try and be more sociable as well, going out, hobbies etc. but even then there’s always an undertone of anxiety and uneasiness that I want to eliminate and I figured maybe therapy could help Thanks for any advice!

Biggest thing was loss of smell. I still can't smell properly after 6 months. It's very slowly improving, but still only maybe 50-60% of what it was before

This is the linchpin of your entire argument, and it’s pure speculation There have been gay people since humanity began. Stop giving a fuck about it, who cares if it’s normalised. Anything that moves it towards being considered more acceptable will reduce the suicide rate and suffering of that community in the long run. Anything that does the opposite (more or less what you are suggesting as far as I can tell) will keep it where it is or increase it. If you reduce the acceptability of it in order to decrease the number of homosexual people overall, you will just increase the suffering of the smaller group of homosexual people because they feel like there’s more of a problem with them

Literally anything can be funny if you pull it off right. It's not really about the words, more the delivery

How is what you're doing any different? This is a silly point to make when you're also unwilling to compromise even slightly on your position... lol

I have no idea Like I said, I chimed in here because I disagreed with the IMO kinda silly and basic "Russia putin evil" statement OP was making. I'm no expert on international politics. I just disagreed with that style of thinking because no intelligent group acts out of 'evil', they do what they do for good and just reasons from their own perspective. And I used the admittedly pretty basic knowledge I have on the situation (+ some common sense) to argue that point

Then why invade? They don't really gain anything at all by invading, do they? If Russia didn't feel threatened they would not have invaded They aren't retarded, they know that this will bring massive consequences to their country. So presumably they have calculated that those consequences are less severe to them than what happens if they don't invade I'm not pro Russian, I think it's a terrible country for a variety of reasons. But I can also understand why they did this. It's not because they're just pure evil like OP was suggesting. I was mainly just trying to add some nuance to that perspective of "russia putin big bad bully"

Because it means countries like America can set up massive military forces right on their border and blow them up with missiles in < 5 minutes If you were an American citizen would you want Russia to position 100 nukes all along the Mexican border? I imagine not

More an act of self-preservation than bullying They're not invading Ukraine to assert dominance so much as prevent countries like America from asserting dominance over them America are far bigger bullies than Russia I'm not saying Russia is right, just that it makes sense why they invaded. They're backed into a corner

The Russian government is not retarded. They wouldn't just invade a country if there wasn't a good reason for it The reason is that if Ukraine joins NATO that is astronomically bad for Russia

Dude really? That sounds like a really crappy college. Most of them are filled with attractive girls who are all pretty sexually open. Are you sure you’re not just telling yourself these things to make yourself feel better? Careful with that

Ya. Personally I see legs as purely functional attributes of a woman but each to their own My ex actually did this. She said she’d never date a short guy, height was one of her top priorities. Then we broke up and the next guy she dated was like 5’6 lol

No they aren’t. Asking super general theoretical questions won’t help you at all. Actually it will damage your progress because it will put you in your head. The whole point here is to get the fuck out of your head and talk to new people, have new experiences Get some experience then ask practical questions based on what happens to you

It's usually dudes who have a thing for legs that go for tall girls I'm tall and personally I'd always go for the shorter girls. The dynamic of the height difference is super appealing. I've also had a fair few encounters with taller girls but it always felt super clunky physically, probably cos I'm quite lanky and not physically that strong. When you're both tall + skinny there are too many long limbs flapping about and odd angles and positions are required to make things work

That's still not the same dynamic as a guy attracting a girl. I would not give you advice about attracting other women, because I have never experienced that dynamic That was my point I don't think it's that all attraction advice that all girls give is outright bad and should be ignored per se. It's more that the advice guys receive from a lot of girls can be super hit or miss, and taking it can be risky. Like there was a guy here recently who's sister was telling him to take flowers for a girl on his first date. No guy would ever tell you to do that. The reason it's hit or miss is the reason I gave above: you haven't ever experienced the dynamic of being a guy trying to attract a girl So of course you can give advice, and it may even be good advice a lot of the time, but the advice of someone who's experienced that dynamic, experienced rejection from tons of girls, attracted tons of girls is going to be more reliable and less likely to lead you astray You can listen to their advice but men will lie to you and lead you astray with advice as well, as I'm sure you're well aware A lot of men will tell you that in order to attract a guy you should just be as direct with him as possible, tell him exactly what you want and sleep with him quickly, no game playing. But that advice serves the man more than it serves you. That is what a man thinks he wants but then if you actually do this you may end up just being used for sex, or treated like dirt It's always going to be better to take advice from people who have been in your exact situation, with your exact problem, and solved it