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I think you’re over-thinking this my man

Lmao

In practice what will probably happen is you will get to your 50s and regret not experimenting a lot when you were younger. God realization or enlightenment or whatever isn't going to save you from material regrets. Using these things to avoid completing your material goals in life is a dangerous strategy unless you want to become a monk.

I have seen racism in smaller clubs with darker skinned guys. The club in my smallish city of 150k people is almost entirely white when I go, it mostly serves the small town I live in and like 5 or so ruralish towns nearby on weekends. I made friends with some darker skinned guys who were often the only people I would see rejected getting into the place. Apparently they were causing trouble with girls. But when I actually saw them going and talking to girls they were being far tamer than me and yet they got interpreted as creepy (and reported) much more easily. It actually really pissed me off and I remember arguing with the bouncer over it. HOWEVER, I have not seen this anywhere near as badly in clubs in my bigger city of like 600k, or London. There were plenty of guys of all races clearly doing super well with girls there. I notice darker skinned guys tend to have their fashion ON POINT as well, which possibly helps in overcoming the race boundary.

That isn't love on the man's part. That's desperation and neediness. Proper love takes time to build up for men as well.

Getting a tattoo of a girl's face after a month is not hard. It's impulsive, and shows almost zero awareness of future. Yes, but we also live in the real world, where the logistics of a relationship cannot be sorted out in a month. You need a balance of mind and heart to create healthy relationships. Healthy relationships also require time, and build up.

Because it's equivalent to saying "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" after only a month. It's almost like he proposed to you after a month. It's just really fucking weird.

The fuck? You need to run for the fucking hills, that is not healthy behaviour

Please stop going to malls in India and doing cold approach. It’s such a bad strategy if you want decent results. It’s very likely to tank your self-esteem as well. Read what @Roy wrote. What he wrote even applies in liberal countries like the UK and the US, let alone in conservative countries like India. Either find nightlife party spots like bars and clubs, build up a social circle, or GTFO of India.

Or, how about option (c)... which is actually go and learn how to be more attractive to girls Your options that you listed are basically (a) do nothing and (b) give up But worded slightly more extremely If you really want to explore your sexuality as a man and you value it highly, fucking go and get the sexual experiences you want. Don't just sit back and wait for it to happen. @Tyler Robinson It's a rung above food and drink, but it is still very very much a need rather than a want. Most guys aren't that open about their sex drive, especially with women. But you can see how fucked up the guys who reach their mid 30s without ever having sex are. Many incels (lots even younger than mid 30s) are seriously considering suicide on a daily basis. If that doesn't convey how much of a need it is, I don't really know what would. Hookers and porn are like bandaids. The desire for sex is rooted in men's ability to generate attraction and be a valuable man. Failing at this essentially feels like the world telling that you're an awful and useless man. And this cemented deeply into our biology from billions of years of evolution. Your advice is essentially 'stop thinking that and just love yourself' which is, I guess, truthful, but it isn't really helpful advice for guys. It's like saying "just be happy" to someone with depression, which is why it rubbed so many guys here the wrong way. Yea, ultimately, if you want to actualize, overcoming the strong desire for sex is good. But it's a transcend and include kinda situation. You gotta satisfy some of your deeper sexual desire first and then learn to overcome it. If you just try to 'stop caring about sex' when actually you care deeply about sex, then that's just sexual repression. It's easy to give the 'stop caring about sex' advice when you are already have fairly abundant access to sex, or when you don't desire it that strongly.

Is the desire to drink water social conditioning? Sex is really a biological need like drinking water and eating food. It isn't completely social conditioning, it's a strong biological drive built into the deepest parts of our brains. For guys (with high sex drives especially), it's hard to focus on anything else when you aren't getting your sexual needs met. It's like trying to work all day at a job when you're hungry or thirsty. It's hard to focus. This is simply your opinion/POV and all I can do is respectfully disagree. My primary argument against this POV would be that it's hard to find a relationship you think is worth committing to deeply if you don't have a lot of experience. When you want to go shopping online, you don't pick the first shop that sells the item you want and go with it. You have a look around and see what's out there to get yourself the deal that's best for you. Think about it, what are the chances you meet the best partner for you to spend the rest of your life with on your first or second try? That seems super duper unlikely, and it's also an awfully high risk to take.

Malls are an awful place to go looking for more casual relationships. Especially, I imagine, in a conservative country like India (where you are from, if I remember correctly) For what you want, you wanna be going out to parties and other nighttime places like bars and clubs. From some quick googling, India does have nightclubs. If you want casual relationships, nightclubs are the best place to go. You don't need to feel creepy approaching people there because it's perfectly socially acceptable.

It's also healthy to explore your sexuality in a more casual way. It's good to experience variety in your relationships when you arey young so you learn what you really want. OP is perfectly right to go chasing fun, low-commitment sexual experiences if that is what he desires in his life right now. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and he should not feel ashamed for chasing that. Yea, at some point when you're older the healthy option is to look for something more serious and intimate, so on that I agree with you.

I’m curious what your experiences are of the typical male to female ratio in nightclubs. Obviously it depends on the club, who the DJs are etc. But generally I’ve pretty consistently noticed that the ratio in clubs I’ve been to has been around 70% dudes I thought this was just because normally I go out in a medium sized city, and to the slightly less trendy clubs since I tend to prefer that vibe. But this weekend I went to two big clubs in London (Fabric and Corsica Studios) and I kinda expected it to be damn near 50/50 but it was still easily at least 70% guys, especially later in the night I don’t suppose it really matters that much, it’s more just something I’m curious about the reasoning behind. You’d think it would be close to a 50/50 split since men and women both enjoy partying pretty equally

I’ve been rejected for being solo, but as long as I’ve at least been with some dudes I’ve never been rejected for not having girls at the door. I’ve heard that’s a very American thing? Or maybe if you go to very high end clubs? I mean I wasn’t going for precise estimates, more your sense of what the ratio was when you were out. I’d say people are fairly intuitively aware of whether there are an abundance of the opposite sex around or not so it doesn’t seem unreasonable for people to have a general sense of it It’s not something I pay a lot of attention to directly but I did definitely notice that the ratio was wayyyy more male heavy than I expected in what’s rated as one of the best nightclubs in the world. That’s what sparked my curiosity more than anything

Idk man, it seems like a pretty reasonable thing for a girl to feel uncomfortable about. As someone said, it’s very similar to your GF having tons of male friends. That’d probably make you feel a bit uncomfortable And you’re also making some very big assumptions about the girl based solely on her feelings about this matter People are complicated. Even really developed people will have insecurities or blind spots. Perhaps there is a hint of insecurity left over in her that’s inspiring the dislike of OP watching porn, or perhaps it’s actually just a deal breaker for her. There are valid reasons to dislike porn as a whole too

If you wanna actually talk in a club go to the smoking area

I don’t really see why people are blaming you. It doesn’t sound like you’d have made a good couple. If a girl is still playing games like this by the 4th date and after sex it’s just a recipe for a toxic relationship After you have sex, girls that’d make for a good relationship will stop a lot of the coyness and game playing Yea you prob could have played it differently if you wanted to keep her longer, but the real question is do you actually think it would’ve been a good relationship or did you just find her hot?

It’s always hard to tell with only one side of the story but she sounds pretty toxic, I’d say move on

I wouldn't really say redpill is mainstream. It only appears so because it's quite prominent in your demographic, but your demographic is probably not that mainstream. The whole concept of pills is that bluepill is the normie, mainstream approach and redpill is the niche but more truthful approach

I don't disagree. But it's a slightly weird thing to spend at least several hours of your day making

The dude running this has a pretty unhealthy obsession. Like you can tell how much time and effort he puts in with all the weird storyboards he makes. Then you read the arguments he makes and they're all pretty weak and exaggerated. For example, see the pic below. The +20 means there are another 20 photoshopped images of a similar style in that post. Like come on man, what the fuck? Oh and he's also probably an incel: From what I can tell a lot of the group members are Christian too, which kinda makes sense. A lot of it reads like Christian moralizing. Anyway stuff like this interests me more than it should and I should probably just ignore it, but it's just so tragic lol.

It's a balancing act. Pushing yourself to do difficult things is not inauthentic. In fact, it's how you learn to be truly authentic. Part of the reason many guys suck with girls is that they're too scared to be authentic. "It's not really who I am" is often your mind's way of convincing you to avoid doing things you fear. The goal of pickup is really just to face your social fears. You can boil it down to: Go out to busy places with lots of girls Talk to lots of the girls there Push yourself to lead and express yourself authentically Either get rejected and move on, or build up some attraction Repeat You don't really need to look up lots of pickup theory or advice. You learn by experience. Although some of the general guidelines pickup theory gives you are pretty good at getting you to avoid making really silly mistakes with girls, like being needy, writing poems for girls you barely know, or hanging around orbiting girls who are clearly not interested in you etc. If you go out to clubs or bars, you'll see this isn't true pretty quickly. I often see fairly average looking guys going home with pretty attractive girls. They don't seem hyper masculine or manipulative. Most of the time they're just magnetically authentic, fun to be around and not creepy.

Posting a stream of half naked pics, a pic with a gun, and some random high selfies at home over the course of a couple hours (without any context) looks more like insanity than sanity Especially given Leo's generally pretty grounded personality. Add to this the fact that Leo takes a fuck ton of psychedelics, and that people in the spirituality/self-help community have a tendency to go off the rails or even commit suicide, and it doesn't paint a great picture If it was one of your friends who did not normally behave like this then you would definitely be very concerned. I'm not even trying to suggest people should have been concerned for him as much as I'm suggesting people were justified to feel weirded out by it Anyway, it's clearly not insanity. I think it was more a case of being out of touch with how instagram is typically used more than anything

If you are going to use a certain social media platform, you are kind of expected to conform to its social matrix. For example is it authenticity if you walk around naked in the street? I mean, technically yes, but it is not in the least bit grounded or sane and people would be correct to question your sanity for doing that A lot of what Leo posted on Instagram was similar in that it did not conform to how people normally use the site, which is probably why it came across so bizarre and concerning to a lot of people Authenticity is good, but you still gotta follow the limits of whatever medium you are using or you appear really ungrounded and out of touch I assume it got taken down, don't know by who or why