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Day clubs are pretty comparable to night clubs. Though there are typically less people dancing, it's slightly less chaotic and social overall, and it's less common for people to hook up directly from a day club than a night club. This is because in a day club everybody still wants to spend the rest of their day doing stuff, not going home and hooking up.

The language used in parts of this thread is unnecessarily abrasive and dehumanising. "It's a men's thread" shouldn't mean that the men here are allowed to talk about women like they're evaluating the quality of a piece of meat. The same applies when you read content in women's dating spaces and you see them talking about men like they're evaluating a bank account. It's bad when either gender does it.

Yea, exactly. Half the dudes in this thread would get quite upset reading r/FemaleDatingStrategy and say that the women are gold diggers and materialistic etc. then in the same breath write out shit like what’s in this thread.

Racism is about race..... The reality is that most people are very selfish, regardless of gender. Even you are being selfish: "fuck a women and be done with it". You're doing the inverse of what you accuse women of. "Women only want resources, they're leeches and provide no value back to men" is your argument here, yet if you just fuck a woman and drop her you are doing essentially the same selfish thing in reverse. Taking as much as you can while giving as little in return.

Alright dude

Racism?? Lack of integrity of women? What?

I'm going to be honest, this has not made it any clearer what point you're trying to make

To answer the core question of the thread and keep this vaguely on topic, the most unusual places for me are: Against a tree in a park at night, the risk made this incredibly hot for both of us In an empty office building after leaving a club, was meh, the overhead lights were very bright and not very sexy On top of a mountain, really hot Outside on a bench behind a hostel with two girls, no idea how we did not get caught, but obviously incredibly fun and hot

Can you expand on what you mean here? I don't quite understand what your point is

From my research, I only found two studies that are even vaguely implying anything like what you said. One found small amounts of male DNA in women’s brains. However, the researchers concluded it most likely came from pregnancies, miscarriages, male twins or transfusions. The study never tested sexual intercourse, and its author later called that interpretation “erroneous and misleading.” The other found that seminal fluid from a previous mate affected offspring size in one species of fly. However, this was a non-genetic effect and has never been demonstrated in humans. There is no evidence that women retain every sexual partner’s DNA or pass their traits to future children. Speak for yourself. I don't want a virgin GF, I want a girl who likes to fuck, knows how to fuck, and knows what she likes already.

Then post your facts and data dude

Yes, to a degree, be interesting, make assumptions and tell stories. But if you never ask questions throughout your entire date you will start to annoy her. Most of my female friends complain about how common (and tiring) it is to go on a date with a guy who always redirects the conversation back to himself and never asks her anything. The ideal is a balance of the two. Tell interesting stories and give her opportunities to tell hers as well by asking good questions.

Dude 😂 you're either trolling, stupid, or brainwashed Send links to your 'proof' of this since you're so confident

Small talk is important. Yes, it can be boring and superficial but it acts as a social lubricant towards deeper questions. You can’t just jump straight into the deepest questions. It requires build up. As Natasha said, on a first date small talk acts as a proxy for a person’s deeper attributes without creating a ton of tension. In a long term relationship, small talk lets you figure out each other’s energy and mood on a daily basis, and it shows you care about them. I would introspect on your dislike of small talk. I had a similar sentiment towards it and I realised that it was a defense mechanism. I had this view of myself as deep and intellectual and “above all of that superficial shit like small talk”. A lot of people actually find this mindset quite irritating or draining. Not everything has to be a deep conversation about truth.

Sorry, but you’re going to get absolutely railroaded if you fall for stuff like this. She was interested in money, not love or depth

It’s not the only thing that matters, but it’s certainly important. Good luck building a long term relationship if you don’t share a sense of humour. The long term stuff comes after a few dates. No point in planning a life together if you don’t even know whether you’d enjoy each other’s company at dinner, a movie, drinks, games, chilling at home etc. I have a strong suspicion that the people who look actively for a ‘life partner’ tend to be the type who jump from relationship to relationship and break up after like 6 months. You try so hard to force everything to be long term even if it isn’t meant to be, and then it blows up.

Ehm, no? Did I say it did I’m honestly not sure what point you’re trying to make here

Because laughter happens when you are relaxed and in the moment. Not when you're thinking about the future and evaluating if this is a person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. That puts you both in a job interview frame of mind, lots of pressure. I'm not saying it can't work to be clear, I just don't think it's optimal.

I think I agree with your points here overall, although going into dating with the approach of "I'm looking for a life partner" is very intense, and often quite off putting. It puts a lot of pressure on the situation and stops you both from being able to relax and have fun. You could argue that's good because you'll filter out incompatible people, but it's also very likely you'll be filtering out people who are a good match but prefer to ease into something.

What a clusterfuck of a thread 😂

Ehm, no, it isn't, at least compared to a human in many tasks it is orders of magnitude faster.

I actually don't think it would be great to have the maturity of a 50 year old while you are young. My evidence for this is that I spent my high school years trying to be as 'mature' as possible. That was actually the exact word I had stuck in my head as a guiding star. It's what I thought was the ideal mindset. "I should be as mature as possible, not like all of those other school kids who party, drink, and take drugs." That mindset through my teenage years is largely why I was so lonely and socially stunted in my early twenties, and I'm only just undoing the harm from that now. Maturity is overrated. Wisdom is a better metric. Life is meant to be fun and a bit chaotic, especially when you are young. And sometimes the wise thing to do is get fucked up and have a good time with friends.

I didn't say it was an exact comparison, just that there are similarities.

Sex is comparable to money. If you don’t have it, you’ll probably be pretty miserable. But it won’t ultimately fulfil you.

Most of the scientific studies on this are very flawed because they don't account for religious beliefs. Divorce rate correlate with higher body count, but causation is not proved. A big factor is that girls with a body count of 1 are much more likely to be religious or conservative and so divorce is basically not an option for them, even if it's the correct choice. When you look at the difference in divorce rate between people with a body count of lets say 3 and 10, where religion is no longer a factor, there is little difference detected scientifically. An increase of <10% if I remember correctly. Perhaps notable, but not really that significant.