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Yea, I hate going out with guys who are hyper-competitive. I can compete if I want, to but it just sucks the fun out of the night. I'd rather go out with people who's main goal is to have fun rather than to get laid. I've always gotten laid more when out with chill mixed gender groups anyway, mostly when I wasn't even trying. It makes you look more high status and approachable than being with a group of 5 thirsty dudes scanning for women on the dancefloor like meerkats. Also, ironically, I've found that the best wingmen are always women, married dudes, or gay guys.

If you're relatively good looking as a guy, "acting properly" can pretty much be summarised as "be sociable, meet lots of people, and don't be weird" and in many cases that will be enough. If you want to set charisma as your main goal then there is more involved. Being weird/unique is actually a good thing, but it can take a lot of practice to figure out how to express your weirdness in a way that is charismatic and not off putting.

Club nights aren't as popular with my generation or younger anymore. They typically seem to prefer what I'd call a 'bar with a dance floor' over a traditional nightclub. But that's just a preference, it's not like clubs are going to go away anytime soon. And these bars are good places to party. I will say this is very UK centred opinion as well. I have no idea what it's like elsewhere.

It’s usually just some light teasing or flirting that socially awkward pickup dudes have given a name to because they don’t know how to respond

It’s definitely not too late. I’d focus on making friends first though, having friends to do stuff with makes meeting women much easier

In some sense I agree with you, our society favours quick pharmaceutical fixes over long term healthy choices. That isn't really a secret, and yes, big pharmaceutical companies exploit this desire we have for quick fixes. But you are suggesting something even more extreme than this. You're suggesting that there is a natural quick fix available to anybody, which is being kept secret in some worldwide conspiracy. There are many problems with this thinking. Here are a few that come to mind: why do the rich and powerful, who are presumably aware of this conspiracy, still die of cancer and other ailments when simple and readily available vegetables could cure them? how many people would need to know about a conspiracy of this scale? probably several million people worldwide, what are the chances they all keep their mouth shut and the secret doesn't leak? any one of them could revolutionise the world at a moment's notice, yet for some reason they don't what is the mechanism by which, for example, broccoli, kills cancer cells? yes, eating healthy throughout your entire life will prevent many diseases, but you are suggesting that eating a specific diet can cure, not just prevent, cancer. That literally means there has to be a mechanism via which broccoli kills cancer cells if what you are saying is true

Sure they did, lol. Obviously if you eat healthy throughout your entire life it significantly reduces the chance of you getting serious diseases, it's a preventative/proactive measure you take over many years. But the idea that you could cure pre-existing late stage cancer with a temporary prescription of broccoli and camping just seems a bit delusional.

You should avoid pills and try to get pure powder/crystals. The pills are usually cut with all sorts of random stuff, harder to test, and dosage is harder to predict. Also, while MDMA is an amazing substance you really shouldn’t take it more than a few times per year or you’ll really start to fuck with your brain chemistry. The first few times you won’t get much of a comedown but my friends who have taken it more than a handful of times almost always have really awful comedowns now.

This sounds like a reframing of the feminist idea that patriarchal structures typically harm men as well.

AI is really bad at flirting, making coherent jokes and sharing genuine things about yourself to build connection. These are the three major ways you can actually engage with people on dating apps. You’d probably have to configure it to just push for drinks/coffee date pretty quick, that might work quite well, if you’ve got a solid profile.

I often see people who sleep around being shamed with comments like, “You’re going to catch an STD.” And yeah, the risk definitely increases the more partners you have, and the more partners your partners have had. That said, I’ve been pretty promiscuous over the past four years and haven’t caught anything. Honestly, I’m surprised by that, because I always grew up thinking that if you slept around, you’d almost certainly end up with an STD. I haven’t even picked up HSV-1 or HSV-2, which a huge percentage of people have. Have I just been lucky? Or is STD risk in general just overblown? I always use condoms carefully and practise safe sex within reason, which I assume makes a big difference.

Believe me, I know, and I’m not complaining It shocks me how many of my male friends are completely happy with having unprotected casual sex, and also how many of the girls I’ve been with were pleasantly surprised when I brought a condom out. In some cases some girls even asked not to use one. My overall point is just that if you religiously use condoms and get regularly tested, I think the STD risk of regular casual sex is pretty minimal. Herpes does scare me though, but again I’ve been very promiscuous and avoided it thus far.

There is a risk, but I think if you take proper precaution it isn't something that you need to be extremely anxious about. Obviously the risk is really high if you go sleeping around without a condom and you never get tested. Or if you don't know how to use a condom properly. With the exception of HSV, the majority of commonly caught STDs are treated with a simple course of antibiotics as well. HSV-2 is really the only STD that actually scares me because it's untreatable, has consequences and isn't prevented with a condom. But like I said, statistically I have almost certainly been exposed to it by now but somehow I don't have it. Getting someone pregnant unintentionally is a FAR bigger risk than an STD.

I just don’t see how this is true. Hard drugs will destroy your body, kill you, or leave you in financial ruin. The worst porn can do is fuck with your dopamine circuitry a bit. Even then, it’s only a risk to your mental health if you’re using it as a substitute for relationships or sex, or you use it so excessively that it interferes with your day to day life. Also “between alcohol and meth” is a massive range. Alcohol is probably one of the least naturally addictive drugs while meth is one of the most.

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There are also women who are extremely good looking but in a way that's kind of generic. Almost so perfect that they're boring to look at. That's probably a similar dynamic to what we're talking about here with guys that are 'too attractive.' As humans, we relate most deeply over our shared flaws. If you have no flaws then you become very hard to relate to and you also risk coming across as a bit boring.

Honestly, this post on his instagram doesn't give off the best energy either, especially the last bullet point. Where did you see that he was caught editing it @vinc3nc?

I'm going to give you a very comprehensive overview of my experience with nicotine and how to stop. I don't get the sense that you are fully committed to stopping yet, but I hope this will change that. Fucking listen up dude, I promise it's worth it. ---- I’ve been cutting down on nicotine lately. Over the past few weeks I’ve dropped to two 3mg pouches a day (this is a very small dose of nicotine) and the difference in my mental state is insane. Motivation is way up, everyday things feel enjoyable again, and for the first time in a year (since I started heavy daily use) I actually feel content. What’s strange is that I’m in a good place in life, but I still felt empty and couldn’t figure out why. I think it was the nicotine. High doses hijack your dopamine system so nothing feels rewarding except the next hit. It feels a lot like depression: even basic things like washing dishes, going to the gym, or working feel flat and joyless. When I first started vaping regularly I could feel my excitement for life slipping away, but the nicotine hit was strong so I didn’t care. Eventually the hit fades too and you’re just left with no excitement for life at all. It’s a terrible deal. I can’t stress enough how much I recommend cutting back. Not just for health, but for your brain. Feeling content in life is almost impossible when your brain is constantly flooded with nicotine. Here's exactly what I did to quit, and I have not found it that hard because it's been very gradual. You can absolutely do this, and I promise it's worth it. Buy a re-fillable vape with 10-15mg (1% - 15%) e-liquid Every two weeks drop to the next lowest e-liquid strength e.g. 15mg (1.5%) > 10mg (1%) > 6mg (0.6%) > 3mg (0.3%) Start taking 3mg nicotine pouches on weekdays (I was taking around 5 per day when I switched to this) instead of vaping, but allow yourself to vape on weekends Take fewer and fewer pouches per weekday (I found it much easier to switch to lower pouch strength than lowering vape content) Once you're taking 1-2 pouches per day, you can stop yourself vaping at weekends and only take pouches At this point the health impacts are negligible. Maybe you can stay at this level, or you can make the final push to quit. I haven't reached this point yet, but I already feel 1000x better than when I was smoking and vaping daily.

My instagram is pretty crappy. I just use it to keep in touch with some travel friends and see what they're up to or if we're nearby. It probably does help to have a decent instagram page setup with some good photos, it's like advertising your life to a girl in a similar way to a Tinder/Hinge profile. Having said that, I've gotten by without one. I mostly add girls on WhatsApp which is ubiquitous in the UK and Europe.

You made it sound like that here

There was chemistry there while we were talking, then when it actually came to the sex it just wasn't great. Oddly I've been in a similar position to the guy you hooked up with before too, the girl was in an open relationship and I met her off Feeld. It made me uncomfortable thinking about the boyfriend so I didn't want to see her again. I thought I'd be capable of handling it at first, but I could tell that she wasn't really that into her bf after we slept together, she was talking about how much more she enjoyed sleeping with me than with her BF. Something about that made me feel like I was ruining a relationship and I wasn't OK with that. Maybe that could be part of it in your case too.

Whenever I've hooked up with a girl and she wanted to hook up again but I didn't, it was because the sexual chemistry just wasn't there for me.

What in the fuck did I just read? I feel like I need to wash out my eyeballs with soap and water now

It kind of makes sense that the slower you move the more muscle growth you’ll encourage. The more time your muscles spend under tension the more they tear and the more they grow. The only hill I’ve ever seen Jeff Nippard die on say in terms of how your reps should be timed is that the eccentric should be at least 1 second. Realistically if your eccentric is shorter than 1 second you’re probably lifting with bad form or trying to lift weights that are too heavy for you