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I am interested in religion, so I ask questions about their religion, and listen.

I don't believe in solipsism as my NDE direct experience had other bubbles in it. I became aware of them, there were so many. Like ingredients in a soup. I trust my direct experience.

I love everyone's answers here and agree with them. Fear of death, I don't want to harm my family or anyone I know by doing that, I don't know what happens afterwards and I'm a predictable creature and prefer to know things beforehand, I feel like it is my mission in life to learn as much about death as I can before I die and that there is great wisdom in being open minded enough to let consciousness guide me to the answers - I want to have a peaceful death where I feel like it is 'meant to be' and that I did what I came here to do. I think coming here involves finishing some sort of process.

I think that there are two types and that they are hard to distinguish between. One is caused by the universe giving you messages and the other is caused by seeing things that confirm what you already believe to be true even if they are not - and this does happen a lot because they both come in through the same way - but one way you can tell the difference is by how high of a vibe you were in - another is to journal because if you are having syncs, they will show up in patterns that you are 'not' looking for - that seemingly happen out of nowhere - and you can pick up on them later, like you might have recorded some syncronicities in your writing during a high vibe state that you find at a later date that isn't part of a confirmation bias story. I have also had confirmation bias, and the difference is that cb leads to psychosis or is accompanied by it and the person's life doesn't get better, but worse - and they are acting like, kind of crazy. A synchronicity will lead a person towards an awakening experience while cb leads - often - towards psychosis or at the very least a collection of falsely held beliefs that go nowhere.

Do what feels the most comfortable socially, if you are an introvert and need more time alone then that is who you are. You're not running from your problems, imo, you just have a need for a different kind of lifestyle. I am very introverted, too, and prefer to spend large times alone to contemplate and integrate. I like to have time to enjoy creative thought processes and having a bunch of people around interrupts my time. If you're worried about getting too unsocial, that can be a problem and I have not found a solution for it for myself, but for you, if you have a social circle, try to maintain that as much as you can - just set aside a small portion of your day for the people in your life. Just my perspective as an introvert. Maybe write a list of all the positives and negatives and add them up, and whichever has more positives that resonate with you - go with that?

I wish I knew what happened, I feel like life is a journey to find out if we can stay open minded enough. It's almost like the memory and Knowing is right there, but also... not, you know? Idk.

@something_else That people are spending hours on this thread when they could be focused on other things? This was forum directed, not at anyone specific, either? So who's belt exactly?

Girl, indeed they would. Fair. I like that you can have a different opinion than me but not hit below the belt, that's cool, thanks. On top of that, this might not be the place to learn that "men are decent people".

@K Ghoul That's even worse, she sounds like she didn't know what she was doing. I'm so so sorry all that happened to you! No grandparents?

Damn, I am so sorry to hear that your poor mum and you, did she manage to get away from him?

@Preety_India He's too stupid and selfish to make anything for anyone other than himself, he wouldn't know how and if he did he wouldn't do it anyway.

@Etherial Cat This dating section is super below the belt when it comes to opinions it doesn't like, I ended up bowing out because I have other things to focus on than argue here. I literally don't have the time, tell me people, where are you finding the extra time for that?

@Preety_India We moved to the suburbs, but there are trees everywhere, I could do like a mini-retreat in the backyard during the summer months. Still, it would be nice to be able to afford one of these things - I have a lot of questions that perhaps a group would have answers to, and if it were a psychedelic retreat then maybe the psychs would have the answers. Maybe someday, it's something I might save up for at some point in the future.

I wish I could go, but that's way outside of my budget. I'd make good use of it, though.

@something_else You don't have your masculine core as just a part of you? Women usually have this as just the very core of who they are. It can be developed for sure, but most of it is just an instinctual free flowing kind of way of being. @K Ghoul We should learn how to use it. Maybe that is key - that women inherently have this innate power, but we just don't know how to activate it, or perhaps don't know when it is being activated.

@something_else Women are far from perfect, I am for instance, a woman who is a very flawed person and knows this. Women want a man that can protect them from the world and let them explore the world with you, too. That's what they want. Most women are still girls, because we aren't raised to become full women yet, and so women seek men who know how to lead more often than not, but lead with heart and soul and not their dick. We want to be able to let go of control. The world forces us to be so controlling of our environment, ourselves, who we are, we have to adapt to become whatever society wants of us - that all women want is to be able to drop all of that and be her feminine self, which is free flowing, open, girly, and fun. But most men don't know how to open a woman up. And the ones that do usually have "learned" this skill - it isn't natural, what comes from the heart, for those who learn it comes from their head instead. We don't even know how to open up ourselves, much of the time. Instead, the masculine does whatever it can to close a woman off, they view her as a body and not a soul, or as something that can be used as a means to an end. Femininity is ruined, and men did it. So we have to learn to be women ourselves - and once we do, we are free. From all men.

@Gesundheit2 At least I'm not telling her lies like, "they love you for your personality, heart and soul." I am benefitting from the things that are repeating here - I've learned so much, I will literally 'never' allow a man near me again if he has interest. I didn't actually know how bad men were until I spent a few years on this forum, had a few relationships, an absent father, let's not forget the molestation and "friend" trying to pimp me out behind my back. Oh yeah, men are WONDERFUL creatures. We should be singing their praises.

@Federico del pueblo You just want to argue to be right, basically. You don't want to look at the genuine issue, is that so many women are abused by your gender, treated like dirt, used, manipulated, murdered... WAY more often than my gender does to yours. My gender is about community and love, and yours is predicated basically on shit that humans should have evolved out of thousands of years ago. Aggressive, manipulative, and only capable of seeing women as an object. And of course, you have all these experiences from different women to back it up. I don't need to check my biases, you need to check why women develop them in the first place, it's not a chicken or egg kind of thing, you're basically arguing against someone who was abused by your gender - why should women trust abusers? They shouldn't... and I hate to say it, but most men are abusive, exploitative, ect. Or don't, let the woman learn that in her own way through trial and error, instead of having other women just tell the fucking truth of the matter - men don't view women properly, of course a woman develops biases over time, you can't screen each and every person, but when you go in with good intentions and people screw you over, and you learn why and where that comes from - it's too widespread to be a bias.

And it's not just me, you have many women here who live that reality. Who try and offer the very real experience of what it is like to be a woman, and are shut down, and told that their views are wrong for this reason or that reason, ect, ect. It's all the same thing.

@Federico del pueblo No, it's that you write in a way to provoke something and I'm not taking the bait. I don't need to watch any of Leo's videos on this or that - for one particular thing - which is that men don't treat or view women properly, and this is a huge problem - and something that young girls have to deal with to much greater degree. I don't spend much time in the dating section tbh - because you offer real world advice and it always devolves into this. This is advice from one woman to another on the reality of, I hate to say it, your gender. It is a harsh reality, but it is the truth. She will find out now, in her 30's or 40's, and it's better to find out now and to face the reality of what men are really about, then later. I've been through this, with multiple people, I've dated, I've had a few one night stands - I have outstanding pattern recognition - and I can tell you, that what I say is true - it doesn't matter what you believe, you're a dude, of course you're going to be biased and won't want to look at your gender for what it is.

Same here. I've been there, done that, now I'm here to offer the advice my daddy shoulda given me at a young age.

@Federico del pueblo You're not cool dude. Don't comment on what I write anymore. You're making this about me where it doesn't need to be. The reality this woman is being harassed by men... like you... and she deserves to know the truth about how men work. The difference between an incel and me is that I can get what an incel can't.