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Olaf got his results when he was younger. He used to be really good looking, like Justin Bieber. And for the girls in their youth, that is like maximim attraction. Now olaf lost his hair and aged like 20 years in 5. I don’t know even know how that’s possible.

How do you guys deal with loneliness? Fall is arriving here in Finland, it’s getting darker, wetter and colder each day. I have a ton of people in my circle, but none my true friend, which just makes it all the worst. How do you deal with it? I deal with it via art, music, crying, dancing and the little surface level socializing I do.

It’s time for you to focus less on quantity and focus more on quality. At this point, approaching 40 sets and not even getting once to a point of number closing is awful.

@Yimpa Much love Yimpa! Your love and positivity makes me happy 🥰

@Spiral Thank you for the comment and wisdom. I think I figured out the lonely part quite well actually. The way I am fixing it is that I am just deep on my life purpose, which itself is very fulfilling, but involves a lot of people not only in the art spaces, but also in the healing spaces - as my purpose is to combine dance art + dance therapy & healing + inner growth. So even tho most people I interact with are not super conscious, but they are conscious enough! And I get to do such fulfilling work with them, touching people deeply, transforming them, inspiring them. And this is just the start. I am building something that will compound in the decades to come. Such a fulfilling life atm, wow. Even tho it is getting pitch black, cold and wet here. My godness I get emotional thinking of the beauty that I will create for humanity. - - - - - The loneliness from me was due to breaking up a year ago and building friendships with completely wrong people (club people). I let that shit go in the summer and started building a much more aligned social circle, as was recommended here by others. This thread was started a while back and I am in a much more aligned place right now. Thank you everyone.

Can we have an in-depth discussion about this? In my personal life, I have been fluctuating between these two. I grew up being programmed for monogamous. But at my peak PUA and hippie phase, I was all for polyamory as it fit my narrative and goals. Then studying Leo from 2020 onwards, I came to realize that polyamory for many is just spiritual by-passing, as it was for me too. Now at this point, I am back to being for monogamy but there are people like Teal that makes strong arguments for polyamory. I would love me a hard core ”die on this mountain” partner to develop a monogamous relationship with, like how Naftali Moses promotes. Yet my experience with girls + the arguments people like Teal makes, makes me contemplate polyamory again too. But obviously this time from a place of maturity, as teal puts it. What do you guys think? What are you more for? What are the pros and cons? What are some less obvious reason for and against?

You are Yimpa 😉

I dm’d you.

You are seriously asking?

It’s like asking a stage orange money hungry materialist to seek God.

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@Lyubov It goes the other way around too. If you are too lax, you will lose many girls. Being persistent in a non-needy way is a skillset and a result of a great inner game. There is a middle way to this.

As a man, I test the girls all the time. I call it piss testing. Where I see how immature they are. I’m not even kidding.

Shit test doesn’t give the test justice. It’s frame testing or rather, confidence testing.

I take everything she says as a compliment. At the very least she is trying to please me, otherwise why bother with such nonsense.

I don’t recall you giving me any shit.

Thank you for asking Joy. Some people in my personal life learned about me being in this forum, so I’m just protecting my privacy. I will put up a new updated picture later. I love the work we do here but for a common folk (99% of people in my life), this can and probably is very threatening to the ego.

Word.

Again, I half agree with you. Depends on my mood, sometimes I disengage. But. If a girl is that rude, she herself is charging the tension and energy. Most of the hard work is already done by her then. It is quite easy to flip it on its head.

You are half right. There are some seriously harsh shit tests too and they have no playful intentions. Most shit tests I get are playful tho.

For me it has gone full circle. I’ve got to a point with my inner game where I don’t even realize shit tests are thrown at me. I pass them without realizing, as I don’t take anything they say seriously in the early stages.

Probably in order: 1. Have fun & Dance 2. Make connections that benefit my career 3. Dating opportunities & Making friends

Well said. I call it healthy game.

How’d you manage to fuck up so badly in such simple thing as texting with your experience

There is also macro momentum. If he has been actively doing it for 3 years, he has massive macro momentum. You don’t need to warm up that much when you are in such constant action. If he took a 6 months break and came back to game, I’m sure he would crumble fast without warming up properly.