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@Asia P By the brief description you gave, you dodged a missile. Don't look back. He's as low quality as a guy can be.

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My life was so hard. So evil. So normal. And so abnormal. But then I experienced love and connection beyond my wildest imagination. Most people dream of it. They yearn for it. They write poems and songs about it. But very few actually live it. It wasn't unconditional love. Just human love, in its most extreme forms, and in its highest levels. True love. It was so pure, so rare. I was so lucky to have it, even if it couldn't last. She had the purest heart. Innocent as a baby. And fierce as a soldier. One taste, and I could never go back. It changed my entire being. It healed me. It awakened me. I could never settle for less. I could never get over it. I could never get over her. 💔

If you truly want something, you will manifest it without any techniques. Desire is the key. It is the fuel for everything. And when you flow into the vortex, techniques become distractions. You just let the flow lead you and take you where you want to go. Just be clear about your desires and you will find a way. Trust your guts.

But many of your blog posts seem somewhat tounge-in-cheek. I can suggest fonts for that genre

@Leo Gura Try Cambria. It's newer, but looks similar, and reads better on small screens.

Thanks! I mean you'd expect that to be the standard on a forum that talks about God. Some people appreciate the breath. I'm generally careless with and unmindful of mine. But it's on my goal list.

General rule of thumb: Whatever body count a guy claims, divide it by 10.

Have you, really? I'm having a hard time digesting this thought. You say "incredible women" and then move on to the next dozen, as if nothing happened. That doesn't add up. Incredible people are rare, and you're claiming to have met like half a dozen already. And you're still looking for more. What are you looking for exactly? If you don't mind me asking. I think you're exaggerating about the quality of the women you've met, or maybe they were truly incredible and way out of your league that you couldn't keep them around, so you accepted the numbers game as a consolation prize.

That's such a low consciousness, materialistic, consumerist take. I can only imagine people who think like this having around 700 demons running around in their heads. Deeply disturbed individuals, lacking every amount of mindfulness. People are not numbers! They are not scores. Another person said here that you're thinking about women like a hamburger. But it's deeper than that. Thinking about hamburger as a casual thing to consume is the real problem. You don't appreciate the burger. You don't even feel it. You just consume it. And then you apply the same lack of mindfulness to sex. And then you claim that weight doesn't matter. And then you claim that health doesn't matter. And the tragedy is that you don't even know that you did any of that. Are you a robot? I hope you take this question seriously.

I have a little fun, yet powerful idea. I'm toying around with AI, trying to create a consciousness-language indicator --a score system for measuring the level of consciousness by language use. Most of the work done by AI. I'm mostly testing and seeing if it feels right. It will specifically target writing, and give penalties and rewards depending on how integrated/disintegrated the text is as a whole. It should be fun and useful. We'll see where it goes.

A dark personality could look exactly like you're describing. That's how they are effective in the first place. They project an image of perfect mirror of what they want you to think. And they get you from there. How could you tell that she's different? Or to be more specific, how do you distinguish between trauma and darkness? They're essentially the same -- a mix of selfishness with low consciousness. Damn! Now I'm feeling challenged. And I'm too confident of myself. I wanna try some Honestly, I think my awakening happened because I was fucked up by a dark tetrad. So it's all good in the end.

Always the first example that comes to your mind

I remember you talked about an ex of yours that would fake suicide threats to manipulate you. Yeah, I can see the extremity of such cases. But most people aren't like that. Most people are on a spectrum. They can behave selfishly sometimes, they can lose their temper, they can spread rumors, etc... That's all normal. We all go through these normal human experiences. Unless it becomes a consistent pattern. Then we are talking about psychopathy.

Oh, so now it's tetrad, not triad anymore. Lol okay. What I know is that these people are poorly understood. Sure, there are rare hardcore cases, hopeless lost causes. But the rest exist on a spectrum. Any of us could be one of them sometimes. Pop psychology makes it seem like anyone that shows one "evil" behaviour has a dark personality. But if you examine the stories thoroughly, the other person is often a participant in the drama, not just a victim of it, and when the drama becomes too much for them, they start pulling away or behaving aggressively, triggering the "dark" person's fears.

@Hojo It's hard to have clarity about biology with humans, but it's clear in cats for example. The cat mother loves and feeds and protects her children, until they can move. Then she abandons them and starts placing boundaries with them. They might even fight or kill one another.

Women understand logic. They just don't take it all too seriously. They're more realist with it. Emotions move them. Men are logical beings. They move with logic. To men, emotions are like old scars that hide painful stories underneath.

It's conditional in the sense that it requires the children to be small, weak, and needy. But from the mother's pov, that thought doesn't occur. She doesn't demand or require anything. She just sees her children and showers them with love. She gives, they receive. Simple, direct, basic. But once they grow up and become strong and independent, her love becomes more demanding. She doesn't see them in the same way anymore. They're physically and emotionally disconnected from her at this point. The relationship is likely loving but much more nuanced. As well, if the child has special needs that require more effort to take care of (an illness for example), to the mother they become a liability at worse, or a duty at best. The relationship is not loving anymore.

It's not love if it's conditional. It's benefit, convenience, survival, pragmatism, business, or anything similar. Love is free of expectations. It is its own sake. However, unconditional love is an illusion. There are always conditions for love to occur. At least a relationship of some kind. That doesn't make it any less love. It just highlights the limits of human emotions and experience. But you can love yourself unconditionally. This is the only valid/possible form unconditional love. And it's not selfishness.

Ugh... So much loaded terminology here. I'd suggest that questioning the terminology in this case is more helpful than engaging with it or using it as a framework to question.

I had a friend once who seemed to have gone through a failed spiritual awakening. We’re the same age. We shared classes during our last year of high school. He was genuinely intelligent and ended up becoming a dentist. Our spiritual awakenings probably happened around the same time, though we never spoke about it directly. My own awakening was a messy process. But I’m grateful for whatever happened, and happy with where I am today. I remember something from a few years ago: I was hiking in the city and meditating as part of my daily spiritual practice when I saw him. There had been signs for a week that I would run into him. Anyway, we started walking together and talked vaguely about our journeys and insights. He was deeply into philosophy—reading all the greats, especially the modern Europeans. Yet somehow, despite his knowledge and inherent intelligence, he seemed completely lost. Mistaking the map for the territory. One thing he said to me stands out. After I told him I was happy, even though my life was a mess, he said that wasn’t right and that I should see a psychiatrist (like he did) because "the correct" response to mess should be panic, not happiness. It turned out he had misunderstood the entire thing, treating it as something wrong rather than the rare gift it is—something to appreciate and hold onto. He was brainwashed by culture, convinced that he was wrong to think and question. He looked at the gift he had, threw it away, and replaced it with dogmas. Conformity killed his spirit, and so he never awakened. Now that I’ve completed my journey, I can look back and see clearly. I know exactly the differences between his path and mine. What’s interesting is that my awakening mostly happened by luck of the draw. I’m not smarter than him, not richer, not even as hardworking. Yet my specific circumstances allowed me to stay on the right path, despite all the challenges and difficulties. It was Grace's work, not mine. I have other people in my life with similar tragic stories, each with different twists, and none of them is awake either (yet). All they had to do was jump, but they didn't. They were too afraid and sought safety in what's known and established instead of what's right even if unknown. Grateful for everything—especially the clarity I have now. I wouldn’t trade my current state for any other.

I would say perception is more important than reality, especially for women. You can be mediocre in looks, or even ugly in some cases, and still get attraction from women. I've experienced this personally, and I'm a man. Once you get close to someone, the familiarity with them starts to affect your perception of them. A 6 can look like a perfect 10 once you're familiar and close enough. The inverse is correct as well, you can be 10 in looks and once you're close to someone they lose the attraction if you have a terrible personality. Or if you're abusive, you will leave the scale entirely (for healthy women). What you said probably applies to the context of pickup, superficial relationships, or one night stands. But that's not where the juice is at.

Everybody has an ego. No arguments allowed against this. But I'd argue that the link between health and ego is generosity. The more healthy you are as an ego, the more generous you are. And generosity doesn't mean giving endlessly or for free. It means looking with your mind's eye and following your heart, and then giving without mental or emotional investment or expectations. In this light, stingy egos are unhealthy. And the only (or main) way towards health would be developing generosity. I'm happy with this insight

Yeah, I too am finding it increasingly difficult to assess a girl's age by looks alone. There's always at least like 5 years range for error. She could be 25, but another one at 30 and another at 20 would look very similar. It's like they're being molded from the same plastic template. And it makes it harder to approach, because of the age gap. I'm 30, and don't want to hit on 20 year olds. And it's generally rude to ask a woman's age, so that makes it even harder. And even when you ask, they tend to lie about it. It's crazy. I think makeup is a big part of this phenomenon, but I like the input others have contributed here.