Gabith

I need to indulge myself here because you always deliver the best advice. Right now I feel like I'm going crazy, I can't stand being alone at home anymore, it's like I'm in a prison. I don't even want to listen to music, meditate or read a book like I used to enjoy when I was alone. I feel the need to see new people or just be with people/friends, to go out, to have new experiences. I know it's bad because there will still be days when I have to be home alone (that's +- 3 evenings a week these days). I did make a few decisions to evolve, move and see people. I signed up for a martial arts class but it's only twice a week. I don't have enough money to add a yoga class or any other activity that I would like to do in addition. Otherwise during the day I do street interviews and I'm thinking of doing them at least twice a week instead of once. I see friends from time to time. But there is this emptiness that has been created, as soon as I find myself alone I can't stand it anymore and I turn in circles in my house. I don't know what to do because although I am adding new activities to my life to meet people, to evolve and to avoid being alone often. I know that it is inevitable and that there will always be a few nights a month when I will be alone. And to think that I used to enjoy it, I used to sit down in front of a movie, a book or music and I enjoyed the calm and the solitude... I don't know why I became like this but I feel that I'm evolving, I had a lot of mystical experiences this year, I love myself and the others more and I see the reality in a more "meta" way You could help me, do you understand?

I thought it would be a good idea to create a forum section for meetings between forum members. Or maybe just a topic dedicated to that. I'm looking for people from Belgium to make friends and have nice conversation topics Is there people from Belgium ?

Do what you feel you want to do 17 is ok if you start young you'll get very good a it in your twenties ! just try to don't get obsessed with the girls / sex because it could be problematic in the future

I try to stop porn because I think it's bad for the bain and confidence I usually watch porn 1 to 3 times per month I feel a little bit bad too when I watch porn, I know it's not natural what are the benefits of stopping porn after 6 or more months ?

Today I visited my father and talked with him about reality. When he was young he was interested in spirituality, religions and philosophies and he had some "mystical" experiences. However, he told me that he stopped after a few years because he noticed that the experiences could be interpreted in different ways and that it was impossible to know the "ultimate truth" or Reality as a human being. Now he reads a lot and he is interested in the Reality and he tells me that the consciousness is not infinite or everywhere, he tells me that it is material and generated by a part of the brain and that when we sleep at night we lose consciousness. I said to him then why we dream if we are not conscious? He told me that it was a small part of the sleep and that when we do not dream there is no consciousness. He explained me that the consciousness can only be generated by the brain because we can see with the scientific material which parts are active during the sleep, meditation, death.... That once he will be dead, the consciousness will not be anymore. I answered him that the consciousness is not material and therefore it cannot die. That I believe that consciousness is what inhabits his body and that once his body dies, it will leave the body by force of circumstance. But he tells me that these are beliefs and that it is not verifiable. But now we can verify the activity of the brain and know where the consciousness moves. I find it hard to believe but he agrees that Reality is completely mystical, crazy and that we will never know the ultimate truth. However, I tell him that yogis in the past have done it and that it is only possible through non-thinking and not through the intellectual. But he doesn't believe me and tells me that it is their interpretations of their experiences that are wrong and that it is their brains that produced these states. I am very open minded and thought to myself "WHAT IF IT WAS THE BRAIN THAT PRODUCED ALL OUR PERCEPTIONS OF REALITY, EXPERIENCES AND ENLIGHTENMENTS INCLUDED?"

I am 28 years old, I have been very insecure for 26 years. However I did sreet interviews 2 years and every year I still managed to date 1 to 3 girls a year but it was nothing serious or it lasted very little time. Also I didn't really like the girls, I went with them because I was needy. And ended up in toxic relationships Now I have evolved a lot after a breakup, I have more confidence in myself and I finally love myself. I've started street interviews again but I've never been a good flirt and I'm uncomfortable if I feel that the girl attracts me. I don't feel very attractive even though I like myself and think I'm average. I was wondering what I can do to become attractive to women? I see a lot of them because I do street interviews so sometimes I talk a little bit with the girl after the interview if I see that she is interested in me and what I do. But when the girl in front of me is pretty, even if she congratulates me for what I do or asks me questions, there is this internal dialogue of "I don't think she can like me because she's too pretty" "she must be interested in better looking/charismatic guys" "she must have so many guys around her that I don't have a chance" this kind of thoughts, and I believe it unfortunately. However I love myself, much more than a year ago, I love my personality more than before, it's just that I'm a bit too thin and I'd like to gain weight but it's very difficult, I've been trying to gain weight for years and unless I do something violent every day by eating a lot, I don't have any results. And if I eat less only one or two days, I lose 1 kilo directly! So what would be the best techniques / things to do to become more attractive to women?

How are you sure that it is not produced by your brain ? The simple fact that the brain exist and that we experience reality because of it is mindblowing but maybe there is death and no infinite consciousness, all our mystical states are produced by our brain and it is so powerful and mindblowing that we believe it is real ?

How do you verify that ?

@LastThursday Thank you. I already dress well but I let my hair grow, I want long hair. I don't know if I'm ready to cut my hair just to attract more women. I will attract women anyway even with long hair I guess. I have a lot of work I will apply what you say About talking plenty are you sure ? I've read a lot of time that the less you talk and the more you let the other person talk about her, the more she will feel good because she sense that I'm interested and listening to her without monopolizing the conversation.

Can feeling or intuition lie? At the beginning of a virtual training, the first time I saw one of the girls, I had a feeling that I was attracted to her, I liked her calmness, she had a beautiful face. As the weeks went by, I learned that she was interested in meditation and that she sometimes spoke wise words. So I decided to send her an email to talk about it and she answered me quite quickly. When I read her email, I had a kind of feeling that we should and would meet for real, become friends or lovers and that it would happen. I wondered if I was wrong or if the feeling was still reliable?

Does any girl have the ability to squirt ? I tried multiples times on my ex-girlfriend after watching leo's video but it didn't work

30 minutes ago, after smoking a joint, I travelled in my armchair accompanied by music (Camel, Porcupine Tree). I had a moment where I realized that if there were no thoughts, there would be no reality or "me". It is literally our thoughts that create and have created our reality, some of which are held more collectively and feel more real and materialize. Like the creation of countries for example, or science. I also realized that I was the music. And that if I were separated from the music then it would be impossible to experience it (hear it, feel it). So I must be the music if there can be no separations. I tried to see that I was more than the music, ALL of it, and I couldn't realize that as if it was too hard to see. I wondered afterwards who the thinker was. The thoughts come, they don't seem to belong to me. But what makes them feel like they belong to me is the fact that I am attached to them or believe them. But who is the thinker, how can the thought exist? Thought = consciousness? Is reality only thoughts? If there were no thoughts created, how could reality exist since there would be no perceiver? For there to be a perceiver, it must think. If he doesn't think, he doesn't exist anymore, he is not. What is the consciousness, why and how it exists? There are many things I can't understand.

I'm still dubious about the fact that no fap has many benefits, I wonder if it's not exaggerated by people who talk about it because it has become a fad. I watch porn 2 to 5 times a month. I know that it is bad for the brain and that it can bring me to stop, which I am doing now. But not jerking off at all, what could it bring/improve in me? How much days to see the changes ? Thanks

It's only 2 to 5 times a month ... I was thinking that it is not very much because my friends jerk off everyday or every two days... Maybe I was wrong

@impulse9 Moments of pleasure lol

I've always wondered if this song was about awakening

I have a friend for a few years with whom I got along well. But for a few months I don't feel comfortable with him anymore. He seems to me very egocentric, since I know him he is often in depression, he complains a lot, he judges a lot the people who disrespected him or who did not act as he would like. He thinks about the past all the time, imagines a lot of negative scenarios for the future. I've talked to him a lot to try to help him but even though he agrees with what I say, he doesn't do anything to change and he continues to live complaining and playing the victim. He has also developed paranoia in the last few months, he checks 10 times if his car is locked, he goes to park far away or he thinks he has less risk of being robbed, he always imagines a lot of scenarios that seem impossible or ridiculous. Yet he is not bad, he seems nice but I feel that something is wrong. I'm writing here because I'm wondering if he is toxic or not and if I should cut contact with him? I have the impression from some experiences with meditation that the people who have the most problems are also the most self-centered. And can be toxic without meaning to be Translated with www.DeepL.com/Translator (free version)

Hi I used to be someone who liked to be alone from time to time, and I didn't mind. Since a few weeks I feel like I have changed a lot, for the better, I love more, I often have moments of "intense presence" where I feel the beauty and craziness of the simple fact that I exist and I am often fascinated to look around at the people, buildings, stores, languages, beliefs,... I see so clearly the toxicity of society (overconsumption, useless gadgets, fast food, advertising everywhere, superficial beauty...) that it doesn't bother me anymore but I'm surprised how many people fall into the trap without asking questions. Anyway, to get to the main point, since a few weeks I feel bad when I'm alone, I want to meet new people because I want to discover other personalities than my friends I've known for a long time. I want to make new experiences, to go out more often to the point that I sometimes feel bad if I am alone at home the whole day or the whole evening. I do street interviews for my YouTube channel once a week but it's not enough, I have a hard time making friends in this context and I don't know how to do it and where to start... Do you have any advice, have you gone through the same kind of change? Thanks

I have access to Ving Tsun lessons not far from home But I don't have a clue about what it is

what are the best martial art to learn how to fight and defend ourself ?

This morning I read a page in 366 Meditations Daily Stoic and it talked about effectiveness and the importance of doing the opposite of what you normally do that doesn't work. I thought of Leo's video where he said he was doing the opposite of what people do to get a girl (telling women how small his sex was etc...) And I also saw this clip from Seinfield's show where the character decides to do the opposite, eat healthy and accost a woman to tell her "I'm George, I don't have a job and I live with my parents" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Y_6fZGSOQI At the moment I am alone and happy but I often want to share love, give tenderness and have a wonderful time during a sexual relationship with a woman I am attracted to. Since a lot of experiences with meditations and psychedelics, I'm more confident than I used to be and more in the present, so I know that I would be easily out of my head during sex time, I would embrace every seconds of it. I see a lot of people because I interview strangers in the streets for my youtube channel so I meet a lot of women but I never flirt if there is no feeling (alchimy). And the feeling rarely happens. So I was wondering if I meet a girl I like, what could I say to try to attract her? Do you think that if I say that I live with my parents, I'm unemployed and I say that I have a small sex it could work or it's a bit more complex? Thanks guys

Do I have to act like i'm detached and not interested in the girl I'm talking to ?

Because it shows her that I'm confident and that I don't need to try to impress her like every other guys usually does with her ?

Imagine living as a poor person, a rich person, a psychopath, a scientist, a Buddhist, a racist policeman, a slum child, a Muslim, a beautiful girl, an alcoholic, an African, a Chinese, a Dane, a movie star, Boudda, Jesus, Adolf Hitler, a blind man, a deaf man, Trump, a communist, a Nazi, a garage owner, a psychic, a schizophrenic, a nihilist, an atheist, a hippie and more ad infinitum (it never ends) whether you live through an animal, an insect, a human, a "particle. .. Imagine how different you would have a vision of Reality and who you think you are. Each person would have a radically different perspective, a whole lot of different beliefs, ideas about right and wrong, values, things you like or don't like, the idea you have about sex, love, society,... Your vision of Reality would be different in each life experienced and none would be more true than another, they are all subjective. And yet it exists, something allows all this to be created, to happen at this precise moment or you read. And this "something" is Reality. This Reality is objective, it exists independently of all human thoughts and beliefs, it exists and that's why we are here, conscious. Reality can be experienced through states of non-thinking (meditation, contemplation, some drugs that can help etc...). Humans who experience Reality often call it mystical experiences, awakening, enlightenment... If we never do this, we live stuck in our subjective perspective and we live with our idea of Reality thinking it is true when it is false and subjective. We live through the "ego", the identity we have created for ourselves based on our experiences, our family, our situation, the name we have been given, the nationality we think we have, etc. I'm may be wrong of some things, I'm still a beginner into spirituality (6 years is short)

Enjoy yourself ! You have eternity to experience everything