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@SageModeAustin two months ago I was scolded by my boss for being honest .. he said are you a saint ?! Can't you lie and manage such small things ! I was so sad and angry after that conversation.. :-( I am a service guy ... I don't want to be a sales guy...

@a e l i you can do vedio calls with your friends and family.. practice starts at home..

@Buba possibly every one has a different technique that works for them I guess.. Could you share about this psychoanalysis and how it works and share the step wise procedure of how it's done ?

@Kiko okay.. I have personally not seen it but what is it about that series that scares you ? Is it some charecters in it or some animal or some environment that triggers the fear. Is it the thoughts about the charectors environment or animal that triggers the fear? Let's try things that work for you ? Every week we can try one technique ? Consider journalling your emotions and thoughts next time you feel such an episode for at least one week. You might come up with the answers yourself. Or at least gain some clarity and I sight on it, but do it regularly for a week and force yourself to think about why you are really getting so afraid? What is it about that thing you are getting so afraid of ? What are your thoughts about it ? Do you feel any body sensations while afraid ? Could your past be responsible for these emotions? How could you let go of the past ? How could you let go of the fear ? Could there be any breathing techniques that could make me calmer ? Journalling before, after or during your episode is your call..I think you could start by journalling every day in the morning..

@Kiko what it is about the night that terrifies you ? Like what kind of scary things do you imagine ?

@ShardMare get a girl friend and have real sex. Read books on attraction and about masculinity. Learn techniques of semen retention and pc exercises and penis massage Watch vedios where you can learn the art of seduction. Become aware that you are getting aroused looking at a electronic device and pixels on the screen.

@SerpaeTetra the thought of failure is the reason most people are unsuccessful, and the thought of pain is the reason most people suffer. Honestly I didn't understand what you are trying to say here could you describe it more ?

@Thought Art have a relationship with another male and see how that works.

@Name the most important thing about dealing with backsliding is knowing that homeostasis exists . When you are in the middle of backsliding observe yourself and think to your self that it's your duty to get back on track because that is what you want. And get back on track immediately. Make a thread on the journalling section and everytime you backslide eight about it, also write about the times you manage to stay away and how you feel then ... Bro this is 2020 a new decade the last decade is over this is our decade the decade of the self actualizers we are strong and no one and nothing keep us stuck except ourselves. Let's rise to this occasion of this new decade and not beat our selves us when we backslide in whatever endeavour but get back on track immediately instead. We can do it, you can do it, get back on track and work on something you really care about. I too struggled with porn alot but when I couldn't get it up after finally getting girlfriends I was depressed and even after that I quit after 2-3 years ... Man learn from my mistakes, you want to have the best sex ever you want to be more productive with time and not jack off to some pixels on the screen. Just do it man get back on track every time you are not watching it you are on the progress lane. All the best we will win because that what we want.

@lifeisagame you can also switch the pendulum to the extreme by not giving a fuck about what people think. Use affirmation and visualizations for like 3 to 4 months and see if anything changes .. Of course acceptance and compassion for yourself can be helpful too.. Another good way would be trying enquiry, Google 'the work' and see if that helps you 4 questions that can change your life. Most importantly if you think any of this information anybody has given you makes sense or is useful ask your self how will this change your behaviour.

@bewustgeluk try a new method of meditation.. a good magician has many tricks in his bag right ? I would suggest that guided meditation in actualized.org vedios where you keep pushing out if your skull.. Practice self love and acceptance learn how to hug your self maybe that would be helpful. Eliminate wheat, soy, corn, sugar, and dairy and see if it helps. Read some books on auto immune diseases. Use this lockdown as an opportunity to learn new skills or practice hobbies you did as a child.

@Rilles all I had to do was to stop bad habits like smoking,weed,junk food, porn and install new habits like reading meditating yoga exercise and pc exercise. This took like 5 years after a lot and lot of homeostasis.. and I'm still in doubt if the change is permanent or not cause it's been just 4 months.. But whatever it is however I thought I suffered and I was fundamentally flawed I never gave up and kept on trying again and again sometimes took me lot of time to get back on track but better late than never... Now I'm working on success in career which I have never really taken seriously all my life... And I have found my life purpose in the last 5 years (slow but I have found it throught the life purpose course) but I think to get there I need a intermediate step and get very successful first... So when you work on your self and change your self image and become more confident and high on integrity social anxiety seems to just melt away.. Practical advise to follow: find one thing most important to you and do it.. Then see how how your high on integrity... Social anxiety is just like performance anxiety the less you worry about it it will easily dis-solve.. Also not giving a fuck about what people think helps a lot.

@Leo Gura oh gosh leo this is a fuckin tada moment I don't remember if I read this in the past but shit man... I have been playing the am always guaranteed to loose game now in the past few months I have been winning but this game is coming up pretty often.. Can you give me a technique or an affirmation to counter this game ? I will try to use awareness too but some technique would be very helpful..

The lower self always wins, You keep forgetting, You go unconscious, You keep reacting, Unconsciously.

@zeroISinfinity yes

@XYZ i don't think I can explain the unexplainable. But I have had an insight which might already been taught by others. To experience being focus on emptiness use distraction as a bell to focus again.. However I realized this technique the practice of this is very difficult for me at the moment.. so focusing on breath or body awareness could also help..

Happiness is an attitude. You can be happy when you take ownership of your own life. Unconditional happiness is when you're a total victim yet you remain happy. This could be only possible if you were really funny on the inside.. But when you make a commitment towards happiness, you kind of start taking ownership of your life and refuse to be a victim. Happiness is a attitude.

@BobbyLowell yes that's true but now i feel I must reconsile with the people I have problems with as it could be my own projection.

I get this feeling that people don't like me... Because I don't like to share things with them and I don't expect anything in return too but their vibes are not very good... I feel like everyone wants something from me... Why should they get anything from me? I don't get anything from them... I just want to detach from all and not give a fuck but always I come back in the same loop feeling bad because of others opinions of me... I cannot get along with people after some time...initially I can get along very well but I ultimately cannot. I hate people they think that I'm selfish but the truth is that everyone is selfish.

@Wisebaxter i cut down on weed cigerette and junk food all together and of course alcohol too... Food gives me the most cravings so once a week I can eat some junk food if I want to.. It's been more than 100 days now I used 2020. New decade new life auxim.

This problem is solved now through pc exercise and massage

I just realised that I am suffering from erectile dysfunction, its very hard and emotionally taxing, I am unable to maintain erections. All I want to do is make my woman happy but its sad to realise that I can't. I feel so so so so low on confidence and self esteem, can anybody help me out please. Can lack of concentration be the cause? Can lack of confidence be the cause? Can fear and worry be the cause? Is this condition reversible, have some compassion and reply to my post. Most of the time no one even replies to me. Sometimes I wish that I'd never been born at all...

Is there anyone else on this forum ? Just like me ? Who always tries to change ... But never succeeds. .. it's been 4 years now I've been trying to change trying to quit smoking, trying to find and live my life purpose but always I get stuck in the same behaviour patterns. I tend to feel bad on a regular basis not living up to my full potential not being able to change... I have stopped watching leo too due to the advanced topics he now covers how can I get back in track, I feel so lost and frustrated.. I need to make quick change..

@mohdanas hi mohdasnas glad to meet you I have made a lot of progress these last 4 months, have gone nofap for 90 days had penetrative sex 3 times just finished a solo meditation retreat of 50 hours not neglecting my day to day activities..found my life purpose and developed a plan to get there.. made a vision board and have learnt yoga too and application of knowledge is also taking place.. Hope you are fine and everything is good with you..

@Shmurda thanks for the advice I wish I could do that but I am working from home and cannot avoid work responsibilities at least have to check emails from time to time... but that's a lot for your advice really appreciate it will try doing more hours today.. ?