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@liamnewsom202 in my last two relationships my girlfriends had no interest in whatever I did.. nevertheless they always supported me, and were not critical about things I love doing. More important than common interest is you find someone with common values. The value of open-mindedness will allow to accomodate the differences.

@paprika could it be that you are resistant to the thought of being financially independent. Could it be that you want certainty and comfort which you find in your employers ? Are you in touch with your deepest values ? Could it be that you are stuck in wage slavery? Are you afraid of letting go of the glass of milk to find the quart of milk ?

@Shiva99 the lawyer who prepares the best case wins the case. As mentioned my Mr. Hill adversity brings with it the seed of an equal and opposite equivalent. You could use this as an opportunity to tell your future recruiter how you overcame your weekends and are ready to take on new challenges. Tell him how you did it and why you are so confident that you have overcome it. Give him strong reasons to why he must recruit you. Learn about the recruiter and learn about what you will be doing, practice your art. Read the book think and grow rich there is a specific section for this on how to apply for jobs.

@Itsokimok The one thing you would want to change is your thought patterns. If you really want to succeed in your life purpose or for that matter any aspect of life make sure to.eliminate negative thinking in that particular aspect. When you sit down and work on your purpose only allow positive thoughts. To deal with this limiting beliefs you got to open your mind up to the possibility of becoming the hero on his journey and getting the holy grail. Imagine at 46 you would develop mastery in your purpose and be world best I'm sure you could put at least 6000 hours in your purpose in the next 10 years. Now in contrast to that if you continue believing that you are too old how far will you go ? Criticizing is truly a waste of time so instead go take the right action. One way to bust through fear is to do yeh thing you fear anyways ..

I got a tongue tie .. Can this hamper my progress ? Currently I'm doing the tongue related exercises how much I can but I can't benefit much from this I guess.

@Apuk how did you exactly change the default position? That was a place for attraction which you found ? If you could find the place controlling the erection that could solve ed and pe problems in men. Of course you need to write down the exact steps to access it too

@Dlavjr the only benefit is that you don't release your load watching porn, which makes your more horney to chase girls in hope of having sex and being able to release your load. Also it can help cure porn induced erectile dysfunction.

@Oliver Saavedra you got to balance between people and doing your act, you probably already know that as it is your question no. 3 .. List out the most important people in your life. Set aside some time for social interaction daily, everyday you could ' connect with one of the person of the list ' you can decide the amount of time you are able to give even if it's 15 min a day if you continue to make connections it will have a huge impact over time, focus on the quality of time over quantity.. maybe you can give more time on some days and less time on another days, see what suits you the most. As per the book big leap this is a hidden barrier Outshining my siblings I'm assuming it is yours too in your second question(Outshining everyone). Work on this barrier and notice the attitude of millionaires since they are in the top 1 percent they have outshone the remaining 99 %.

@Jordan94 ear plugs

Critical topic for self actualizing.

@iceprincess obsessing over your ex is just like your dream and fantasies. You got to keep feeding them to keep them alive.

@Someone here 1. focus on doing the things you want to do, even when you smoke don't guilt yourself as you have done the most important things 2. Practice kriya yoga/ breathing techniques like deep breathing or slow repetitive breathing as its a vaccine to overcome any addiction. 3. Meditate as it will give you more mindfulness towards your inner dialog imagery and feelings that trick you to smoke. 4. Get a support system like friends or family who will encourage you to stop, ask yourself why do you smoke? Or need to smoke ? It's just inhaling air and exhaling it out .. so why do it ? 5. Try self hypnosis by Steve g Jones, you will find it in you tube, at least for the initial stages it can help you, once you gain momentum maintain it. 6. Willingness is a state of mind, because you are willing you will succeed be willing, be willing to do whatever it takes to succeed. 7. Each time you control your impulse, you build your willpower up.

@Elham nice thought meditation is good any time of the day..

@Anna1 this Bollywood song has your name in it too

@Flowerfaeiry break up as soon as possible.. you know what's right for you, there is no use staying in a toxic relationship it will only make you feel bitter. You are strong.

@Anna1 hi Anna, would you like to listen to a kawali ? Its this genre of music. I hope you enjoy it. Listen to the whole song if you have the patience and let me know if you like it.

@Milos Uzelac what is the most important bad habit that if you quit, you feel that it would make a huge difference in your life ? Quit that habit and install a new one similar to that habit, for eg. You identify that you want to quit watching porn, great now install a new habit of watching instructional vedios on teaching. Or say you identify that you are negatively visualization a lot of stuff and want to quit negative thinking, replace that with affirmations and visualizations for 90 days straight. One habit at a time for 90 days is the solution. This is a fact that I learnt from Leo Each time you control your impulse your building your willpower up. Notice that the more number of days you go without a bad habit the easier it becomes to resist it. It will take a year or so to rewire your subconscious mind but you got to be consistent. Have a powerful vision for yourself it's one of the most important things to have in life it can motivate you to stop procrastinating it can fill your life with positivity it will inspire you to stop wasting time on things that are not worth it. Two more important advices for you as a bonus ;-) : one is slow and mindful breathing, focus on your breath, and the second one is body awareness. Wear a rubber band to remind you of these, but again Install one habit at a time, easily and effortlessly. As Gay Henrix said 'Even though insights are important, stabilization of those insights are equally important.'

@Moon somewhat I agree to you too, however feeling the anxiety completely is a form of doing too. Feeling the emotion completely while you are doing nothing about the situation (not taking the right action) that is causing the anxiety is not going to help the situation too. The context for this advice is for the people who are anxious about certain situations that can be changed through actions. So we can reframe this advice in this way. Next time any one feels anxiety or worry due to any situation completely feel into the situation, use body awareness or mindfulness to do so, and after this as Markus Arelius said that if you are distressed by anything external it's not the thing itself, but your own estimate of it which you have the power to revoke at any moment; realise that you are the creator of your own emotions, and with this understanding be calm and cool BUT always DO something that could help the situation be better. I would like to give certain examples to which this advise could apply (recontextualization) as it is not ment for all situations like a death or something where you can't actually so anything about it.. when I wrote this post I was referring to more mundane situations like your boss is angry on you for not doing some work,than do it; if you want to make an impact in the word but don't know your purpose, than find it; like your bike brakes down, than call the mechanic or start repairing; you want to buy a new house, than save money for it. You just do it and do it and do it until the job gets done. In situations like this always be biased towards taking action, of course getting in touch with your anxiety can help you, but always take the right action. YOU CAN ACT YOURSELF INTO RIGHT THINKING BUT CAN'T THINK YOURSELF INTO THE RIGHT ACTION.

So when you have an anxious thought what do you do to overcome it ? Meditation,yoga, exercise ? Those are all good strategies to prevent anxiety and fear in the long term and be more grounded and I do recommend all of them, but what do you do on a micro level ? Taking the right action. So the next time you are anxious or worried about your boss yelling at you, then take the right action do the fucking work it takes to be praised rather than criticised. The next time you are worried about having a sickness do a fucking medial test instead of googling up various symptoms and checking it for hours together. The next time you are anxious or worried about not having enough money to pay your bills, find a fucking job, save the money, be mindful on where yoh spend. Start a business, discover what you love doing, create a tangeble product. Just do it, just fucking do it. I have realised the more action you can take over something the better you will feel and the more easily you will overcome anxiety. One of the key insights to live a profound life to to take action. Always remember this trick when you are stuck or feeling like a victim. Get in the action habit, if you are a unrepentant slacker and don't take any action at all, start building momentum start building micro momentum in everything you do. Maybe start with just small things like cleaning your living room and slowly build up to bigger things. Just do it.

@Patrick Lynam did you like my poem ?

@Patrick Lynam since you just had an emotional release, maybe you need to take things slow for a while, this is just a phase and it will too pass ... The brightest day is just before the dawn. Just focus on small things like eating sleeping etc. For some time or even some days .. do basic tasks like cleaning etc.

Since we are all going to die anyways why don't make the most of it and die. It does feel good to feel good. Why not spent life doing what you love, why not create your own meaning to life ? Why not savour the magic of nature and infinite intelligence all around us ? It's certainly better than closing oneself to the beauty and divinity of the universe.. Open up to the infinite love all around, Open up to your inner word, You will find magic all around you , When you see the oyster creating the pearl. And just as that pearl is just a stone, You can give it meaning; increase its worth , So so can you also create meaning, In the cycle of death and birth. (Wow I'm so amazed that how I could just write this poem while replying to you ... This is definitely what it means by the universe speaking to itself. - infinite love :-D

@Patrick Lynam why do you feel like this ? Did you know that mahatma Gandhi was not enlightened but led the whole country towards freedom ? That was a pretty meaningful act. If he can do something so meaningful without getting enlightened you can too. But don't stop researching on how to get enlightened as if that's so meaningful to you you must become a vehicle for that vision of yours.. There are many vedios already on what to do and what kind of experiences you will get after doing them.

I reached to the maha mudra part just last week. And for the past two or three days after touching my hands to the toes and reciting om for 6 times focusing on the center of the eyes when I come back up and exhale I experience a sharp head ache (at the centre of my forehead above my eyebrows ) for few seconds, am I doing something wrong ?

@Matt23 that is the feeling of emptiness or the void probably? I felt that similar effect when my family and myself shifted from one place to another when I was younger. Also I experienced it when I was going to a break up. Actually now just before speaking to you I got a msg from my manager and was experiencing it, I'm focusing on this post and on rendering good advice to you to overcome it right now. So try concentration/meditation and see if it helps you. As when you focus on something outer than your feeling all your energy and focus is directed towards that other thing and you won't feel the feeling inside. Also you could focus on body relaxation and letting go of those physical sensations. You will notice that it's not permanent and the sensations will change or pass. Accept impermanence.