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@Chives99 The key is to find the balance.

@The Don how about an old school perspective? The root cause could be lack of confidence. What do really confident people do, such that they feel super confident?

@Wisebaxter thats a great accomplishment self acceptance is very powerful. Congratulations on doing it did you use any specific technique ? Of yes than please share.

@Javfly33 I forgot to mention, regardless of your decision alwaysalways use condoms, not using one is a strategic blunder.

You are making her your priority. That's what a woman doesn't want. Moreover making her your no. 1 priority may lead to neediness, possessiveness and also envy and jealousy.

@assx95 and what is your idea about love ? Like what is love for you ?

@Javfly33 ask yourself this question and you will know better than anyone else the answer to this question.

@capriciousduck i was addicted to porn all my life, from 13 years of age untill 28.5 years of age. Finally this year I had a break through in my personal development. I went for 90 days without porn and masturbation. But the thoughts and feelings Don't go away, (unless you want them to) infact it becomes stronger(if you want it to) you will be attracted to girls you see even more and you will be able to ravish them even better. All depends on what u want ...

@Chumbimba hedonic adaptation is a term in psychology which means that you get used to the stuff that stays around eg. a good car, career, money or even a relationship. So no matter how much abundance you have you will still want more cause your mind will get satisfied with what it has and will create new reference points which you think you will need to make you happy. Experiences will give you more happiness than things or people, try to create experiences. Apart from that practice gratitude, kindness, connection with people and exercise and meditate daily. Also always remember that you are not happy because you don't want to be axiom. You compare yourself to others because you think that they are happier than you and if you get the things they have you will get happier, but that's trickery of your mind. Don't worry be happy ?

@egoeimai I love this philosophy of yours better act and regret than not act and regret ? @assx95 have you tried learning about the opposite sex ? Hiring a virtual dating coach or enrolling in such a program would be very helpful. Otherwise you can read the book the way of a superior man. It will give you a lot of insights. One insight form the book is that a woman doesn't want her to be your #1 priority in life. So what is your no. #1 priority in life ?

@BHARATH hope your vision board is in place which you look at every day that will surely help.

@heisenburger teaching hypnosis to help focus on building personality through calisthenics inorder to pick up girls ;-)

@capriciousduck so this is a profound insight I got during my first breakup. Her thoughts kept coming in my head when I wanted to study, it was my final exams, what I did was used her thought as a reference to know I'm distracted and come back to my books. You can use the thought of porn to come back to whatever you are doing and be more productive. However you got to be mindful of the thought first, so I recommend learning mindfulness meditation and practicing it for ever. FYI it takes between 21-180 days to form a new habit or even a year, the safest bet is to assume it takes a year.

@Alexop look up for mantak chia on YouTube. Kegel exercises will help. Laugh more during sex, play around make your environment comfortable, dim the lights out your favourite aroma dance a little..

@Rasheed I personally would not consume a lot of them or neither recommended them as I haven't done research on these, but would prefer the methods I mentioned earlier to protect your teeth rather than chewing gum.

@Rasheed I saw at a medical college this poster brush your teeth twice a day, use mouth wash twice a day, and floss them maybe once a day when you think you need to. One dentist suggested me to rinse my mouth after having sugary things or food. However now a day I don't have anything sugary. And to use brushes with soft bristles. So ya these were some good tips I feel so shared them with you.

@mo90 practice each technique for a week and see which one is more effective. In the past when I was a smoker I tried to use the awareness alone us curetive technique, but I found my self loosing awareness a lot of times in the process of smoking just one cigarette. This thought I had realised in the past before actualised.org that I would even just go to a shop and buy the cigarette unconsciously. So sometimes the awareness alone is curetive technique could be difficult to practice. All depends on you. A good magician has many tricks in his bag. - Leo in one of his vedios. Use one trick for a whole week sometimes combine two tricks or more tricks. Be like water my friend. - Bruce lee.

@mo90 hi mate, welcome to this forum.. Be careful in this work as your mind tends to rationalize the things it does to keep it thinking that it's right. Being aware is in itself the emotionally difficult thing to do. Leaving the doubt unsolved is a emotionally easy thing to do in some cases for eg when you see a word and don't understand it's meaning, you assume it's meaning and don't look it up in the dictionary. Similarly dealing with a difficult emotion by lashing out at somebody else or by taking a passifier is the easy thing to do but staying with that emotion in equnimity is the difficult thing to do. Doing the things that is counter intuitive is the difficult thing to do many times, you got to be careful about how your mind deceives you. I'm sure you will figure it out, don't take Leo's words like a word of the Bible or Kuran, think for yourself from situation to situation and you will find the answers. The map is not the territory.

@LfcCharlie4 no sugar, no dairy , no junk food , no processed food, no wheat products, no corn. I got quite lean by this simple formula.

@Insightful27 yes medical industry has made tremendous advancement and can help you to deal with the pain and help you heal faster. Combine the medicine with mindfulness and all.

@Identity life coaching

Honestly Spirituality Judgement Fairness Really? This is the second time in 5 years I'm doing the strength assessment... and 2nd time I get such strengths..Would you even consider these as your strengths? This is not making me successful!!! how are they even strengths ?!? First time too I had:- Hope optimism and future mindedness Appreciation of beauty and excellent Curiosity and Interest in the world. I feel these strengths are not even strengths... it's annoying to have such strengths, I feel that people with other sets of strengths can be more successful in life like leadership, humour or such strengths.. I know it's not good being critical about it but honestly I don't know what else to do I feel good bitching about this .. Yaa I can hear myself !!

Self bias Self deception series @universe thanks these are few more resources from the video. Spiral dynamics series

Can any one give me the list of vedios Leo mentioned/recommend in between his latest vedio to check out for better understanding of this topic ?

@ElenaO i find the teacher very cool .. I love her curly hair.. but was heart broken to see a ringer on her finger ?