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I'm telling you they count for a lot and no institution or organization is going to teach you how to do this. Learning to handle your own shit, break down your issues and fix them makes you increasingly capable of handling other peoples shit. So much of the work environment is about that. Almost everyone has their own flavour of crazy and tragedy to handle "outside" of their professional lives, which inevitably bleeds into their professional lives. It is context-dependent of course. Career advice isn't universally applicable. Different jobs have different levels of responsibility, different work sectors have different work cultures, attract different demographics of people and have different expectations of employees/employers/procedures. It's more helpful to get clear about what YOU want and then work backwards from there as far as your expectations, time constraints and advice-seeking should go. Take advice from people who are already doing what you want to be doing. There isn't a normal because professions are different and they have different normals. You can start out somewhere and if you ask for more and get turned down then you have a data point to estimate your value. Nobody is going to pay you more than they have to or are able to and employers aren't usually walking around with a gun to everyone's head waiting for them to mess up and fire them. Also, sorry if you don't want me commenting on here. I'll remove them if you like. If you are underperforming in your role (relative to your compensation, the expectations of the working culture and the financial health of the organization) they will make it clear to you and give you an opportunity to improve, perhaps even multiple opportunities. Economically it's better for them to do that than go through the whole process of finding another person to fill the position and get them settled in (in most cases). It's especially true if you've just hired someone who is young and inexperienced ... like people understand that you don't know what tf you're doing and they'll course correct you a bit. Exceptions to this would be if a business starts struggling and has to lay people off quickly, or if you are in a high level, highly compensated role as things get increasingly cutthroat and people get increasingly shitty with regards to securing their slice of the pie.

I did the same, I suffered the same fears and doubts and I can happily tell you that your work hasn't been done in vain. "Soft skills", like the ones you are working on now are some of the most important in a professional environment because professional environments are filled with ... PEOPLE. Anyone with experience managing or leading people will quickly recognize you have them because being a leader/manager requires them. Increases in pay grade usually boils down to increases emotional labour, rather than industry-specific skill (although they are still important). You can also do a few things to pad your resume and make your prospective employers take notice without having to go down the standard route of getting internships, experience etc. For example, getting 'soft certificates' from places like Udemy, Coursera, Skillshare, Udacity, Lynda, Masterclass, Pluralsight, Codecademy etc. instantly makes you stand out because it shows initiative, self-direction, enthusiasm and the like, even though they aren't formal qualifications. Many of these things are cheap and don't take too much time to knock over. Also don't stress about falling behind too much. Obviously, you don't want to become a dropout but in reading the quality and consistency of your posts I can safely say that's unlikely to happen. Just keep rocking the INTJ lifestyle girl, you'll be fine. “Jack of all trades, master of none,” the saying goes. But it is culturally telling that we have chopped off the ending: “… but oftentimes better than master of one.” I also would recommend the book Algorithms to live by and paying attention to the 'explore/exploit' tradeoff chapter. Basically, when you are young it is strategically better for you to be fucking up and developing breadth and then settling into yourself as you age. Sure, it's probably a bit trickier as a woman and I can't give you advice about that, I'm not sure if you want a family and kids and a career (sorry if you've written about this and I just haven't read it.) Also, I don't think anyone ever truly 'gets there' if you know what I mean. Your problems simply change and what you stress about changes, embrace the stress because it's not going anywhere. You already have plans and options and strategic routes to take, it's a little scary when you haven't really stepped out on your own yet but you'll quickly find your feet and develop your confidence I'm sure. I hope this makes you feel a little bit better anyway.

I'll be online training agility on 80% of days. I have to work very long hours some days, and it's possible that my equipment could break down. From this point on, only death or severe injury can stop me from getting this cape and strutting my big dick energy around the grand exchange. My Strava app timezone was wrong and since my workouts aren't using GPS data the dates were wrong for my workouts. Hopefully, the issue is resolved now. We'll see what my exercise on Tuesday says. (Tomorrow I have a very long work day, unfortunately.)

@modmyth Happpy Birthday! I guess I was born before you, haha.

Ok, I can see the path towards the finish lines of some skills now. More than enough to work with for the next 6-12 months. 99 Agility - My first ever cape and the only one I achieved. I want it back. 99 Strength 99 Magic Murder Grindelwald with Dumby love. 99 Range Secret training but I will murder her from far away, no chance of survival.

Dropped MDMA with my bestie and listened to this album drop on my Bday three years ago. We both used to listen to them when they were still called The Jakes. YTG is always playing on my birthday now. My fav songs of their albums always change. Currently my fav on this one is superposition. Makes me think of org chem and physics and stuff. N-methyl-1-(3,4-methylenedioxyphenyl)propan-2-amine: Molecular formula: C11H15NO2 Molecular weight: 193.2 Admittedly Oblivion is a close second, possibly could be favourite in the near future but that is subject to change at a moments notice.

You have a great natural voice. Please do Amazing Grace next! Are there any choirs in your area? It's a great way to learn to sing and hone your skill. It feels amazing to harmonize with a group of voices.

This fletcher is a bit of a WILD operator! Kinda awkward and slow in the beginning, cringy and juvenile in the middle,,,,,,, but god damn, what a glorious ending. ... and that's kind of like a metaphor for my life and how I envision it. I am really taking to this rs journalling idea. I've just been tinkering around, trying stuff out and trying to work out how to fit my training schedule around my job. Overall this week I gained like 250k magic xp and about 30k agility xp.

Incidentally:

I use a VPN on multiple devices in multiple different networks. It's the only way to troll. Happy to talk with mods about issues.

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I drive an alien, runs like a dream.

I agree.

@Preety_India It means that if you make an argument/statement that gets an overly emotional reaction then you are likely (although not always) hitting on something that is true and/or threatens a person's survival agenda, in this case, a woman's.

@Yeah Yeah If you see an overexaggerated emotional response, you know you're onto something.

@Yeah Yeah I don't usually subscribe to the red pill ideologies because it is filled with a load of toxic garbage and completely ignores the human dimension to relationships and dating, but imo this is quite accurate and aligns with my own experience. When you're a young guy nobody on this earth gives a fuck about you, except maybe your mother but even that is *so-so*. The suffering is aggravated by the fact that in this period you have extreme testosterone that makes you want sex and intimacy more than at any other point in your life. I only lost my virginity at 24, I'm 27 now and things are only looking better and better. I also sense a lot of the conflict that happens in the dumpster fire that is the 'dating, relationships and sexuality' section is because it's filled with young insecure guys and older wiser insecure women ... hashing it out. I've also noticed the tendency of women to try to 'limit' my self-development and growth at an almost unconscious level while I have been in a relationship. It's something to look out for and cut out as soon as you recognize it, that's a lesson I wish I had learned earlier along with the lessons in this video. Just keep building yourself, your life, your career, your skills, your social network and cut out anyone who isn't on board. I promise the pussy and sob stories will start showing up more and more as you develop. You'll also get wiser and more empathetic to the suffering that women will face at that stage (because you would have already gone through it) and you'll be able to pick and choose who you let into your life.

Idk man, occasionally I will encounter a woman who seems like a reasonably interesting/accomplished human being. I might talk to her without acknowledging her pussy. Happens rarely though.

Algorithms are spitting out some alt-rock that takes me back.