Natasha Tori Maru

As long as you don't create a belief system around rejection 'I am hopeless', and you are continuing to put yourself out there, you will have success. It takes like 18months to find a girlfriend on average with no social circle (this was from a psychologist mate who specialises in men's issues, grain of salt). Most people give up well before this time period has lapsed. I briefly dated a guy in his 30's who approached me, for around 3/4 months. He was also a virgin. He just randomly started talking to me while waiting in the city loop. Nice dude, very nervous. Incredibly intelligent (industrial chemist). Not to be disparaging but he wasn't even the best looking dude. Below average I would say. It ended due to him moving to another city for work (which was always happening for him). I think he probably finally had to balls to start approaching women due to the move But he was also doing speed dating, which he reported he hated. He had this entire section of his apartment devoted to chemistry as a hobby - he had all these fucken SICK bismuth crystals growing. Maybe that dude might be you? But yeah those beliefs will get you. It's a cognitive bias - so the process of thinking is ace. But its the data being picked that ends up myopic and can shoot you in the foot. So you might have a mate who goes to speed dating with you, and he bags a GF. You see he is taller than you and end up with 'Oh he is taller than me, so that's why I didn't have success' - that's the cognitive bias. You missed that he was speed dating for a LOT longer than you. But you choose not to look at that data. So the belief forms based on not seeing the whole picture, or being closed off to the fact there are other elements in play. This is why it is so important to understand how you are thinking. Journaling etc. To be able to observe your thought process. Very difficult to notice these slippering thoughts also. Often it needs a CB therapist to assist. It's also really important to address these hidden beliefs. People's subconscious picks up on these things within seconds. And they will perceive you as being 'burdened' which is the exact opposite energy you want to have. 'Burdened' as a projection isn't even who you are - so you don't have a chance to show someone your earnest self when you carry false beliefs. ------- Back to the OP's question @Leo Gura's advice is spot on. The first step is to realise you are DOING IT. You need to grow that meta cognition so you can catch yourself in the thoughts. Awareness is the first step. And powerful. If you aren't aware you are holding onto a ball, how on earth will you be able to let it go?

@svreishren I think what you may not realise is even the fact you are saying this means it is an idea to you and a concept. It is not an experience you have had.

Even such small things come into it - I find meditating by the Yarra River in my local bushlands, away from traffic, Wifi, electrical emf etc has huge effects on how easily I can reach states of pure single pointed focus / being. The further on in the path you go it is so totally natural to just discard things that impede us. No force needed to stop doing the thing. Even when it may have been a crutch or coping mechanism. Things just naturally fall away. No struggle to drop addictions or compulsions.

I use cold pressed extra virgin olive oil - but only for adding to my food and not for cooking (or when I have a spoonful as a painkiller). Store purchased stodge gives me a strange googy feeling in my stomach when taken raw. I add 2 tablespoons of the cold pressed olive oil to my vegetable bakes most evening. I try to eat minimal meat (small amount of fish, mainly eggs/nuts and vegetable diet) + some fruit (the stuff I can digest). Eating this way increased my bodies sensitivity overall. Enhanced mindfulness/meditation. When I transitioned to eating this way 10 or so years ago I noticed the painkilling effects of the olive oil. It makes me wonder just how much sensitivity the average human has lost due to poisoned environment. Many of these eating tips were from my half-greek grandmother (silent generation) who is 97 now.

@MsNobody Thanks for posting I really enjoy your contributions also !

@Kalki Avatar Do you feel a loss of agency? I ask because the brain as, a survival mechanism, moves toward certainty. Sometimes even at the cost of happiness or wholesome action. We can experience this grasp for certainty as a measure to alleviate anxiety IE the OCD sufferer who attempts to alleviate a compulsive thought, and being certain a set of actions were performed in sequence or in repetition. The loss of control and ability to be certain creates some of the destabilizing feelings you speak of. How the fuck can we survive if we have no free will to assert upon reality to obtain an outcome? It is the attachment to outcome, aversion/desire, that can also contribute to the source of the darkness.

For me I find it very relevant. You summarised it well in post above.

I am very dominant at work - no where else. Maybe a bit too candid with delivery on the forums. Not surprised at my result. I do think it may change based on age group though - as I did go through a wack experimental phased in my 20s

@Schizophonia @Carl-Richard The anti-inflammatory effect was my guess also. I just find it odd that I can perceive it so clearly. I do have a lot of olive oil in my diet as a result.

My electrons made me do it

@Alexop Yes that is true - I will stipulate that my reply was more applicable to women saying no within already established interpersonal relationships! I think once family, friend and romantic relationships are established - THAT is when women struggle to say no In terms of dating, due to the nature of the dynamic, women do not struggle to say no as much when approached !

Bingo - I tried to bring up the free will argument at my sister's birthday shit. Boy oh boy. Such a simple way to collapse wordviews and antagonise that bunch. Never again 🤪💀

My body is ready : https://www.ign.com/articles/fxs-alien-earth-renewed-for-season-2

Arrogance? Narcissism? Spiritual ego? NIcE aNd GoUNdeD

@Ramasta9 BSG is a common rewatch for me I love the space battles in it, as well as the depth to the story. I think Gauis Baltar is my favourite character I very very much dislike the speed and frequent cuts of modern action / sci-fi space battles. More is not better!

This might sound weird - but I react very strangely to olive oil. If I take a tablespoon of olive oil it will have the same painkilling effect perceived as 200mg ibuprofen. I get slight euphoria from ibuprofen (as well as acting as a painkiller) and olive oil has the same effect! I have been this way since a kid. So I literally eat a tablespoon of olive oil to act as a painkiller....

Why not use the word 'experience' instead of change?

@integral@Bogdan Which is slightly disturbing as he has openly said he wants to create a religion - Don't Die 'My competitor is Jesus'

gimme a schminute

Anyone able to comment on the efficacy of this? Cos when I did 5g (do NOT recommend) I just chewed the disgusting shit and ate them. I don't know if that is any more potent than what he took. Keen to know if that is a legit 5g dose? I didn't think a powdered form would be equivalent

@Miguel1 My man you ever looked into Butoh dance? Japanese style of expression. Well really, it is an artform. You would SHRED that style. I love to dance. In fact I just love the feeling of moving my body as an expression. I always like to move. And most of my contemplation/meditation is walking I opened a few art shows with 2 other girls as a trio with Butoh dance around 2018. White lace outfit, white chalk all over. I wish these were recorded but they were very avante garde singular crowds.

@Dodo I am not handwaving it away without consideration of the points you raise. I just simply don't see merit for it

@TheSelf 🎯

@Schizophonia

I personally check AI responses through filters. I dislike using AI to prove any point at all. Listen, to be totally frank - do we know not only what it is entrained on, but also what sort of guardrails it has? These things are outside our knowledge. I think it is a failure on our part to assume AI is objective or truthful. In honesty no one can answer these things for certain.