Natasha Tori Maru

@mr_engineer I think you need to ground himself in real life experience and make sure you aren't bogged down in cognitive bias + endless social media. Nothing is so reductive and simple.

@Carl-Richard Don't let me near you - I would braid that beard

For sure!

Haha, he would dismiss that as all social domain jargon. It is an interesting thought experiment as a standalone. How much individuation may be lost due to a sort of 'telepathic' transparency? How might our use of language change? It very much touches on dissolving the barriers between us. And sometimes it is those differences that create unique people, personalities. The contrast in individuals is a novel thing for sure. Variety of experience/perspective is tasted this way. Cohesion, integration, truth and integrity would rise up at the cost of individuation. God wanted to taste that separation and what rises up between. Good contemplations

Well my facecard is my avatar, the face is seen

Truth as Transparency This one reminds me of a practice in Ralston's Zen Body-being called 'Inside - Outside' (paraphrasing, I think that is what he called it) Where you move through your day & interactions as if everyone can hear all your thoughts with total transparency. Initially it can be frightening, but your mind begins to make slow corrective measures. My thinking became a lot more soft, and it helped with my ability to apply discernment over judgement. Powerful process to engage and train integrity.

I don't think insurance anywhere covers stuff like that. We always pay a subbie directly for these sorts of repairs (Australia). It is a terribly stressful job working in the construction industry, but boy do I have good rates for services repair from the good connections I have. I also know how much corruption is prevalent. There are 10 different ways a subcontractor can fuck you in the arse. The no.1 way I see situations like Leo's happening; fucken tampons and sanitary items flushed down the toilet. I DON'T KNOW WHY WOMEN DO THIS. Also - 'flushable' wipes, are not flushable. The above is from directly from all the hydraulics guys I have worked with.

@zurew thank you 🫶

@zurew I'm stealing some of this advice 🙏 I don't approach argument/ thought this way. It can leave me open to objections that I fail to push back on. Cheers!

A single worded representation of absolute succinct communication Hahaha!

Vocab for me ? Extensive reading. Novels, great literary works. Non-fiction. Biographies. Articulation - writing. Journalling. Insights. I used to waffle on and be less concise. When I started to work in construction I was put in a pressure cooker to always communicate with the most precise words with as few sentences as possible. Trades and clients simply will not have the attention span to dig for the point. Try these frameworks to practice a structure, then apply to topics. Practice practice practice. Write it out, then speak it. Maybe even record it to review: PREP method BLUF method Another tip? I write out passages and cull cull cull out words ruthlessly. Anything unnecessary goes unless I am intentionally writing stream of consciousness and want flow. Hemingway to thank for that. Writing and reading will aid in sharpening articulation, speaking it out is practice & performance.

@Davino all Fauna with the names of Flora Pure beautiful spirits!

@James123 what is a moderator in your words? Do you think it is a spiritual leader of some sort? Just to be clear, that is certainly not how I define it. I could genuinely be here just for the personal development side of Actualized, as a user. So you could be projecting your ideas of 'shoulds' onto me. The word pussy is your word not mine.

If there is misunderstanding, then there is always the option to communicate better. Always the path to be greater.

Something upset him. Obviously, he still judges others for being a 'pussy' for not surrendering or following his path or advices. At the same time with James - there's a lot of claiming for no one being there to get upset. Theres also some 'I need to save others' hero complex mixed in, maybe? Overall, some oddities there.

Indeed. You must see some interesting dynamics working in law relating this.

Absolutely. And some moderators have their ego corrupt by their role thinking their words have more gravity.

@cetus rofl I have lurked these forums for a long time - I recall all of what you describe!

I think some of the issue is how people interact with and view authority. A lot of people's relationship to authority is very, very sensitive and deep rooted. It goes back to childhood. Then school. Then law. Society. Some of the wounds from it are actually complexes. People feel totally subjugated by it. And that can be projected onto the moderators and Leo as the authority in this small realm. Users also forget that opinions and views expressed by moderators are just that - opinions and views. This needs to be seperated in people's minds from the role of moderator. For example - how many users consider how they strip the mods of the right to an opinion because of their role? All due to fear of disagreement. Unclear boundaries. If there is any distrust, and there always will be with sound questioning and critical assessment, everything stands to be questioned. The egos relationship to authority is a big topic.

Has a use though.

So?

I do not have a high pitched girl voice, much to my displeasure. It does not have that sing/song ring to it. Much lower pitched. I used to speak with a lot of vocal fry but trained that out of myself when I had to chair meetings at work with large audiences. Listening to recordings of myself was like a pin to the eyeballs! But the Aussie accent? Unmistakable >.<

Echoing @thierry's thoughts - this could be physiological over psychological. My sister had panic attacks of a similar intensity to you, for years. We were both in a severely traumatic environment for many years, but she walked way with significantly more trauma she still has not resolved. Her panic attacks were intermittent. But had a pattern of psychological causes that would trigger them. Since yours may not be I am thinking environmental + physiological reaction? You have my compassion <3

I understand that part - that is on the individual. But moderators, ideally, moderate according to: https://www.actualized.org/forum/guidelines/ So it is not each moderators PERSONAL beliefs (at least, this is not the overarching arbiter, moderators still need to use their own judgment) it is the ideals and beliefs as stipulated in the guidelines. Not all beliefs are bad, especially when they pertain to social systems. They can effectively minimise harm and increase harmony. I don't mean to split hairs here, just do not want to lead anyone to think moderators should be performing like cowboys banning or issuing points, censoring or timeouts because someone has a different opinion or belief. Imagine if I banned you because I disagree with your statements? ROFL

IM DEAD my sides rofl