Natasha Tori Maru

The topic makes me wonder if technology / social is retarding maturity.

Do you think this is true of people, not just one sex?

Haha, you got me - the touristy aspect does turn me off. But someone recommended Bali to me, as a first destination for a solo woman traveller 😃

My pleasure 🤍 You are an absolute sweety btw, beautiful gentle energy on the forum

Great point. You don't know yourself as well. You cannot yet communicate your needs (or know them) with clarity. You mistake the heady thrill of lust for love. You can be afraid of being hurt, lacking the confidence to know you will recover from anything. Sometimes something feels wrong in a relationship, or a need isn't being met. And we aren't clear enough to enunciate it, or even know what is wrong. So naturally people look outside themselves to find what is wrong. Which can lead to cheating or immature behaviour. I wonder how much the comparitive nature of social media feeds into the 'grass is always greener' mentality that creeps in. Past generations simply would not have been swamped with images of perfection and finely curated lives in current volumes. I am 40 this year. I grew up without social media - then with. I saw both sides in a way. But I can never be sure that anything is directly causative. I can see trends and changes in behaviour, though.

Begging for it, aren't we?

Nice try

Not so fun fact - I've seen someone murdered in front of me. Those inferences can get you!

I think it's less about raw ability here and more about the aura doing the work 🙃

Absolute mogging. Overpowering aura. Reminds me of this energy - old. But an aura that could ballslam anyone into a meat crayon:

1. I self-generate my own suffering. 2. I self-generate negative emotion. 3. Feeling is one of the most intelligent aspects of survival. Also, self-knowledge. 4. I have no control. I take action on the top priority thing (or highest % to influence outcome) to push kinetic energy toward a potential outcome. I just stay the course and engage with the flow of life. Have the wisdom to know when to act. Insane shit happens. 5. I do not know. 6. Fear is deception. 7. Anything I reject outwardly is within me, manifested in an unconscious way. 8. Any thought, concept, belief, frame, ideal etc is just a cataract between Self and reality, obscuring what IS.

@Joshe I may have read it wrong, but I thought when Leo said: 'You have to do something seriously off for a woman to replace you once she has fallen for you.' It meant unmet needs? That could just be my assumption 🤪 Maybe that's the core of the issue - both sexes are not getting needs met. A change as technology has taken over. It might explain modern dating patterns.

Cheating is definitely a constant, tale as old as time for people.

@BlessedLion ❤️

This is hearsay - but someone briefly mentioned to me he wrote about this on his website. Blog perhaps. I did not look into it myself. You could search there if directly asking him isn't your style.

It's a good message for you, isn't it? It made the desired impact. Good day 😏

Jubilantly received To be sure, you do not even know what I claim. Your inferences and assumptions are as vague as fumes dissolving in a mirage. Which is why the fool thing sorta fell flat 🙃

I read my own signature again and again through this thread, I am glad it got through you.

Why not inquire further?

I prefer this eating timing also I do not like to cut out or restrict anything. I am firm in that I believe the best diet is the one that you can maintain, within certain principles. If you cannot sustain something, it simply isn't going to get you the results you want (ie bodyfat gain/loss, muscle gain/loss, health/homeostatic balance. Having said that, me personally? I do have some digestion issues that mean some things I must be conscious of dose. Simply put I mainly eat plants, eggs, fish, small amounts of cheese and once a week some red meat in the form of kangaroo (not farmed, in Australia these animals are culled due to overpopulation, so I prefer to eat this type of red meat for sustainability reasons). Fruit, vegetables 70% - the rest fish/eggs/cheese/meat. Spices, herbs and no sauce. I eat a lot of EVOO - by the spoonful in my food. I don't have a problem adhering to this. I do not even consider other food varieties as options. I prefer to think of food as little as possible and stick to similar meals in rotation so I can get on with all the other stuff I am not a food oriented person. I do enjoy food for sure. But I feel like thinking about food, preparing, shopping, organising, recipes, takes up a lot of 'mind space' and I like to free my mind from all overthinking and anxieties. Having said that, I will break my own rules for customary occasions. I am not rigid. Balance and homeostasis are what I consider healthy!

Needs inquiry.

To be clear - I was not accusing you of subscribing to this ideology. Merely expounding on how it can perpetuate and be amplified due to other sources, and act as a confirmation bias when we have experiences with bad people. Didn't mean to imply it was an idea you picked up, as it seemed clear you were speaking from experience 🙏 The converse is also true - women can pick up hypergamy from these online apps and social media echo chambers. It can make them feel justified and feed ego in negative, narcissistic ways. This does not mean it is their natural state/behaviour. Group think.

What is love? It is interesting how you reject compassion.

Nice try.