Natasha Tori Maru

...Doesn't miss a beat She's still pondering how much it will nuke her system Fucken bitch, so discriminating

Core fear for her. She should drive into that. Lots of opportunity for growth. If I fear something I drive into it. Its an indicator there is ego there. And, usually, tasty delusion to unravel.

@Emerald We agree. I particularly enjoy dissecting her while watching her synchronisation workshops. You can see the absolute pleasure and glint in her eyes when adoration is thrown her way. Nom nom nom

/dead cant stop laughing read the above in a meek tone

I read so much sadness from him, it was difficult to listen to him. It was pouring out. My intuition says he has been totally shit on by some terrible women. And his intellectualisation of the system and what how it works is an attempt to self soothe. Lots of pain in this man I think the insidious part is, he really has a lot of good things to say, woven in with some corrupt views from his experience. Very difficult to sort the wheat from the chaff. I would need to sit down and write up point by point where he is self deceptive, to break down his delusions.

HAHAHAHA what a move - this boy, sharp as a tack He knows we wait like rabid dogs with our hackles up, sniffing for any ambiguity. The jimmies, they be rustled

@Emerald I too, have watched Teal Swan for a while. I feel like she struggles to respect most people. Men included. She won't surrender unless she can completely respect a man. And I feel her ego prevents her from seeing others as equal or above. But this is just my impression.

I think your question was pertinent, as there were many ways to read the statement. Precision with words or additional context is vital with these sorts of catalyzing topics

I agree. Too many people just see a power dynamic instead of the symbiotic nature of the masculine/feminine.

I probably read Leos comment wrong, but I interpreted submit = sacrifice. But the only reason I viewed it as such was given Leos context; he has a lot of drive and needs a lot of space within his life for his purpose. Often relationships struggle when you have 2 individuals so driven. One participant usually needs to make more space / sacrifice for the other when there is a large life path at play. It's not so common, in my experience, to encounter individuals so driven toward a purpose as Leo / Teal. Arrangements are heavily negotiated between 2 people. Just an example; both of my grandparents were intensely creative artists. My grandmother shelved her career to support my grandfather willingly, and lovingly. She was a haute couture artist/seamstress at the top of her game. She chose a support role for him. Took care of all household logistics so he could pursue art full time. She continued her creativity as a hobbie. No regrets from her. I have never seen a relationship with 2 life purpose driven individuals thrive without one sacrificing to make room for the other. Maybe he did mean submit though, because the meaning is to yeald to another, similar to sacrifice. There are just lots of negative connotations with the word, as to submit implies you have no self sovereignty in common vernacular. But it is an implication, not always the case

Yeah, I get around that for sure. For myself I think there just remains a bit of ??? in that arena. I'm always going to dive headlong into the unknown. I think that's why for myself, if it happens, it happens. If not, well... there's plenty of other questions to attend to.

Do you think having a lover will enable you to delve deeper into consciousness? In friction with another, personal truths are revealed. Intimacy can reveal your own truth, as your own self-perception is always fucked in some way. My biggest moments of 'Wow, I am a piece of shit' have been in relationship. This has always raised my consciousness.

@Puer Aeternus I like your vicarious bliss! In the end its arriving at the same place, but walking different directions around the circular track of life. Just maybe one gender has that dick rudder involved

Yes for sure, once they get over my initial appearance. Appearance has always been a big hurdle for me. I am not beautiful at all, but I think... striking? would be the correct term. So I would be attracting men who value this highly. But I do not want to be valued for my appearance. I want to be valued for my character and attributes. The struggle lies in waiting for men to see who I really am, as they tend to project a fantasy onto me based on what I look like. It takes a long time for them to see me for who I really am. This comes down to my own fault also, as I was not discerning enough with previous partners. Additionally, while I style myself how - I - like, this is attracting someone who values that. So I dig my own grave there. But for attraction to be maintained for me, the man has to be operating on a similar level. I've found mature men in the older age brackets tend to value markers for someone that really looks after themselves: fitness, self care, emotional work and stability. They no longer value attributes that were unearned. Youth isn't as highly valued as it is just a phase we all go through. It catches the eye, and is admired. But it fades. All people must face this. As you age up the playing field begins to level out more. My own unique pathology is more around competence. I was handed so much, and given so much, so many doors of opportunity were opened PURELY because of my appearance. It made me SICK. To see the concessions made. How much nicer people were to me, simply because of appearance. As a result I drilled down hard on competency, and really threw myself into everything I do to master my abilities. I was lucky that I was gifted in artistic creativity and also intelligence. But in the back of my head was this horrible running program 'You are here in this position because someone likes your appearance, not because of how competent you are'. What a reverse mindfuck ay? But that was my issue for the first phase of my life. I was pretty emo and nihilistic as a result. How unfair the whole game is.... unattractive people get totally dicked. My heart gets broken over and over again for anyone who wasn't lucky enough to be born looking a certain way... shattering. But this lead me to work hard. Earn my position. Hone intellect. Read. Challenge myself. Face fears. I have no regrets. As for finding a mature women who has their shit together? Jesus, I have no idea. I'd imagine hobbies would be a good one. I flat refuse dating apps. I refuse to engage in something that commodifies and whittles me down to pure appearance to gain interest. I suppose you would find a women who appreciates the type of consciousness work done here on meditation retreats, book clubs, engaging hobbies. Nature. Hiking. If there was ever an actualized.org meetup (or similar), I'd imagine some opportunity would lay there.

He certainly didn't deconstruct that aggression 🫠 😂

I think for many people with trauma bonding tendencies and attachment wounds, mature people get screened out as 'boring', 'no chemistry'. I tend to give people a lot of time, as what is on the outside, and what they present initially, are totally different to what is within. I do not trust intense chemistry. It blinds me to compatibility. But I am a freak example as I really only give a shit about someone's mind. Their brain. Can they keep up with me? I run circles around a lot of people, and I need to be able to really talk about concepts and reality. Mechanics and driving forces. Of course there are other factors, these are just my top values. And yes you could say I have some arrogance, but I think I just have a good idea of what my capabilities are through a lot of experience. I am sure I would come across as boring to most, initially. But I am happy with that as I would want to screen for maturity. Someone who can actually deal with truth. And challenge me and my thought process.

Hahaha he probably hears a turd from a kangaroo drop, and next minute he's there looking for the crop circle it generated

Self help industry is literally leveraging peoples pain and selling them a solution. The people who are drawn to self help are vulnerable. Worst position to be in. Strolling into the water, bleeding from open wounds, asking for crocodiles to help you. Crocodiles masquerading as sugar-gliders here to soothe what ails you. Not to mention they all spin the same 'I have a book' scheme, which we all know is the new marketing slop. 20 years ago either I wasn't aware of the extent of the self help industry dogturds, or it was higher quality

This cock rudder analogy is getting out of control 😂 Cock n balls steer the way!

Holy shit I can even hear his weird accent and see his shit eating grin. The intro, the sales pitch, 'the most profound revelation yet'. Then the nothingburger that hits like a wet noodle.

Possible root cause is that prior to feminism, women didn't have to pay as much attention to these aspects. The men taking the larger brunt of the responsibility in these arenas. You could also raise - who created the system of men taking on the umbrella of survival and material needs? Men. But then again, did they create it, or was the burden always there since they shouldered natural power? Intertwined is the past history of women's subdugation, which points to men creating that system and hating the system at the same time. It's hard to blame anyone

Brah got rated a 3 on SOMEONES SUBJECTIVE VALUE SCALE and went crying to the internet. His voice is wavering and shit as he retells the story. He is very hurt

@Princess Arabia You got the jukes and have solid points, but with regards to @Hojo I would call it a day. Their mind is so infected with pill ideas, the insidious loops they jump through are completely logical to them. The twisted part is, there are some logical truths interwoven in the mess. Also, whoever they are they have zero experience in the real world

'You gave me the blue-balls in Atlantis and I've been trying to cum ever since' 'Oh my god I been tryin' to bust this nut since Egypt' fucken DEAD WHY are these peckerheads always reincarnated gods and queens!? Always some grand important historical figure. Like that is going to validate some twisted situation they put themselves in. Looking to inject meaning into anything. She raises some good points regarding 'being enough'. It's never about your partner not being enough. It's about the blockage in you, or the lack that YOU have inside. Obviously, Aubrey self-betrayed when he reversed his stance on polyamory, and the result was he later tried to engage in it again and shit on everyone involved. Even the fact they got engaged so quickly indicates to me their trauma bonds were triggered when they met (blindly following emotion), resulting in Aubrey deleting his opinions/values. What sort of a vetting process is that for marriage? They both had no idea who they were or what they wanted before going in. She hits it on the head regarding the new age spirituality movement always trying to invalidate negative feelings by inserting the narrative 'You're just not conscious enough'. Oh Leo, you're personal boundary is not to tolerate cheating? Well, you just aren't conscious enough!' The narratives inserted that serve to twist personal agendas...

+1 Never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by service to self.