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Your hair or not hair gave me an insight. The reason that everyone wastes so much time on this forum is because of the obsession with being relevant, and making high quality posts that are on topic. We spend more time worrying about wasting time than we do just focusing on what we want. That's how the law of attraction works, if you focus on what you don't want, that's exactly what you get. You have to learn to actually focus on what you want and the why behind why you want it. The root of the word relevant says it all, it's really all just about inspiration, lessening and lightening our resistance. If this forum has a shadow, THAT is it. Everyone here is scared of not making "high quality" contributions to discussions, when really what we actually want is love and connection and we know that that cannot be found with any confines. Awww... If we dropped the fear who knows what magic would unfold?

Nothing is relevant. Relevant: Medieval Latin relevantem (nominative relevans), from stem of Latin relevare "to lessen, lighten" levant - levitate See, your hair looks very relevant. Since I have discovered the truth that I have always been twisting language and connotations and completely bastardizing the meaning of words to my own assumptions and biases, now I just have more fun with it, that's all.

I think it's just the hair. Only when you're in love. "I can't feel my face when I'm with you. But I love it."

@Someone here For some reason your avatar reminds me of this video so much.

Being too careful to always choose the direct path can indicate a belief in distance. The direct path is really one of joy and love and isn't a path at all. I think that minimalism is the beginning of a realization, or a purification of what it is we truly want. Too often when we strive to be minimalists we focus more on the unnecessary stuff we don't want or are avoiding, rather than the clarity and freedom that we really DO want. We may unfeelingly throw out everything without taking the time to sort through it, and determine what it is that we really want. If you're familiar with Marie Kondo, her method for "minimalism" is what I'd suggest for spirituality. Really really feel into the practices, the narratives, the concepts, the traditions and make your practice completely your own. There's a place for a dashboard Jesus sometimes if it makes you smile. I think if you look at it like stopping to smell the roses, rather than believing that the holy rose water will save you, you'll be just fine.

There might be a magic number, but I won't tell what it is.

How is writing or reading in this section not direct experience? Be aware that it is.

I'm not sure about that. I find the two to be too intimately intertwined to put one ahead of the other. I'm really glad my doctor and dentist still go to work even if they have a few issues themselves. The book isn't necessarily just about healing others, it's for people interested in energy fields and healing in general.

What wrong with awkwardness? I love awkwardness. I would prefer to have a conversation with someone who is interested in the conversation or interaction itself and not so concerned about what I'm thinking of them that they don't really hear or see me.

Check out this book. https://www.amazon.com/Hands-Light-Healing-Through-Energy/dp/0553345397/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=hands+of+light&qid=1607898213&sr=8-1

Attraction is uncontrollable and undefinable. If someone tells me I have to be sweet, kind, caring, attractive and lock myself into those traits somehow to be acceptable or desirable, I'll gladly take the freedom of being however I feel inspired to be over whatever the prize is for paying the price of my authenticity and freedom in order to be something else for someone else. Likewise I would rather give my partner the gift of being authentic, whether he is incredibly strong in some situations but in others, I have to squash hornets for him in others cause he totally freaks out. We are contradictions. We are hypocrites. We are living art, we are perpetually in motion and free expression. We are not humans, we are dancer.

What exactly are you hoping to make permanent changes to? Yourself? Are you permanent or impermanent?

What's the worst that can happen? Do this as a "fear setting exercise" https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/286123 Look at it like you're giving her a compliment. She might be taken, she might not accept. She may have no idea how to properly receive a compliment. Lots of women don't because it's an art, especially when you sense that someone really has their hopes up. Sometimes because they are shy, sometimes because they are scared of connection and scared of what your expectations might be. Sometimes because other men have not been able to take no for an answer. Other times men have hurt them, objectified them and called them ugly all their lives so they objectify men in return out of that wound. Any time you get an awful rejection from a woman it's never personal. Often the women who reject inwardly glow because someone came up and expressed interest. Rather than looking at it as if you're asking or begging for something for yourself, accept the risk and look at it as if you're simply paying her a compliment with the invitation. Do it from the heart and let it go. Pretend like you're leaving a $10 bill on the park bench. It might blow into a rain gutter or it might be found by someone who really needs it.

These cheap tricks?

Yes. I've been missing the total effortlessness of opposite sex friendships since I turned 6 or 7. It's basically just the mind and identification, fear/desire stuff like when Adam and Eve were all of sudden were like, "OMG, we're naked!".

If you doubt your desires and believe your fears you suffer. You can still experience fear and desire without believing them or doubting them. Fear is just like a thrill then and desire, well that's a thrill too.

You are frustrated that others won't see in the best in you, while you pick out and see the worst in them for not seeing the best in you? See the vicious cycle here? See and appreciate the best in others, look beyond the flaws. If someone makes a comment that hurts or discourages, turn the other cheek. Prove them wrong and love them anyway. You get what you give out. Your thoughts create your interactions with people. If you look closely at an apple, you can find 100 different beauties or a 100 different flaws. With an apple, it's a bit easier to see even the flaws as beauty. It's the same way with people and situations. It's all magically open to interpretation. So interpret life as you want to see it.

I think that changing our approach to how we view and treat addictions as well as completely changing our prison systems would go a long way too.

I mean you are able to respond. Feeling at fault or lacking is a total waste of time and keeps you stuck. Just dream of what you want and go for it.

Go in the opposite direction of that. Fear is resistance, so go in the direction of joy, whatever inspires, thrills you, makes you happy.

There are facts, there are meanings we give those facts and there is fantasy. Where does one of these things end and the other begin?

It's the correction of the misunderstanding of what one's self is. There seem to be layers of misunderstandings to sort through, because this one misunderstanding webs out into many beliefs and thought patterns, which in turn become something like tensions and buried memories in the body. These misunderstandings are released, understood, made aware, in various ways as you align with Source (Truth, Love, Awareness, whatever you call it).

To compare you must have two of something. Compare yourself as to fall short, or cause another to fall short is not quite right. Being inspired by possibility and potential of discovery, ohhh yes.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Watch the thoughts about the "should have" guilt and don't buy into it. You are 24 years old, busy living and exploring and building your life, this was totally unexpected. There's nothing you could have done differently. Your mom loved you very much and would want more than anything for you to have peace when you remember her, not guilt. When someone passes away, this is absolutely key, look for what IS there, not what is missing. This is how you get the peace from the "merged with the universe" thing. It takes time. You are used to looking for her and connecting with her in a certain way and now it's like you must learn to speak another language. Nothing is truly lost. You were never truly disconnected when she gave birth to you, and you were never really disconnected when she passed on. I know that's mind boggling, but when you really open to it, there's an incredible reassurance that floods in that will just take you off at the knees sometimes. Losing someone you love who was close to you is like being thrown into the spiritual realm like a baby bird being kicked out of the nest. When we were kids and we lost pets and they told us "oh honey, he's in the sky now" they really weren't being simplistic or wrong, but it's not JUST the sky, it's everything and it even has the habit of showing itself in very obvious ways sometimes. There is a kind of communication and synchronicity the universe uses to let us know nothing is ever really lost. It's a language of love, not a language of loss and if you're only speaking and hearing the language of loss you won't hear or see it. You are love, made of love as was she, and this is so entirely all weaved out of love that we forget and fall into the matrix that we ourselves weaved. Love is not something you can ever lose, it's the only real true part of us that never dies. So celebrate her. Appreciate her. Appreciate the sky and the beauty around you. Don't believe any thoughts that say otherwise or project out into the future or say anything about should have, loss or guilt. I just finished this book and absolutely loved it. It deals with the real approach to death beautifully. It might help you find the new perspective you're looking for. https://www.amazon.com/Mister-God-This-Anna-Friendship/dp/0345327225/ref=sr_1_1?crid=GJW6SCVDZD5Z&dchild=1&keywords=mister+god+this+is+anna&qid=1607557988&sprefix=mister+god+this+is+anna%2Caps%2C824&sr=8-1 "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle is another absolutely amazing one. If you're open to law of attraction type teachings check out Abraham Hick's videos on youtube about grief. Her very unique approach to looking at death is what completely changed my perspective on death when I lost my Grandmother. Strange and incredibly beautiful experiences ensued. Sending you love and light.

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