mandyjw

Yes. I've been missing the total effortlessness of opposite sex friendships since I turned 6 or 7. It's basically just the mind and identification, fear/desire stuff like when Adam and Eve were all of sudden were like, "OMG, we're naked!".

If you doubt your desires and believe your fears you suffer. You can still experience fear and desire without believing them or doubting them. Fear is just like a thrill then and desire, well that's a thrill too.

You are frustrated that others won't see in the best in you, while you pick out and see the worst in them for not seeing the best in you? See the vicious cycle here? See and appreciate the best in others, look beyond the flaws. If someone makes a comment that hurts or discourages, turn the other cheek. Prove them wrong and love them anyway. You get what you give out. Your thoughts create your interactions with people. If you look closely at an apple, you can find 100 different beauties or a 100 different flaws. With an apple, it's a bit easier to see even the flaws as beauty. It's the same way with people and situations. It's all magically open to interpretation. So interpret life as you want to see it.

I think that changing our approach to how we view and treat addictions as well as completely changing our prison systems would go a long way too.

I mean you are able to respond. Feeling at fault or lacking is a total waste of time and keeps you stuck. Just dream of what you want and go for it.

Go in the opposite direction of that. Fear is resistance, so go in the direction of joy, whatever inspires, thrills you, makes you happy.

There are facts, there are meanings we give those facts and there is fantasy. Where does one of these things end and the other begin?

It's the correction of the misunderstanding of what one's self is. There seem to be layers of misunderstandings to sort through, because this one misunderstanding webs out into many beliefs and thought patterns, which in turn become something like tensions and buried memories in the body. These misunderstandings are released, understood, made aware, in various ways as you align with Source (Truth, Love, Awareness, whatever you call it).

To compare you must have two of something. Compare yourself as to fall short, or cause another to fall short is not quite right. Being inspired by possibility and potential of discovery, ohhh yes.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Watch the thoughts about the "should have" guilt and don't buy into it. You are 24 years old, busy living and exploring and building your life, this was totally unexpected. There's nothing you could have done differently. Your mom loved you very much and would want more than anything for you to have peace when you remember her, not guilt. When someone passes away, this is absolutely key, look for what IS there, not what is missing. This is how you get the peace from the "merged with the universe" thing. It takes time. You are used to looking for her and connecting with her in a certain way and now it's like you must learn to speak another language. Nothing is truly lost. You were never truly disconnected when she gave birth to you, and you were never really disconnected when she passed on. I know that's mind boggling, but when you really open to it, there's an incredible reassurance that floods in that will just take you off at the knees sometimes. Losing someone you love who was close to you is like being thrown into the spiritual realm like a baby bird being kicked out of the nest. When we were kids and we lost pets and they told us "oh honey, he's in the sky now" they really weren't being simplistic or wrong, but it's not JUST the sky, it's everything and it even has the habit of showing itself in very obvious ways sometimes. There is a kind of communication and synchronicity the universe uses to let us know nothing is ever really lost. It's a language of love, not a language of loss and if you're only speaking and hearing the language of loss you won't hear or see it. You are love, made of love as was she, and this is so entirely all weaved out of love that we forget and fall into the matrix that we ourselves weaved. Love is not something you can ever lose, it's the only real true part of us that never dies. So celebrate her. Appreciate her. Appreciate the sky and the beauty around you. Don't believe any thoughts that say otherwise or project out into the future or say anything about should have, loss or guilt. I just finished this book and absolutely loved it. It deals with the real approach to death beautifully. It might help you find the new perspective you're looking for. https://www.amazon.com/Mister-God-This-Anna-Friendship/dp/0345327225/ref=sr_1_1?crid=GJW6SCVDZD5Z&dchild=1&keywords=mister+god+this+is+anna&qid=1607557988&sprefix=mister+god+this+is+anna%2Caps%2C824&sr=8-1 "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle is another absolutely amazing one. If you're open to law of attraction type teachings check out Abraham Hick's videos on youtube about grief. Her very unique approach to looking at death is what completely changed my perspective on death when I lost my Grandmother. Strange and incredibly beautiful experiences ensued. Sending you love and light.

Bananas and latex allergies are connected, so if you have strange reactions to bananas, it's likely an allergy or intolerance.

I bought this, hook line and sinker following the advice of Dave Asprey and Tim Ferris. I went a few years limiting fruit. I ended up with stomach issues and was finding staying at my goal weight even harder. Then I let myself have as much fruit as I wanted. I felt great and found it much easier to stay at my goal weight than before when I was putting all those restrictive efforts in. I mostly just eat a lot of apples and berries daily, other fruits occasionally. I will say, fruits are not a replacement for veggies. That's a common temptation for people I think.

There are more things than just food that one can be starved for. Maybe the well fed parts of the world is starving in ways they won't see. Maybe if we listen to our own hunger and fill our own "bellies" the solution of how to fill other's bellies with actual food will appear.

Sugar cravings can be a vicious cycle. If you are eating white rice, white breads or refined carbs of any kind you will get more sugar cravings. If you start with a really good breakfast with a vegetable, (or fruit) and a good amount of protein, you'll have won most of the battle right there. Carbs are great but make them complex carbs, such as wild rice, oatmeal, etc. You need to focus on eating healthy food and paying attention to how it makes you feel. Don't just demonize sugar. You will rebel and backlash like crazy anytime you demonize anything. You just need to realize that you like feeling good better than eating sugar, then there's just, feeling good.

You don't have to let go because there isn't anything there. The thought is ephemeral in nature. Give attention to what you want instead. Most cravings are born out of an imbalanced life. Here's the deceptively difficult thing to accept. It's not your fault. If people ate together with people they loved and had lively conversations with every meal, no one would over eat. If people loved their food, and prepared it together with presence and love and creativity, no one would want junk food. If communities were properly designed, and we lived lives in communion with nature, exercise would be integral to your day to day life. If sex wasn't both repressed and over glorified, it wouldn't be a compulsion. We live such individualized separated lives. For what? So we don't have to fight about what TV program we want to watch with anyone else? None of this is your fault. None of it is your responsibility. However, you have the ability to respond and to go in the direction of what feels better and in doing so move the society in one that feels better by making personal choices that feel better. Sometimes to forgive yourself and actually release the compulsions you have to forgive the fact that you were put in a position where you had to learn this shit on your own and basically pioneer a way to a more aligned with nature kind of life. Then once the guilt and blame is released the inspiration to choose something that feels better is all you're left with.

What does New Age even mean? "And no man putteth new wine into old bottles; else the new wine will burst the bottles, and be spilled, and the bottles shall perish. But new wine must be put into new bottles; and both are preserved."

Because I was a devout Christian as a kid I had pondered Jesus' words for most of my life, in the awakening a lot of the insights came back in forms of answers to those questions that I was never able to answer to my satisfaction. The religion I had thought was a silly misunderstanding and let go of suddenly became seen as pivotal and profound in my journey. I also recognized that the occult and witchcraft that I had demonized my whole life was equally valid, inseparable from human spirituality and I had a deep love, resonance and intuited a lot of stuff from it from the beginning. After the intense flow states of the awakening wore off I was looking for something to grab on to, because a lot of scary possibilities came to mind with the new revelations I was faced with integrating. Christianity felt familiar and safe, like running home to Mommy. I grabbed back onto Christianity for a while, but it was basically just an exploration and actually Ramaji's 1000 book served to help me to identify what I was doing, (and may have confused some other things). I realized I didn't really have to take it or leave it at all. I think resonance with religion is exploration, but when we use it to demonize other people or religions it comes from fear. I think that's an important distinction to make, because writing off exploring or learning about religions out of disgust because you believe religion is bad, comes out the same fear. Just setting yourself up for a reunion unlike anything else you've ever dreamed of someday. I have since come to understand that religion is language, and Christianity is the language my parents and others taught me to speak as a child. I'm very fluent in it. Learning other languages only helped me understand it even better. I have no qualms about speaking this language with other people. The words are besides the point though.

"Where is God?" Yes.

I also highly, highly recommend Abraham Hicks. I didn't intellectually make the "oh this impulse is not a personal flaw or tick but is playing some mysterious part in leading me to what I really want" connection until discovering her.

Enlightenment is no achievement, it's simply the correction of a grave yet common mistake that human minds have made. The mistake begins with the belief that there are individual minds. There are no separate minds. When you go in the direction of effortlessness, ease, love, gratitude and feeling good the entire universe pulls out all the stops to help you merge with the essence of that which it is. You create the universe and the universe creates you simultaneously. You must be willing to see it and yourself as it really is. You cannot hack or scheme your way to safety or invincibility in separation of anything else. There is a part of you that feels and has always felt this. It was never confused. Connect with that.

Trust, or not is judgement. Judgment was not invited to this party. It can take a lot of experience because mind is constantly butting in. Intuition is not rational. Therefore, it does not consider a timeline like logic does. You may not see results or the reason why until much later. Or not at all. Don't do anything rash, but get curious about it. Curiosity doesn't concern itself with trust, it's just open.

It can literally feel like a pull to go in a certain direction. Or a resonance with something. To begin with it can feel like an intrusive thought or distraction, that's just the mind automatically judging and dismissing feeling without hearing (feeling) it out.

@Preety_India Look up the symptoms of anemia. Very common in young women. Do you eat iron rich foods? https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anemia/symptoms-causes/syc-20351360

I've had some crazy stuff including some of my deepest, longest standing fears bubble up for me to "see" but it seemed more like an amazing reunion, understanding and embrace, rather than a horrific sort of thing. Hilarious that I never saw it before when it was right under my nose, blissful, moving to tears, healing. It's only when I try to explain it to others that it sounds scary or crazy. There can be times before the understanding or release happens when it comes in your awareness stronger and stronger and starts to bother you. It's a little like removing a splinter... you irritate it to remove it, but once it's out it's instant relief. You wouldn't regret the decision to go about removing a splinter would you?

I wanted to have my kids my whole life, and I have two kids now, but I had two miscarriages before I had them and no way of knowing that I'd ever have a baby. I remember what hearing pregnancy announcements or seeing babies would feel like during that time. It was joy for someone else, but I was NOT seeing it. I know this probably seems like it has nothing to do with your situation, but it has everything to do with it, because it's just the tendency of the mind to notice what is missing. Don't look at what is missing, look for what is there. A sunset is stunningly beautiful, but you don't get tempted to try to claim it, own it or get worried that you won't be able to have it or hold on to it. If you can train that sort of impersonal appreciation of little things, you can apply them to the things you really, really want. Then you can take intelligent or inspired action to experience those things too.