mandyjw

It's a common habit of the mind to focus on problems rather than well being.

Right now I love you like I love a road construction crew that's holding up traffic while they're making sure the bridge is safe on a day that I'm running late for an appointment. Annoyance, love, appreciation, no difference unless you think there is.

Yeah it's a book of conversations, and that's why I meant, he didn't write it and I'm not sure if he titled it. Just wanted to point out that it's an amazing book regardless of the title.

Have you read "I Am That"? Cause he literally didn't even write it.

One step at a time. Don't get ahead of yourself. Important things take care of themselves and the unnecessary things fall away. Mediation, exercise and good diet goes a long way. Also using a timer and focusing on doing what needs to be done in small time increments can really help since focus is so off sometimes.

I'm only interested in advice from other kids about how I can be more a kid. But they don't give advice, cause they're just kids without thinking about what they are. What's the difference between experience and the thought of an experience? How do you experience feeling? Can you experience feeling yesterday? Or can you think about what you felt yesterday?

@electroBeam We're flipping back and forth on perspectives and absolute/relative levels so fast, I can't follow anymore. We're hacking our limited perspective of the character in this story to a greater one of the Author of the story. But there is no actual author outside of us, just characters and the creative Love or knowing Awareness that is the Author. So how does the character guide himself after the realization that his ultimate being is that of the Creator/Author and his reality is not? By feeling. By awareness of feeling. The story is written out of love. It's too Good to be true. Truth is Love.

Ok, yeah, I'm with you there. Suffering is the delusion. Just like identifying and suffering for being male or female, young or old is. There's pain, there's males and females and different aged people. There's the facts and then there's the meaning and suffering is something that comes from choosing a meaning that's wrong and not aligned with love and mistaking it for fact. No you don't. You don't want to know everyone's intimate life story of the details about their sex lives. You don't want to become an expert on the anatomy of caterpillars. You want to know specific things chosen based on the importance you've given these things based on how they make you feel. Ralston, Parsons, Ramajii don't know anything you don't project on them. Nobody possesses any knowledge. We make them up and some story about what they know. No one can make anyone else understand anything. No one can give you a truth you didn't ask for. You cannot find the answer to a question you've never asked. No one wants to keep seeking or stop seeking. You cannot do either of those things. You cannot find something that you believe to be lost. Why did God create the universe and then stop to rest on the 7th day? There's no rest unless something is created first. There's no such thing as rest if no action is taken first to rest from. Action and rest depend upon each other. Just like search and finding.

I personally find good conversations and debates absolutely satisfying. I want my heart to keep beating and the sun to keep shining but I rarely think of that. So do I actually want it or not? What makes you think or feel that, that I'm just regurgitating someone else's words or don't have it figured out and think I do? You want me to show or to point out to me the lack of my own realization somehow, for what, why? What do you get out of that? Why this obsession with pain? Love is literally too good to be true, so I must hang on to my suffering and make something of it? One of my Christian friends recently shared this absolutely gruesome detailed account of exactly how Christ was crucified, so that Christians can feel so blessed, is that the kind of religion you practice too?

You can wage a war between love and truth if you'd like, but you'd just be fighting yourself. You don't want knowledge, you want the end of knowing and the feeling of I Know that comes with it. But that process will never stop. It won't stop with molecules, you'll never find your essential building blocks as a separate thing for you to be aware of and say you "know". You've always been seeking a feeling and that feeling of what you seek is all you've ever been. Not a particular feeling but feeling itself. Knowledge chased back to its source is awareness itself, awareness is complete Knowing or Allowing of everything, which is none other but Love.

I was ice skating on a pond when I was a kid and to show off stepped over the line my mom told me not to cross. My foot immediately went through the ice. Always wondered why other people could say things, do things, eat junk that I couldn't without feeling miserable. Thought there was something wrong with me. I think that sometimes what we think of as our surroundings act in a way to remind us of what it is that we really want, and not just what we thought we wanted in the moment.

Your hair or not hair gave me an insight. The reason that everyone wastes so much time on this forum is because of the obsession with being relevant, and making high quality posts that are on topic. We spend more time worrying about wasting time than we do just focusing on what we want. That's how the law of attraction works, if you focus on what you don't want, that's exactly what you get. You have to learn to actually focus on what you want and the why behind why you want it. The root of the word relevant says it all, it's really all just about inspiration, lessening and lightening our resistance. If this forum has a shadow, THAT is it. Everyone here is scared of not making "high quality" contributions to discussions, when really what we actually want is love and connection and we know that that cannot be found with any confines. Awww... If we dropped the fear who knows what magic would unfold?

Nothing is relevant. Relevant: Medieval Latin relevantem (nominative relevans), from stem of Latin relevare "to lessen, lighten" levant - levitate See, your hair looks very relevant. Since I have discovered the truth that I have always been twisting language and connotations and completely bastardizing the meaning of words to my own assumptions and biases, now I just have more fun with it, that's all.

I think it's just the hair. Only when you're in love. "I can't feel my face when I'm with you. But I love it."

@Someone here For some reason your avatar reminds me of this video so much.

Being too careful to always choose the direct path can indicate a belief in distance. The direct path is really one of joy and love and isn't a path at all. I think that minimalism is the beginning of a realization, or a purification of what it is we truly want. Too often when we strive to be minimalists we focus more on the unnecessary stuff we don't want or are avoiding, rather than the clarity and freedom that we really DO want. We may unfeelingly throw out everything without taking the time to sort through it, and determine what it is that we really want. If you're familiar with Marie Kondo, her method for "minimalism" is what I'd suggest for spirituality. Really really feel into the practices, the narratives, the concepts, the traditions and make your practice completely your own. There's a place for a dashboard Jesus sometimes if it makes you smile. I think if you look at it like stopping to smell the roses, rather than believing that the holy rose water will save you, you'll be just fine.

There might be a magic number, but I won't tell what it is.

How is writing or reading in this section not direct experience? Be aware that it is.

I'm not sure about that. I find the two to be too intimately intertwined to put one ahead of the other. I'm really glad my doctor and dentist still go to work even if they have a few issues themselves. The book isn't necessarily just about healing others, it's for people interested in energy fields and healing in general.

What wrong with awkwardness? I love awkwardness. I would prefer to have a conversation with someone who is interested in the conversation or interaction itself and not so concerned about what I'm thinking of them that they don't really hear or see me.

Check out this book. https://www.amazon.com/Hands-Light-Healing-Through-Energy/dp/0553345397/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=hands+of+light&qid=1607898213&sr=8-1

Attraction is uncontrollable and undefinable. If someone tells me I have to be sweet, kind, caring, attractive and lock myself into those traits somehow to be acceptable or desirable, I'll gladly take the freedom of being however I feel inspired to be over whatever the prize is for paying the price of my authenticity and freedom in order to be something else for someone else. Likewise I would rather give my partner the gift of being authentic, whether he is incredibly strong in some situations but in others, I have to squash hornets for him in others cause he totally freaks out. We are contradictions. We are hypocrites. We are living art, we are perpetually in motion and free expression. We are not humans, we are dancer.

What exactly are you hoping to make permanent changes to? Yourself? Are you permanent or impermanent?

What's the worst that can happen? Do this as a "fear setting exercise" https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/286123 Look at it like you're giving her a compliment. She might be taken, she might not accept. She may have no idea how to properly receive a compliment. Lots of women don't because it's an art, especially when you sense that someone really has their hopes up. Sometimes because they are shy, sometimes because they are scared of connection and scared of what your expectations might be. Sometimes because other men have not been able to take no for an answer. Other times men have hurt them, objectified them and called them ugly all their lives so they objectify men in return out of that wound. Any time you get an awful rejection from a woman it's never personal. Often the women who reject inwardly glow because someone came up and expressed interest. Rather than looking at it as if you're asking or begging for something for yourself, accept the risk and look at it as if you're simply paying her a compliment with the invitation. Do it from the heart and let it go. Pretend like you're leaving a $10 bill on the park bench. It might blow into a rain gutter or it might be found by someone who really needs it.

These cheap tricks?