mandyjw

Why do you want to break out of this belief?

Why do you want to deconstruct further?

It sounds like your family and your caring what people think is a major blockage. Consider that you in your thoughts are judging yourself pre-emptively before they can, as a method of protection. In other words you hurt yourself before anyone else can as a method of protection. This makes no sense. You can stop doing this at any point one you realize that you are the one doing it. Even when someone does react or says something harsh to us, we are the ones who can choose to believe and take personally what they say or to see that it had more to do with them than us. We learn not to block our emotions and start to see that the pain comes from blocking them, that when there is no resistance, the pain is not there. The pain IS the resistance, the emotional self harm IS the method of defense. We learn patterns of interacting around others who perpetually stay on a low place on the emotional scale, and we mirror them. We believe that they will not like us or will reject us if we challenge their set point. At some point we get the idea that staying in a low spot is "safe". We find connection with others by complaining about things going wrong because they can relate, but this is not true connection and it's not really what we want. It's not really what they want either. You are living in disconnection from your family, scared to resolve this because you have a fear of disconnection. See how circular and self-created this is? It's possible that if you open up a shit storm ensues, but then the air is cleared and everything settled, eventually. It's possible that if you open up you realize that there was no real blockage there, it was only self imposed.

I think that usually the repetitive arguments and conversations come from when someone is feeling insecurity about their decision in some way. Learn to steer the conversation to what you DO want to talk about and you'll enjoy all your friendships and relationships a lot more.

The present moment does not exist as in there is no separation between it and anything else that has a separate reality. The nature of thought is that it can create the illusion that there is separation. Experience without thought is "now". When you look at something you've never seen before (you've never really seen anything before) and you are taking it all in, that is without thought. There's an openness and inherent sense of wonder, allowing and love. "Oh look, it's Jane." "Oh look, the neighbors dog is taking a crap on my lawn, dammit." -thought There is no real distinction, again that's thought. You can only feel now, you can only see now. Thought deals with the felt and the seen, never can it feel and see.

Anyone can get a .org ending to their website, it means just as much as .net.

Make a subtle intention and relax, if it's meant to be remembered, you'll remember it. You're not missing out on anything. You might also look into yoga nidra.

@TangerinedreamThere are people who hold awful feeling perspectives about themselves which they reflect on others, but you if you are practicing self love and focusing on the things you love and that are life giving, you will not take it to heart. YOU ARE LOVED. People will rate your value only as a reflection of how well they rate their own. It has nothing to do with you. You are love itself. Start to notice how often in thought you shame yourself. Notice you do it pre-emptively, before anyone else can. Consider looking into Brene Brown's work, books and talks on shame.

Check out Brene Brown's work, talks and books on the topic of shame.

Here and here, here and there. There and here, there and here. I'll stay, I'll go, I'll go, I'll stay. Here and there. I'll stay here. I'll go there. here (adv.) Old English her "in this place, where one puts himself; at this time, toward this place," from Proto-Germanic pronominal stem *hi- (from PIE *ki- "this;" see he) + adverbial suffix -r. Cognate with Old Saxon her, Old Norse, Gothic her, Swedish här, Middle Dutch, Dutch hier, Old High German hiar, German hier. It's just not a decision I could make.

Right now I'm letting my love and addiction to this forum sort of fade out. I guess the love will eat up the addiction. I really didn't think things would end up here. Where? I mean the way things are. I didn't think they would get so bad, I thought they would go somewhere amazing. Oh, you mean here. Yes, I was expecting a certain avenue (this forum, specific people) to be the way for what I envisioned and wanted to come. But I'm seeing how infinite, location-less and powerful "I" really am. I really don't feel that right now though. I feel inept, paralyzed, disappointed, sad, disillusioned, grieving even. I gave you the whole world and you responded with mourning. It doesn't feel whole, and it's hard to remember yourself when everyone else forgets so spectacularly. Why do I depend so much on others? Why am I co-dependent? Maybe you believe that you have to create alone. All this time creation has been nothing but a co-creation and the true feeling of being alone is that of being whole. “There are always moments when one feels empty and estranged. Such moments are most desirable, for it means the soul has cast its moorings and is sailing for distant places. This is detachment -- when the old is over and the new has not yet come. If you are afraid, the state may be distressing, but there is really nothing to be afraid of. Remember the instruction: Whatever you come across -- go beyond.” -Nisargadatta Maharaj It's bullshit. We're playing this game, this pretend "leveling up" just to stay above the emotions, to keep pushing them back down, to prevent the real unconditional love because we're afraid of the consequences, of the liability. And this fear IS the liability. There's something I want to say, so powerfully and it won't flow. I want it to flow and all I'm noticing is how stuck it is. What are you afraid of? Failure and insignificance. THIS, this right here, how I'm feeling now, I'm afraid of this. This is blocking this. It's the ironic pattern I keep running into. You don't have to be anything for anybody. Let me play with a limiting perspective, ok? If you go beyond, and go beyond, and discard, and see through it, and discard, don't you end up really fucking lonely? Oh no, you'd still have your imaginary sense of separation to keep you company. You got rid of everyone else but kept the boogeyman who lives in the closet. You're the only one who feeds him snacks. The boogeyman is the only one I'm really co-dependent with. ? And the rest are just reflections that manifest out of that. The reflections aren't the ones you're the feeding donuts to through the crack under the closet door. Seriously, he's a fucking DEVIL. What a perfect shadow, the lion symbolism, the 666 on the wall, and your 666 post, and the realization that you are in fact the... YES, I remember. It makes sense, FOR ME, only FOR ME. It was all for you! You are loved. You need no one to appear to be the means through which it comes, you ARE Love(d)! Oh. Oh. OH. oh. I see what I did there.

Ever notice how no one gives a fuck about Steve Jobs? Like, they think maybe learning about him will give them some sort of insight to help THEM create something or not be an asshole or to be a bigger asshole or something like that but their interest in Steve Jobs is all about them. People are too busy using what Steve Jobs created to create their OWN stuff with, that they don't really care about Steve Jobs himself. Just create. It's all you're already doing anyway. Creation don't stop for no one. Literally there IS NO SUCH THING AS DISTRACTION. You are always focused on something. You can focus on being unfocused, and then you call it distraction. You are focus itself.

Well, we don't really guide kids to follow their inspiration much because it's really annoying when they do sometimes. (My 8 year old recently wanted to take apart my glasses so he can make some kind of lens thing for a project.) We teach kids to do their work and do as they are told, and work should not be fun or explorative for the most part. We apply that onto spirituality or life and separate out "important things" from "unimportant things" and throw away joy. Totally not your fault. You can totally stop doing it though.

@integral Because giving to others in a way that you know they are fully receiving it feels AMAZING. When someone is asking for our best selves, we use them as an excuse (not saying that with negativity) to connect with and BE our best selves. When you're teaching others, you get insights you didn't even know yourself. You focus in a way you never have before. You've not just connected with them you've connected with the Source of knowledge and love itself. The realization is that you can do this regardless of circumstances. This sometimes feels like a mourning, but what we are mourning is the letting go of the limited circumstances that seemingly allowed us to stumble upon this connection, but the realization is that we're not limited, that we can embody this and feel this way, that it is the essence of what we really are. She allowed you to discovery yourself in a way you never had before, and that discovery is yours to keep. When we keep ascribing it to circumstances and other people, we disconnect ourselves from it.

People risked everything to come here and colonize the US out of faith and desire for religious freedom. Religion and faith is one of the only belief systems humans have to transcend survival, to somewhat begin to transcend life and death and explain it. Sometimes this is translated by the mind in very stupid ways. The desire for freedom is deeply spiritual. Sometimes THIS is translated by the mind in very stupid ways.

@Anahata HOLY cow. Welcome to the forum. Never beheld such a high level of clarity from someone here in just 6 posts. I'm such a sucker for nondual recontextualization of Bible verses. THAT was good. ??

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Just like Jesus, he's gone now, so he can be whatever you want him to be.

What is pain for? Can you imagine the troubles you'd have in life if when you did something stupid to your body you didn't feel any sort of pain. Pain is guidance. Emotional suffering is guidance. It is Good. Once you get very sensitive to it, then there's no need to push it. The problem is that we are ignorant to the fact that suffering and pain is guidance. We must appreciate it and use it to focus on what we do want, to use our minds and bodies in the ways that they are intended.

❤? Another way to think of it is with light, with white light all colors are inherent yet the light is colorless. When light shines on an object the object absorbs some colors and reflects another and appears to be a specific color. But if you take away the source of white light from it then not only the color but the separate object itself disappears.

@Forestluv ❤

Check out Abraham Hicks. All about living your life to the fullest as well as some of the deepest spiritual truths there are. You can have your cake and eat it too. True love or resonance and curiosity for something is not a decision. If we were doing something just for the results, we actually held the results away from us, not realizing this THIS here, is the result. You don't make the decision to pick it up or drop it. It calls you. Find what truly calls you, it all comes from the same source, what you really are.

I absolutely love seeing and meeting women who are much older and are living inspired lives. I've always been fascinated with older women who look so comfortable in their skin, they have this presence and confidence far greater than any younger beautiful woman that just shines through. I think the self love part is true beauty and it only gets better and better with time, especially if we pay attention to how we feel and let go of self-criticism and limiting beliefs. That's the true foundation of beauty. A lot of us have been taught a lot of BS things about beauty from people trying to sell us things and people who haven't really taken the time to stop, look and see the world for what it really is. The world and human beings look much different when you truly look, with an open mind and take in the beauty of it. Older women are absolutely beautiful in my opinion on their own, and gray hair and wrinkles in no way detracts from their beauty. You are not the body but the light which shines through it. Pay attention to what you DO want over what you don't want. Always look to try new things and find things to appreciate. You get more of what you focus on. Make well being and feeling amazing a priority, try yoga, try new healthy recipes, try new creative pursuits, and new challenges but do it from a place of inspiration and chose what you are truly inspired toward, not from a place of "I need to do this to slow the clock" or something like that. If you see the world and your self with new eyes, and open to a sense of childlike wonder which is your TRUE nature, aging and time itself will be the last thing on your mind.