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@28 cm unbuffed Sex and attraction seems to be one of God's favorite ways of getting our attention. It's so similar to the feeling of ego death and desire for unity, and yet also potentially such a powerful distraction from that thing itself. Awareness, awareness, awareness.

Not crazy, but let's take one step back and one deep breath. Ready? You are Mary Magdalene and Goddess Kali.

Genesis 1:31 And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.

This is Muninn, he'll be coming home with us in about a month.

I'm not sure that having the concept of a dark night of the soul is helpful to anyone. Or having the concept of someone or oneself being spiritually gifted. I don't say that to correct anyone, just to say that in my own experience they've lead to confusion and distraction. If God is love then go directly there, if a troll stops you and keeps you from crossing that bridge, that troll is yourself and the only way it's "killed" is through love. Love can be pretty terrifying when seen through the lens of limited self, but giving the monster under the bed a name like "dark night of the soul" only perpetuates the belief in the illusion of it. Having said that I don't think denying that there are major challenges that come up is a mistake, in fact I think it's quite compassionate when it comes from the right place.

Moss is really, really beautiful.

This is a great illustration of how sticky the hold is that belief has on us and how we all live in different thought and belief created realities. Even within this particular topic of discussion! In Leo terms, the disagreement is the content, the more we all train ourselves to see through the content to the structure the more we can interact with love and more efficiently share knowledge without getting stuck on it or dismissing it as foolishness.

My suggestion is to take up running or somehow find a meditative activity that you enjoy. There are tons of different activities that you can do consciously that are powerful. I ran in place of meditation for years, except I didn't know I was mediating, I just realized that the running staved off depression and was also really enjoyable. It just sort of turned into meditation the more conscious I became. Also watch your thoughts closely throughout the day whenever you can, go out in nature whenever possible, tie meditation together with daily life. Get creative about ways to painlessly fit it into your own life. When boredom comes up investigate what's beneath the boredom, what's the sensation of boredom other a judgement of the mind?

@Preety_India For sure, knowing what you want in a partner is important. What is love really though? When my husband is absorbed in a video game or whatever else I don't exist in his world. Whether I feel loved or unloved in that moment is completely up to me. Of course if he never ever gave me attention, I'd probably leave out of love for us both. When I'm buying groceries nothing exists in my experience except the cashier and the store. Whether I feel loved or unloved in that moment is up to me and independent of the circumstances. We believe love comes from someone else but how could it really? How could love actually be a biological need and not be neediness but also love? Because love itself must be ever present and unconditional. Hope that makes sense.

@Preety_India That's what we all want from any relationship at all really, whether it's with a cashier, a bird, a stone, the sky or ourselves. There are varying levels and ways in which its appropriate to display and act on that love, sure, but that's what we really want. When we limit ourself to needing and expecting to get all that fulfillment and wonder from one other person, we're bound to be disappointed.

This. Life has enough spark on it's own, or rather the spark is within you, expecting a relationship to be the source of the fiery spark you're looking for in your life is the definition of neediness. Sometimes that spark appears within a relationship with another or it seems to come from a relationship and we mistakenly attribute it to another person. Hollywood has not helped us to dissolve these needy expectations of each other.

@Mikael89 I have relationships with many stones already, but I'm always happy to meet a new one! Leo told me to notice why I don't have a relationship with my vacuum cleaner, but it's hard not to be needy with the vacuum because I get really pissed off when it doesn't work the way I want it to. Honestly though, I've been married for 10 years, in a relationship with him for 14 years, close friends with him for 17 years and there's been LOTS of back and forth of neediness on both our parts during that entire time. Everyone is needy sometimes, eventually love is big enough to forgive it. But loving ourselves or love itself also dissolves neediness.

Well if you think about it, why do we not like to have needy partners? Because we don't want to be responsible for anyone else's happiness. We want to be seen for who we truly are and not seen through the lens of what someone needs us to be for them. Because we know we will fail to be that. If they have put that expectation on us, on needing us to make them happy, then we might as well end the relationship sooner rather than later because there's no way that person won't continue to be miserable. Only if we stay we will risk being blamed as the cause for their own misery. Basically it feels as if they are seeing us through such a cloudy lens that we aren't even there, we aren't even seen as a soul or a being in ourselves and might as well just be a blow up doll sitting next to them.

Neediness is not just an issue that exists within a certain category of life. It's something deeper than that, a general feeling of not feeling complete. That means that if your relationships/attraction with the opposite sex isn't going well, you can choose to focus on the parts of your life that are going well. The neediness will start to dissolve on its own and then you can revisit the subject (dating/attraction) with less self sabotaging. That's probably why people with successful relationships often meet each other through work or shared interests. If you're going to a club or a bar, there's a dynamic there that makes the game and the "rules" of attraction very obvious and competitive.

I became conscious of this underlying thing that is and the I tried off and on to own that. Then sometimes I tried to berate the I for doing this afterwards.

Everything I've done has been a quest to feel good with the realization that feeling good is not what I think it will be. I continually trick myself into thinking about what feels good. "Watch your thoughts", Abraham Hick's "Pay attention to how you feel" are the same thing. I had a realization now how I go into stories to explain why I'm feeling good. A certain place or person, made me feel good, a memory, a story revolving around an "I". Inevitably there are consequences and backlash created in this. I can surrender, die to bliss not only when I feel bad and want out but also when I'm feeling amazing.

The thing this story requires is a you. The "you" needs circumstances to be a specific way in order to be content. When it gets those circumstances it will sabotage the contentment by finding something else that isn't right. It does not make any difference whatsoever what the circumstances are. Does the author have to kill the character in the end of the book in order to finish the last chapter and stop telling to story? Or can the author choose to have the story stop but the character continue to live on in peace?

@Mikael89 I found this lady's videos accidentally through the one you shared with me in another thread a few days ago. I thought this was perfect here.

Transmissions can happen in strange ways, they can come through as indirect communication as text on the internet, or through specific places and "leftover" energy from people who have passed. It's all about openness and intention, or most of all it's just the power of love and that's all there ever was.

Who or what imagined the body? You cannot imagine your own body because there's no you. "You are imaging your reality", is a pointer to try to get you to take so much personal responsibility that you realize that there's no you at all. You choose your body and you chose you life circumstances but you will not be able to align with this until you stop complaining or fighting against them.

If your computer messes up do you turn it off and on again or do you smash the entire thing to bits?

@7thLetter Check out the research on blue zones, it's very interesting! I think that many of us are trying to find connection and community in stage orange environments and that can take more effort and creativity than it did in the past. https://www.bluezones.com/2016/11/power-9/ "7. Belong All but five of the 263 centenarians we interviewed belonged to some faith-based community. Denomination doesn’t seem to matter. Research shows that attending faith-based services four times per month will add 4-14 years of life expectancy. 8. Loved Ones First Successful centenarians in the blue zones put their families first. This means keeping aging parents and grandparents nearby or in the home (It lowers disease and mortality rates of children in the home too.). They commit to a life partner (which can add up to 3 years of life expectancy) and invest in their children with time and love (They’ll be more likely to care for you when the time comes). 9. Right Tribe The world’s longest lived people chose–or were born into–social circles that supported healthy behaviors, Okinawans created ”moais”–groups of five friends that committed to each other for life. Research from the Framingham Studies shows that smoking, obesity, happiness, and even loneliness are contagious. So the social networks of long-lived people have favorably shaped their health behaviors."

If you want to take it one step further, food has nutritional value beyond the nutrients we know are important to measure and the soil food is grown in is very important. Soil health itself should be one of our biggest focuses, depleted soil won't grow as nutritious food and healthy soil. We also eat a very limited number of species. If you want to have the ultimate healthy diet, you have to spend your days foraging for a huge variety of species grown in undisturbed soil. Having time to have a good balanced life is a luxury of modern times and we have to make some trade offs in health and nutrition to achieve this. Beliefs about food and how they vary in different people is an amazing thing to observe. We truly create our reality and that's why no one's perspectives and experiences are ever going to line up quite right unless they are closely following someone else's rules.

This particular teacher especially promotes the opening of the crown (purple) and heart(green) chakras.

@Serotoninluv I think that unrequited love is one of the deepest, most honest forms of courage there is. God is such a drama queen.