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I have since discovered that trick. Too late to save myself from some serious embarrassment and a good story though.

@Martin123 WEIRD synchronicity, I for real, used to think Nahm was a middle-aged lesbian because when I came to the forum I assumed he had to be female because he took so much time to help everyone including myself. I couldn't imagine a man being that giving to others. Then he mentioned his wife and instead of realizing he was male, I was like "Oh she's lesbian". But it was just a projection. I dunno, but I kinda think the universe is playing a big joke on us all. Too busy complaining about each other to laugh about it though.

Is that a nomination for Moderator?

Well that's simply not my perception of things. Like I said earlier, I have been very disappointed in some things I've read, but I think that the big picture is that everyone is here to grow, even the most "advanced" are here to learn from everyone else. If we assume that everyone must be perfect to interact then this place would either be full of pretenders or completely empty. I don't use the law of attraction to blame myself, I use it to focus. There are two sides inherent to every perspective, what is wanted and what isn't. If you don't like this place, spend you time somewhere you do like. Simple switch of focus and everyone is happy.

@Martin123 Isn't it inclusive when some guy in the military can talk openly about topics like psychedelics and mystical experiences without worrying about losing his means of providing for his family?

Write down the things you want in life, big and small and also make self care a priority. It's less about stability and more about being really inspired about where we're going, even though we aren't really sure how exactly it will unfold, we're so excited to be on the adventure that there's no where else we'd rather be.

@Martin123Facebook groups are by their nature much more superficial. There isn't much potential for archived resources, for long term discussions and relationships with people. They are usually more focused on a specific topic which makes them MUCH easier to moderate, but also much more limited. People have to be linked to their Facebook accounts which requires a real name. Don't overlook or underappreciate the freedom and depth that is here. The resources are on this forum are absolutely incredible. That can't exist on Facebook. Ultimately you are attracting the interactions you have. It's not the venue's fault or credit, or even the other person's.

@Martin123 This forum goes much deeper than simple Facebook groups. I started having mystical experiences not knowing what they were two years ago and really needed some guidance. I posted on an Eckhart Tolle Facebook page and my post was never even approved. So I came over here. Just because something appears inclusive on the surface doesn't mean it is. At all.

@Shunyata From a nondual perspective, yes of course I'm you. Yes, I live where there are cold long winters. I usually gain a few pounds in the winter and lose it in the summer again. I have hated this trend for years, but the inconvenient truth is that it really is easier to stay warm when you're a bit fluffier.

What do you mean, ordinary?

@Shunyata I'm a girl, also about 5'3. What works best for me is to focus on what I DO eat. I make sure I get enough protein, and I try to make sure I get a good amount of protein for breakfast. For me that significantly decreases my food cravings. I also make sure I eat a ton of veggies, I try for one every meal and I eat huge servings of them. You have to work up to it and find which you can digest easily and which you can't, but you will feel amazing. I also make sure I get exercise that I enjoy, preferably outside, almost every single day.

I just finished the "What is Actualized.org? video". Absolutely amazing. Leo frames things in such a unique way. Spirituality often ends up being an island unto itself when it comes to teachers that go deep. If you didn't get your letter to Hogwarts you're fucked and doomed to be a muggle the rest of your life. Leo is a hero for inclusiveness, and I think right now, if I could project a desire on the earth or on God or on.. whatever, it is to include all in the magic of what "this" really is. Leo's videos get right to heart of everything I knew but never knew I ever really wanted and wanted to feel from life, but they bring it closer to home somehow, in a way that invites me to merge the dream with action.

The thought "I like blue", how does that thought feel? Does that have anything to do with the actual experience of looking at something blue? How does that feel? Is it possible that "I like blue" is just a thought, that actually has nothing to do with the actual experience of the color blue?

How do you know you like blue?

@Mikael89 What's your favorite color?

Not sure I see what you're implying. The reason I specify truck driver is because many truck drivers and construction workers have a culture of talking about women however they'd like because there aren't usually aren't any women around them. He carried his habits of speaking about women home, no thinking about how it sounded and what messages his daughters took from it. Similarly, on an internet forum one often imagines that they are talking to a specific type of man, when in reality their words are being read by a huge variety of people, each taking their own personal take a ways from the same statement. As a parent I've caught myself doing the same thing many times, talking to an adult lost in the conversation, and completely forgetting that little ears are listening.

@Someone here I had OCD when I was a kid, I would hear in my head commands to do things that made me really uncomfortable. Sometimes it was to confess things. I was able to recognize the disorder and stop taking the thoughts seriously by the time I entered high school and it never returned, except a touch of it every once in a while when I was running cross country or my mind was blank. It was gone until about a month or so before my awakening, at age 30. Then I realized that the impulses were leading me straight to what I wanted, but because what I wanted was what I thought was terrifying, I equated the impulses with intense suffering. Now I have with them daily and see them as a kind of sixth sense that doesn't care much about my own limited plans, ideas or schedule, but instead works only for my heart of hearts desires and they've led me to some pretty cool things.

@Gesundheit I've been reading Nahm's posts for a year and half now, almost daily. I still have to reeeally slow down and take my time. If one particularly strikes me or if I'm not getting it, I often read them 2, 3, 4 times, and often something shifts when I do. Trust me, it's really, really, really worth your time.

Happily Ever Before.

Confession, I sometimes think the only reason I've stuck around this forum so long as a female is because my Dad is a truck driver and I had to learn at a young age that wonderful loving men sometimes say some horribly unconscious hurtful things about women.

Was the aha moment accompanied by a feeling? Is there an insight your mind can grab on and hold without the feeling? Or were they unequivocally one?

Oh no, I agree. I would also say that Taylor Swift and Justin Beiber are authentic art. I mean to say that on a deeper level that it's all artifice, it's all based on our perspective and our perspective and the person behind it is what's false. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and art is the same thing.

Well, Satan or Lucifer is the angel of light, so light seeds might not help.

If something upsets you, just say something. Like you did. Sometimes it isn't clear whose fault it is, our projection, their problem, a misunderstanding or both our problem's, until we communicate.