snowyowl

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  1. Protests, demonstrations and much else (even terrorist attacks) are dependent on the mass media for an effective propaganda effect. Basically they are an attempt to force your way into the headlines when the other routes into the news aren't really interested in your campaign. Another example is the Insulate Britain eco warriors blockading the M25 motorway; they could have held their demonstration in a park without inconveniencing anyone but that wouldn't achieve any coverage in the press. Of course there's lots of other interests manipulating the media too, such as corporations and billionaires throwing money at their PR departments to influence public opinion. The moral is, don't be a sheep taking in whatever is beamed at you through the media. Be sceptical, check sources, check biases, research all sides of the question and don't be too quick to make up your mind. And the louder someone shouts at you, the more suspicious you should be.
  2. @Carl-Richard Neutral monism is my favourite metaphysics, because it seems to me that both matter and mind are rationalisations of "This". This is the neutral monad.
  3. I lost some money (but not everything) in the stock market after the dot com boom ended in the early 2000s. I was new to investing and inexperienced, but one of my feelings was denial, I was sure the slide was ending, took hope in every little upturn in the market, so I held on like a gambler. When I noticed this with contemplation and journalling it felt bad, I'd been an idiot. But during the process I realised I had a lot to learn and read voraciously, joined a good financial forum and it wasn't too long before I was back in the black making money. For example the stock markets only recently reached their 1999 peaks again but if you reinvest the dividends, seek low fees, invest regularly, you can recover more quickly.
  4. @mandyjw Interesting, I hadn't thought of it like that before. Then after WW2 it became obvious that the USSR was expanding its communist empire in Europe and elsewhere, atomic weapons were proliferating etc, so the capitalist powers urgently needed strong leadership.
  5. On the subject of giving therapy to criminals, well unfortunately there isn't nearly enough money & therapists to go around for all the law abiding citizens who need it, so giving it in priority to law breakers is just unfair and will create a backlash (ie more people voting for right wing law & order politics). But I get that some mentally ill people end up in prison because of a lack of help when they needed it. Also other criminals can be prevented from a life of crime by better education, and job opportunities early in life before they get on the wrong track. Ie putting the resources into more social equality in the community, better policing and youth activities to stop the gang culture from sucking in new recruits. Prison is extremely expensive and every inmate prevented from crime in the first place releases funds which should be recycled back into the community. But unfortunately we are seeing more inequality instead.
  6. Wow, surely it's not just a binary choice between being hard on your kids or mollycoddling them? IMO there's a middle way where children are brought up in love, from being coddled as babies and young infants, to gradually learning the ways of the world and finding their own feet. School for example provides many lessons in standing up for yourself against the other kids, but in an environment which is controlled to some extent by the teachers. Many teenagers want to rebel against their parents anyway and there's a risk they can go too far and get into danger. So I'd say it all depends on the personality of the young person whether they need reining in with tighter boundaries, or loosening the boundaries and given more freedom. A difficult balancing act for the parents and no easy answer.
  7. This is the crux of it. A God which can be defined is a dualistic God, so not the one most of us are discussing here. Even to make the distinction of alive vs dead is still dualism. Same for us: as Jim Newman says 'This is death already' (on the absolute level at any rate).
  8. What's the separation between 'me' and 'figments of my imagination', what if they're the same thing? BTW who's the quote from?
  9. @Blackhawk Have you noticed that only you are saying you can't find happiness, get a girlfriend, a fulfilling job etc? Everyone else (except the trolls who don't count) are more open minded. If that's true in the forum, maybe it's also true when you ask women out on dates, or apply for jobs? I know you don't accept a diagnosis of neurodiversity , I'm not pressing on that issue, but have you seen the UK TV series 'The Undateables' about people with challenging conditions on their journeys to go on dates and find love? They haven't given up hope, I wish you hope too. https://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-undateables
  10. @inFlow "Now is ever present. But how Now is forever. How did Now start?" One idea to contemplate is that we're living in a singularity appearing as space-time. I'm contemplating what reality is like to light. It travels at the speed of light, obviously, so do time and space exist for light in the sense we experience them? Or is all of space-time reduced to a singularity?
  11. The opposite of conspiracy theory is that WE are responsible for the messed up state of the world, and have the freedom to do something positive about it. But that's hard work and shakes us out of our selfish bubbles, so it's easier to blame someone else and pass the buck.
  12. “Do not try to become anything. Do not make yourself into anything. Do not be a meditator. Do not become enlightened. When you sit, let it be. When you walk, let it be. Grasp at nothing. Resist nothing.” Ajahn Chah. (An enlightened monk who spent decades meditating ).
  13. Reality is one. Reality is nothing. Reality is infinite. ... these are metaphors from our stock of conceptual ideas to express the inexpressible, each one has its place but I don't take them too literally. Words exist to point us to something. Reality sometimes appears as oneness to me, sometimes it appears as a diversity, sometimes it doesn't appear at all. It's as though the 'why', Reality-in-itself, the noumenon, is the void mystery out of which I create these appearances.
  14. My (limited) understanding of this is that all babies are born as stage beige and we all need to progess from there. Have you spent time with a group of, say, 6-8 year olds, even in an orange community the kids are mostly purple/red at that age. So to keep a whole society at green would need a lot of ongoing development work imo.
  15. I'm not Jewish, but have been learning about Jewish mysticism, Kabbala, Spinoza, pantheism, Hasidism and related topics in the 'Seekers of Unity' YT channel. Really interesting to see the links between Jewish & other types of mysticism at the philosophical level, even though the cultural language varies around the world. https://www.youtube.com/SeekersofUnity Edit. Also the Hasidic Rabbi Yom Tov has a good YT channel, he discusses mystical Judaism and is also great fun, although rather conservative (eg his views on gender identity). https://www.youtube.com/RabbiYomTov
  16. @Blackhawk In my book, unconditional acceptance is part of love, so when you say you accept yourself but don't love yourself, it seems to show you've got different definitions to me. "Even if I would accept myself as I am, it wouldn't make a difference. Because then what? Would that suddenly somehow make me happy? How?" Well, there's two ways to approach this. You're taking what we might call the worldly approach, where you need to do something to make you happy, loveable or whatever. So acceptance looks like a practice you need to do with happiness as an end result. It seems impossible because you'll still have your psychological condition which is what you believe is causing the unhappiness in the first place. Alternatively there's what we could call the spiritual approach, where radical acceptance (=love) of the present moment is already happiness. Happiness isn't something created by following a practice, or getting the right circumstances into place, but more like uncovering our natural state (also love) which has been covered up by traumas and negative experiences in life, like the clouds obscuring the sun. It's like saying to the world, this is who I am, warts and all, I'm confident in my own skin and I'm not going to apologise for who I am. Take me or leave me. In practice I'd say it's a mixture of both, most of us can't live a purely spiritual life, we need some worldliness too. You already are loveable but the worldly part of me thinks you need to find the right people to mix with because not everyone's unconditionally accepting back at you. So it's a case of finding a suitable group setting, perhaps somewhere structured and supported, being friendly towards others and seeing what happens. But I've said all this already and I'm starting giving advice again so I'll leave it there.
  17. @Blackhawk Most people have no idea how it feels being so depressed that you can say things like 'I'm completely worthless'. Added to a general insensitivity to people's feelings, especially online when you can't see each other face to face, means it's a jungle out there. I hope you find a better experience here in the Actualized forum? How do you feel about yourself, do you love yourself and have compassion through all your suffering? I hope this won't offend, it's meant with kindness. But I wonder if there's more to this than just feeling worthless, is there a second part along the lines of ... I feel worthless and I want to feel worthy. Or, I'm unloved but I want to be loved. If so, then you want to have some change. You always tell us not to give you any advice or suggestions what to do differently, in other words we should simply accept you how you are right now. Without trying to change you. And I do accept you. If only you'd take your own advice and accept yourself warts and all, love yourself with your challenges and imperfections. End the fight, the inner conflict between, I need love & I'm unloveable. Wishing you a good week man. Keep talking and venting.
  18. I'm a bit confused now, do you think you deserve the way they treat you? Or are they bullying you because of your disability (if you don't mind me calling it that)? Anonymity in forums is important to me, for security reasons apart from anything else. But that anonymity is a two edged sword, it means bullies and trolls get away with all sorts of abuse. Sorry to hear you're going through it man.
  19. How have women been mean?
  20. As far as we know our universe started spontaneously for no reason as an explosion out of nothingness, the big bang. So sure it could happen again many times. A big bang could even happen inside an existing universe, with different laws getting mixed up. What a way to go if a big bang happens here tomorrow 😀 The word universe should refer to everything, so it's outlived it's etymology, rather like atom, which originally meant the smallest indivisible particle.
  21. @VeganAwake I'm slowly taking this in (contemplation takes me as long as it takes I'm afraid). The analogy of my dog on a leash outside seems to imply an objective existence of the actual dog, about which I can have subjective illusions and stories. "Everything could be referred to as just stories because there's no real meaning or purpose behind anything." So if everything's a story, then why would we distinguish between true vs untrue, or real vs unreal stories when there's nothing absolute to compare them with? On the other hand, if there's an appearance (or story) that I'm separate, as I believe right now, isn't that the truth? Then another time when I have a mystical glimpse of oneness and wholeness, then that appearance is also the truth? From the pov of wholeness, separation is illusion; from the pov of separation, wholeness is illusion. I must still be missing something.
  22. @RoerAmit if you're feeling suicidal or this seems too much to handle by yourself please see a professional like your doctor or ring one of the suicide helplines. It sounds like you're going through a process of the suppressed trauma coming to the surface and the emotions need to find expression, but if you let it move, cry or whatever you need, it should gradually subside. Like the five stages of grief: emotions: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. For now I'd recommend just focusing on your emotional healing and taking care of your mental health, with whatever support you've got available. Build up a strong healthy happy self. The spiritual work of deconstructing ego needs to wait imo.
  23. What we have is sense perceptions, and stories (thoughts). That's it. There's one story of my dog on the leash, another story of my dog not on the leash. The second story is in accordance with my visual perception of seeing it. There's no real vs unreal distinction, because that's just another story: that sense perception implies an objective reality "out there". At least that's the phenomenal perspective: everything is appearance. The flip side is the noumenal perspective: everything is real in itself, independent of mind. There's still an illusion, but in this case the illusion is that mind exists independently of the objective reality. The secret I can't talk about however is when the phenomenon and the noumenon both collapse, are both seen to be stories.
  24. "I wouldn't diagnose me at all. But I'm sure doctors could give me several diagnoses, I don't want to name which." Sure the doctors don't always get it right, but you know you've got a problem otherwise you wouldn't be reaching out to us in the forum. I totally understand if you don't want to have a mental health label on your head, but you're stuck at the moment suffering the loneliness without seeing any way out. "I finished the book. It was good but it didn't help me. No book has ever helped me, or video or any advice from anyone." That's true in a way for all of us, we're not directly helping each other just giving pointers. We've all got to take the initiative ourselves and make a commitment to something. Even if it's just acceptance and making peace with how things are. "It's ok, I kinda appreciate that someone writes something to me." Thanks, I also appreciate the chance to write and have people read me. "This is unrelated to this stuff but.. Man.. there's a woman at my work who has beautiful eyes, and when I talked with her about work-stuff she was looking laser-focused into my eyes all the time. That was all it took for me to get feelings for her. I need to see her eyes and face again. And she's so kind too. Anyways.. that was off-topic. I know you will say that I should talk more with her and yadda yadda (no offense) but I wont. I can only hope that I have to talk more with her about work-stuff " "I felt like crying when I was looking into her beautiful, loving, blue, soul piercing eyes. I wonder if she noticed that. Imagine if I had lost it at that moment and started crying.." Oh man, of course it's related, this is the whole point! Why not "lose it", what have you got to lose? Is "losing it" a Freudian slip for letting go of control over your bottled up emotions? I'd be surprised if she didn't notice it and your difficulty talking, women are generally a lot more emotionally intelligent than us guys and tuned into our signals. Even if you only talk about work stuff for now, I'd say take the chance and practice talking anyway.
  25. @Marcel sorry to hear you're going through this, it sounds rough. Have you looked into attachment theory (1) ? It describes how a lack of secure attachment in early childhood affects your attachment style eg you may have an insecure attachment disorder. I'm not sure how adults are treated, who weren't reached for therapy in childhood, but there may be specialist therapy you can access through your doctor. Godspeed my man, I hope you can access some help, and stop it affecting your relationships. You deserve all the happiness in the world (1). https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory