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Are you willing to try method told by Dr. Mandel? All you need is a couple of spoons..

It's going alright more or less thank you for asking! I did a trip to a nearby country for two months, lived there and back now to Iraq.. how's your life going?

I wanted to share this with you guys, The best thing that I am trying to learn as I am maturing up is to live my life as a character in a novel. I am trying to have less control over the narrative of my life. One method to do this is just to try to embrace what life throws at you, swim with the current, resist less, and bow more for circumstance and people who come in your way. One thing though I was and still trying to achieve is to calibrate my value and moral compass, be oriented towards truth, love and kindness. What this approach enabled me to do is to observe more, and learn from my observations, understand how reality works, and all of that wasn't and won't be available to me if I had an agenda, which could act like a filter to reality, in many times distorting how I perceive it. Terms like success, dating, sex, marriage now have different meanings when I seek the truth, and I've notices that many of those if not all of them are social constructs that I needed to avoid in order to grow up in character. I was able to get different definitions for things that make sense to me. For example the country, is an imaginary circle you draw around a group of people or a nation, and when I started to draw this circle closer or smaller, my country became my city, and my nation is the people whom I interact with on a daily basis. That did liberate me from my past conviction that I am doomed because I am from a less respected country.

I guess it's an act of balance, and courses, knowledge, and theory is of utmost important too, however sometimes we're rigid when it comes to letting life unfolds, for example, do you bow to somebody whom you think is stupid? are you willing to go along for a bit with them and let them take you and guide your life? or is it the opposite, once you label someone as stupid, you try to avoid them, cut connection with them and move in a different direction?

they kinda let life unfolds though.. most of the time people tend to buy into other's agenda.. Characters in novels don't go and take courses and set their eyes on achieving and such for example.

From my experience, one tip is not to try to control the narrative of your life too much. Yes we want to grow in character, yes we want to go higher the spiral, but we also need to live the story of life too! Try not to isolate too much for the sake of growth. Expose yourself to the story of life too..

Many of us find themselves stranded, and unable to make it in this world, and would want to believe that we need to succeed and be able to support ourselves, but success isn't for everyone, and I've known may people whom their sons and daughter don't need to work, but they make them do so, and it's basically a means of control (Keep them busy) and driven by fear and insecurities. However it makes no sense if your dad makes millions of dollars that you need to engage in capitalism yourself, but rather than you need to raise your consciousness level and try to heal the world, especially that there's no excuse today when resources like actualized.org do exist. All you need is to learn how to tap into your family's money, and have some of that in order to use it to survive, while you yourself try to become a better human being and maybe one day you will be able to heal this world and lessen the suffering of it's people, animals, planets, and ecosystem. For the above purpose, I would use games, and use arguments against those that they push onto you. I would take ownership of the whole situation and think in the direction that if my parents are stupid, dumb, selfish mother fuckers, but they have tons of money, I need to be able to have access to that money, rather than staying miserable and working my ass off just to be able to physically survive.

@Vrubel yea but "earning" is a loaded concept... Why not try using "hoarding" instead?

@Vrubel @royce because you liked my previous post

The reason why they put laws against money forgery because it's a finite resource. Also they picked papers and coins with special drawings so that they won't be easily duplicated, yet they did put laws against those who duplicate them. What's the implication of that? Money mostly can be a safe investment of your life in highly stable times, and when the world gets complicated, and there are many wars and conflicts, money can even lose it's value in so many different ways. In difficult times, it becomes difficult to make money, precisely because everyone thinks that it's going to make them safe and try to hoard more of it. Rather, you need solutions that are out of the box, try to embrace the big picture thinking. Money is a finite resource means that any money you hoard is going to be denied to other people who might need it more than you do. The game of money is unfair anyways, and there are those who just snap into place and start making money from the get go, and there are those who are marginalized and alienated from society who can't make money even if they try. Also try to imagine you're not living alone! and we're all living at the same boat, and the boat, the society, sinks, you are going to sink with them! Would you rather sink while you're poor? or with tons of money that you've made? At least if you were poor, it means you must've invested your time elsewhere, probably you've made connections and you're going to spend your last minutes with the loved ones, but if you're rich, even your family is going to blame you for not doing enough, so you'll die alone!

Money in the world is limited after all. You can't forge money too. so if you make money yourself, it's taken from somebody else's pocket right? so why not take it from your parent's pocket?

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Let's think about it, What do majority of undeveloped countries (Muslim countries included) do? What are some of their values are? And one answer is that it's survival-based, ultra-moralistic societies. And what tend to happen with those kind of society is that oppression becomes the norm. They tend to oppress free thinking, and free speech, and that would in turn suppress creativity, to a degree that people just race in order to fill a job that give them food and work in the only available field more or less, the survival business. The thing with that though is that there are only limited seats that can be filled. The country has few job spots, and you can only have certain amount of people filling those spots, but when it comes to creating new sectors of business, this is non-existent! and that's because the lack of freedoms! You can't create something new when all your society is brainwashed to think that survival is all there is out there! In my opinion, when you support the right for nations like Palestine to exist, you're already genocide dreams and killing any hope for progress for those nations. You're basically wanting to keeping them in boxes that are called "Countries", hoping that they will progress somehow maybe, knowing what type of values they're operating under. Those countries indeed need freedom, and need some push back against the prevailing values there. Their youth need protection, and you have to wonder, what's the point of supporting other nations to thrive while their sons and daughters are going to be brainwashed already, multiplying in number and thinking that survival is all there's out there!

If I had been a Palastanian young guy, I would feel I am doomed! war and rocket bombarding me, and I won't be able to say that I want to stop this madness and that I want to live anywhere in this world, and that I don't care about the right to have a state! Had I attempted to express my true feeling, I would probably be executed by my own people!

In our youthful years, we often lack finesse in reading social cues, approaching dating with undue seriousness. Yet, dating should be about enjoyment and shared experiences rather than a strategic pursuit of physical intimacy. A few days ago, I found myself seated on a bench at night, immersed in my own world of TikToks and chat. Suddenly, an African lady joined me at the other end of the bench. We sat independently for about half an hour, engrossed in our respective activities. However, her occasional glances and subtle mimicry of my actions were unmistakable signals that she desired conversation. Summoning my courage, I initiated a discussion by asking about the name of our surroundings. This marked the beginning of a prolonged conversation and a leisurely hour-long walk. My approach was simple: be genuine, be affectionate, enjoy the moment, and create a pleasant experience for her. We continued our interaction until the night air became too chilly. She suggested we head home and recommended bringing a coat next time. As we bid farewell, I expressed a wish to meet again if fate allowed. Surprisingly, no exchange of contact information occurred – neither did it seem necessary. No hidden agendas were present on either side, just two individuals appreciating a spontaneous connection.

that could be a great adventure waiting for you then! and you're right, hormones can affect psychology by a lot

I am glad that you found this story useful. Dates are difficult for girls in particular, because guys are clueless species, they don't pay attention to details, and they don't speak the implicit language.. Hope you have more fun encounters in the future

Why do you think it's the way to go to fuck somebody or be in a relationship with them? I could've walked away and never even paid attetnion and said hi to her. but I did it because we're humans! she wasn't imposing herself on me, in fact she was sitting on the other end of the bench, minding her own business, but I sensed that she could use some company and initiated the talk with her, just out of sheer kindness, and it wasn't easy for me, I've never done that before! I said to myself, let me ask her about something general, and if she wants to connect, she'll naturally try to ask me back a random question..

He's not me, and I wanted to keep the encounter pure, we walked for like an hour, and me we discussed many topics, and we even borrowed badminton equipment from people at the park, we ate popcorn, and then we sate in proximity to each others. We were constantly asking if we should go home cuz it was cold, and then we agreed we should go home. I shook her hand and wished her the best. Also I guess I forgot to mention, she was waiting for a friend of hers she said supposed to also join after finishing work, but then she said no, her friend is not coming it seems, so we said goodbye. I left her actually sitting at the bench. Another detail, I didn't even ask for her name! I thought if I knew her name, I might fall in love with her just repeating the name in my head.. any other question guys?

True! no hidden motives!

That would've been a really nice reply! and thanks for explaining have a great day!

@Majed I've lived in an Islamic country, and I had problems with girls since early ages. However, you do seem to live with a country where rules are strict and you can approach girls few hundreds times before being kicked out? Here are some tips, you need to slow down, and because this urgency would definitely be giving you a "negative aura" that girls can notice really easily. Also, try to dive deep inside yourself, and study your emotions, and listen to Leo's episode "implicit vs explicit" Also try to approach it not from a mentality of an achiever, but just someone who's willing to have fun in life.. Girls like to have fun, and take their time, and somebody who wants to prove something or approaching it like it's a business, well that's instant put off Fourth, to let go of achiever mentality, try to accept that you might never ever be with someone ever in your life and that you might die alone. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you can work on the above points. Good luck!

In our reality, the notion of an infinite money supply is unfounded. Every dollar earned often represents a transfer from someone else, and hoarding wealth in bank accounts and various assets is arguably one of the least constructive pursuits. If you happen to come from a financially privileged background, your obligation is not to disregard the existing wealth stream but to tap into it. Starting from scratch, in such circumstances, seems counterintuitive. Recognize that your family's wealth is an extension of your own. It is incumbent upon you to access and manage this wealth wisely. Utilize your time to cultivate your character and foster personal growth, rather than embarking on a journey from the ground up. Embarking on a self-made journey when your family is already affluent may leave little time for self-actualization and character development. The question then becomes: Why choose such a path? Remember, your family's wealth is an eventual inheritance. Therefore, adopt a mindset befitting your future status – act as a future heir to prosperity. Consider the analogy of a royal heir. They don't seek to establish a new kingdom but patiently await the day they ascend to the throne. Similarly, you should recognize your place within a familial system and the inevitable transfer of wealth to you. Act with the confidence and responsibility of a future king or queen. Understand that the wealth within your family is a legacy awaiting you. Choosing to start anew, disregarding this wealth, may be an unnecessary betrayal of both yourself and others who aspire to experience financial security, self-realization, and contribute positively to humanity.

I feel in this day and age, you'd be lucky if you were able to elevate yourself above your mother in the power pyramid within your family

48 laws of power deepens your understanding for human nature, and it should be honestly the first book to read if you're serious about understanding how your world functions..