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I am telling you not to tell someone who has deep relationship issues: "I was able to heave them out of the depths of hell because I was able to interact with them in a mature way" This person is years away from being: "someone who can bring out the potential in people" She needs to focus on herself and leave any person who has any small hints of toxicity in them behind. Also, judging on your personal attacks and passive aggression on someone you know nothing about, I truly doubt you actually walk the walk. Your ego is triggered because I challenged your opinion, so you needed to lash out on me.

This is not true. You only think it is true because of your life experiences. There are wonderful, authentic people out there, who care for others and truly love and support the people in their life. You just haven't met those people because you're too busy thinking about some loser who thinks "cheating is ok". Even if you do meet those people, you don't recognize the gem in front of you, because you need the familiar drama and instability - remember that water always seeks its own level. It is actually very hard for people who lived their life full of drama to be drama free all of sudden, it feels uncomfortable, you literally need to learn to make peace with the peace. For people who have abandonment issues or other kind of childhood trauma, having no attention is worse than negative attention. And negative attention is what feels so familiar. Most of the time, the only kind of attention they would get as children is negative attention, and that is what they keep craving. When you come from shitty backgrounds it truly messes up your whole psychology. It's very unfortunate, but you will have to do a shit ton of work to fix your life, figure out what truly is "normal", rebuild your whole identity and worldview. You are already better off than many people, because at least you are able to recognize that the upbringing you had was not "normal". Many people come from abusive families and live all their lives thinking it was all their fault, and that their family is "good" it's just that there is something fundamentally "wrong" with them that they can't seem to get their life together. When you build a house on a shitty foundation, the smallest windstorm will be able to bring it down, you need to patch that foundation.

This is a bad advice, you never want to be in relationship with someone whom you are hoping you'll be able to "fix". It takes an enormous amount of effort and years and decades to fix yourself, it is impossible to fix someone else if they are not willing to put that enormous amount of effort themselves, which most people won't do if they are in a comfortable relationship

Because petting her on her head won’t help her understand how extremely idiotic her thinking is. What do you care about what I post mr lashes out on everyone and is super bitter in the forum, can’t mind his own business, and then excuses himself and asks for forgiveness because he just woke up or is having a bad day?

Omg what the f*** is this ???. I mean is this for real? Is this a troll post? It can’t be an actual person writing this ? I mean this person said in my post that it is “cringe” for a women to expect a man to be a gentleman and pay for dates, but she thinks it’s ok for a guy to “expect women to provide room for cheating in a relationship”? Holy crap ????

Omg! You need to stop being such a doormat low value chick… get the hell out of this forum, start learning about healthy relationships and healthy people, get rid of all the trash in your life that’s planting this garbage in your head.. build your self self esteem.. stop thinking about what some loser dude thinks about you and only think about whether that loser is worth your time.. don’t worry about asking “too intrusive” questions because you’re an absolute idiot if you don’t try to find out right away if the guy is full of crap or a decent human being.. and if some dude tries to tell you that “cheating is ok”, block his number and get the fuck out…you do understand there are dudes out there who think “beating a woman is ok” too, right? And many women believe them? Do you truly value yourself so little that you want to be around dudes like that? Why do you value yourself so little? Do you have nothing better to do with your life?

I have been looking online and I can’t find good information on this. Some sources say sparking water, like Perrier, is not bad for you, and even good for weight loss, but I am not too sure. Wouldn’t it expand your stomach in the long run and make you gain weight by being more hungry?

If laws of attraction, higher power, all that stuff.. if it all doesn’t exist - then is life completely random? Note, if it is completely random then it’s just super depressing and there is no point in anything. I like to live my life thinking there’s a positive reason for everything to happen. That all the challenges all the bs I have to go through is there for a reason (well and partially my fault too). Is this why everyone gets depressed after they reach a level of enlightenment?

What do you expect out of dating?

I have a big exam coming up, and there are too many things going on in my life, that it’s hard to focus. Is it safe to use Adderall for 1-2 months? I read one of the side effects of Adderall is insomnia.. I am already having trouble sleeping so I am worried it would make it worse. Also, should I be taking it continuously? Including exam date? Is the knowledge going to stay with me once I stop using it?

Thank you, I’ll look into this. I remember looking into it a few years ago and for some reason I remember thinking it wasn’t available in my country. But I’ll check again.

If you’re tired of your life, of who you are, of feeling bad for all the mistakes you made, horrible things you said or did, can you just start from a clean slate in this life? Put it all behind and move on from the “past you”? How can you do that? Is there some ritual? Is there anything you can do to forget the past, stop thinking about the memories, and live a brand new life never thinking about it?

How did you do that?

This is my problem, no matter what realizations I have, I’m back to me, with 0.00001% improvement… even after this post I went and did more stupid things that are typical “me”even though I was super determined to change my life 180 degrees…. This “me” is truly a gift that keeps on giving I need to get rid of her ?

@Average Investor but I do have a good lifestyle, my diet is good, I exercise regularly, I am addicted to caffeine though, but I did replace coffee with matcha. It’s just still very hard to focus.

How were you able to do it naturally? Is it better now?

@Tyler Robinson how long did you take it for?

Why wouldn’t you recommend it?

What happened when you stopped taking it?

Well I’m for sure ready for the good things that would come out of it… like wiping out my bad memories and the associated guilt I don’t understand why your health and diet would be effected? Wouldn’t your self love and therefore self care improve if anything? How did it all happen for you?

But isn’t awakening temporary? You can have an “awakening experience”, but wouldn’t that just last a little while and then after that you’re back to your old self, but with a tiny bit of improvement?

Hi all, I was wondering if I could get some tips for time management, planning my day, organizing myself. I was never taught these things and there was 0 discipline in my house growing up. I like things clean and tidy, but I am a very messy person. For example, when I get home, I would take off my jacket and leave it on the couch, or take off my clothes and leave them on the floor. When I eat, I don’t put away the dishes until the evening. I spend at least 30 minutes every night cleaning up the mess I made during the day. It would be so much more efficient if I put my clothes away right away when I take them off. I also never make my bad when I wake up, I just leave it and do it when I wash my sheets. Same thing with grocery shopping, I always over shop and then throw things out. Same thing with shopping for clothes, I have so many clothes that I never wear. I am also having a problem scheduling my day. Like today I slept in my gym class, and basically all day went to hell because I can’t decide whether I should go for a run, go to the gym, go for a walk… it’s all lost now.. Do you have any kind of suggestions for this? Are there any books I can read on organization? Time management?

Lol, I don’t get what’s the shocking revelation here… narcissists/psychopath are actually the ones who hold most of the positions of power in this world, no normal person has the drive to achieve things the way they do. Narcs have such a wounded ego they need constant admiration and success to prove to themselves they are not a complete peace of shit which is what they feel like deep inside.

Is drinking matcha almond milk latte bad for you if you do it every day? I’ve been reading the EGCG in matcha is bad for the liver. Is it better than drinking coffee every day?

Yea, that’s definitely true. Still hope there exists a country with large amounts of stage yellow people ?