Realms of Wonder

That's a good point, my mind makes the objection though "I dont want it to be all about me, I Want it to be about her and I independently growing, then coming together to share something special." That is a good point a bout feeling like I need to go above an beyond, would you advise giving more attention to my own life, what I am creating, my purpose and passions? That's exactly how it feels hahaha, thank you for your reply

My question is, how do I maintain and increase attraction over long distance? Met this girl at summer camp last year, I could tell that she was really attracted to me, I wasn't looking for a relationship at the time so we became friends, 2 months in I chose to engage, we quickly connected deeper, on many levels, emotionally, physically, and musically, I lead the interactions, set dates, and successfully led it to making love many times, even met up in NYC after camp to see each other. Fast forward a year, we have stayed in contact, she is back at the camp, while I continue to build my Life purpose. I have noticed needy thoughts and attachment growing on my end, she has said she loves me multiple times, loves talking to me, and I with her, we facetime once a week, 30-60 minutes, it flies by, I ask questions that lead her to introspect and think about her life and her relationship with herself, and she loves it. She is flying out to see me after Camp is done, and I am looking forward to being with her again, showing her my life, showing her Music, singing together, all the things. Here is what I have been doing Lead and inspire her, as an example of going after a life purpose, placing my Life purpose and Music as the highest priority. Being an example of Self-Love, growth, facing trauma, being authentic for myself. Encouragement as she grows. Giving resources to help her passions flourish, videos on Business, Authenticity, Self-Love, etc.. Wrote her a letter Undivided attention while facetiming/connection. Being emotionally open and honest, for example "I feel X and X when you do X." Honesty and truthfulness, expressing myself as honestly and authentically as I can. Leading her to laugh. A LOT, our conversations are 60-70% playful, silly, goofing off, she feels comfortable being herself. Leading, setting up definite facetime times. Not texting too often, being busy with my life, not playing games, just responding when I have time, mostly playful, flirty banter + Gifs. being curious about who she is, desiring to understand her Asking high quality questions listening, clarifying questions Is there anything I am missing, anything I could do to increase her attraction even more?

Love this perspective, its like the women, is a mirror for our inner world! Feeling needy, doubt and confusing, that is a reflection of myself, it has very little to do with her.

"Convince a man against his will, He's of the same opinion still" - Mary Wollstonecraft

Latest Version of OneNote: Uploaded to the cloud, and onto an external hard-drive. There are probably better ways to handle/process the information I have stored. Have not looked into alternatives yet.

Hey, sounds like it was extremely challenging, sorry you went though that. if you can stomach it, love and accept yourself through it, be with yourself, giving yourself attention and acceptance through the pain. I can imagine the feelings of regret, mixed with guilt, plus a whole spectrum of other feelings, I have been there. Even if it doesn't make sense do your best to love yourself right now. It may not lead to the feelings going away, but it may help you begin the healing process. Be strong, Stay true, Much Love

Love of Music means showing up. Being present with Music, here's a collaboration Music and I brought into being. Enjoy! Tears of Change: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1aiE_jXy0vnRTLh11JWgapljOrc6mk-O-/view?usp=sharing

That is interesting to think of, the sheer shout of resources available in skill building nowadays! thanks for sharing your perspective

Wanted to share this from my life, as hope for those acquiring the skills to live a authentic, passionate life, and to encourage you to just START. Even if you dont have a completed plan yet. If you follow the right principles (These specifically highlighted in this thread. Work ethic, Choosing Love, Creativity, and the power of learning.) You can create amazing, spectacular results in your life you couldn't have imagined when you took that first step. Right before quarantine hit, I decided to start producing music, having talked about it for years but never taking any action. That first year, Investing over 700 hours, and produced some of my first instrumentals. So many days it felt like I was make ZERO progress. And I wanted to quit, seeing other artist I look up to and how skilled they were, I began comparing myself to them. Thankfully, having read the book Mastery by George Leonard many times, as well as the compound effect by Darren Hardy. I realize my path was normal, spurts of growth, plateaus and even dips, then another spurt, and so on. The next year, I invested another 600-800 hours, this year was even harder, literally starting HUNDREDS of projects, and fewer than 4 out of those I considered good enough to turn into complete songs. I was still frustrated, I felt like it was being so much harder than it needed to be, I felt that I was "Playing" but not "practicing" and maybe that was why I felt stagnant. I decided to do more research into books on how to play music, and stumbled across "The lesson" by Victor Wooten. and it changed the way I saw music, more accurately it reminded me what I already knew, but had forgotten through all my Violin lessons as a child. So far this year I have put in way over 500 hours, more importantly, the quality of the time has increased. during that time I have "rough finished/demo" (structure, lyrics, melody, percussion, groove, etc..) 8 songs, and have more than 8 in the pipeline. In this video (one of my personal favorites.) Leo points to the fact that a class of thing exists that can only be acquired through long term, consistent action. Day by day, for weeks, months, years and decades. I have found it to be true in my experience. I can only imagine how it will be in a decade or two......... Today another song was rough finished, and its one of the best so far. And that entire process of it took less than half the time some of my first songs did, but the quality is magnitudes higher. I am still early on the music production journey, a little over two years. and even in that time, its becoming more and more effortless, and more and more enjoyable! For you, what is a meaningful skill you want to invest in, or already are?

Not that I remember, not musical per say, insights yes.

If you really love it, it will be worth the long climb have you actually played the handpan? It may seem like it, to put things into context, the skill I am mastering (songwriting) I have only been working at Seriously for the last 2.5 years. Also, results will not be linear. The first 2 years were really frustrating, making relatively little progress for the effort I was putting out. Now it seems that I have hit the “knee Of the curve,” which is super inspiring and motivating, it’s beginning to be effortless and really really enjoyable. Once again, it’s more than just time, it’s how the time is used. I don’t know. Best guess? Find someone who has monitored the handspan successfully, and research their journey.

What part of Oregon!?

Hey there, also a musician here, props to you for the desire to create that for yourself. Mastery is more than time, you may be a faster learner than me, but I have put around 2k hours into Music production/songwriting (on top of a decade of classical violin training) and only now am I really feeling it start to take off. This is the easy stuff. This will be the challenge, building a loyal following, that LOVES your work and gets a lot of value out of it. All good ideas, how much research have you done into how possible those options are? specifically for the skill you are building? hehe, me too, with you. Nope. Its not that simple. Maybe on paper it is, but in the real world, the hardest part will not be developing your ability to handpan masterfully, it will be getting eyeballs that want to PAY YOU to Handpan masterfully. Not by any means financially independent with my art, so take what I said with a grain of salt Stay strong! Be true

Are John and Sam the same person? Love this brother, was connecting with a friend today, he pointed me towards the inner aspects of authenticity, doing it for the sake of authenticity, letting that radiate into the world. Instead of doing it FOR something. very similar to keeping integrity, John, in this story, doesn't have inner integrity, with himself, the projection was natural coming from that state. This right here... beautifully said. So simple, so difficult

Was there to show us WHY to love. Notice where the hurt has been placed, in areas we feel called to heal. Remember the early days, before our vocabulary could "describe" the immensity of life. With those times came such experiences that gave us our victim stories, coping/survival strategies, and the seeds of four shadow and the impact we now desire to bring into Being. We learned the hard way, the long path, the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual bumps and the bruises, with consciousness, and desire, can become the very fuel for the impact we WILL into reality. Maybe our suffering is part of the process, maybe our suffering is exactly what we need right now, to grow, push our roots deep through the dark earth, and up into the sun, as we grow and bloom, in Love.

Music is interesting in that way, why is it enjoyable? What makes it a part of almost every culture EVER? very interesting stuff. I LOVE The way you articulated that!

There are a LOT of ways to see Music, one of which is as an agent or medium through which consciousness can be altered, (similar to a psychedelic.) In your direct experience, how have you seen the music you listen to, effect you consciousness? Why do you think that is?

Interesting! Music to process, music too heal, music to break, and music to feel. LOVE IT! melancholyhope = You

If you are really that worried, it may help your trip a lot, A LOT. If you put your phone on airplane mode, and away somewhere, bathroom/kitchen drawer, and also put away/shut down any electronics that have access to the internet. I have "ruined" trips before, by texting people, family, coworkers.. my old manager , going online, Instagram when I had it, etc.. While I am not saying that will happen, it may help to be extra safe.

Not knowing is beautiful, and uncertainty, like hunger before a big, satiating meal. Allow that hunger, it makes the meal even sexier

Is this true? How can you be absolutely sure?

Thank you for sharing

That is a radical possibility indeedy! That doesn't even make sense in my mind. it says "but its real, it happened, remember?" Pretty powerful stories...

Late at night, when the fog clears, an active mind and a tired body combine, maybe clarity arises. In the early morn, a beacon of light shines into consciousness, with a message, a calling, a why. Play Music that guides people into breakthroughs of Love by articulating the wisdom of Reality. Be the wake up call Be the warm "hug" Be the "Friend" in need Be the radiance of love needed during hard times Listen to their stories, hear their cries, understand their trauma, be with them when they struggle to love their self. Articulate the barriers they face, by sharing your own life experience, distilled into the abstract lessons and wisdom that life was showing. Be true, be authentic, share the authentic path with the world, by articulating reality in such a way, that leads them to recognize the love. Be the Musical connection to love Love disguised as Music. It may be years, decades even, before that is the main, independent source of income in this life. It may take years for me to bite the bullet and start the deeper levels of this work Contemplation Shadow work Building a successful independent Music artist business. And that's okay. Maybe it is slower than others, good! So many will resonate with the long climb, documenting that journey with music, people will see a trajectory that leaves them speechless. By articulating my struggle, people feel seen, heard, understood. that someone "Gets" them and their struggle. Play Music that guides people through breakthroughs of love, by articulating the wisdom of.... EVERYTHING.

@puporing Thank you for making the time to share your thoughts! It can definitely seem like a 'winner take all' market, I dont know if it truly is or not, I dont have enough experience or enough research "under my belt" to say, but I appreciate you caring to keeping me grounded on this journey