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@Bad_anarchist Some didn't have the luxury of growing up in an environment that allowed them to mature as fast as you have. Call yourself lucky, well done ?

Thank you all, really appreciate it ? @Tyler Robinson Yes, the family dynamic is very narcissistic. My grandma actually fought off tanks as a young adult and my mum was beaten, so I can see where it all started. Sorry to hear you experienced abuse too, it can get pretty ugly. @IDressMyDog Re-parenting work resonates. I notice myself looking for healthy role models everywhere I go. @TheGreekSeeker Never heard of it, sounds interesting. I keep in touch with them every now and again, but generally limit contact to the minimum. Talking to them about this is actually impossible, let alone in the presence of a therapist. Even if it helped me, they wouldn't approve of me talking to anyone about any of this. I'll look more into systemic psychotherapy, I think this could benefit me a lot. Another thing I was thinking is booking some Tantra sessions just to heal limiting beliefs in the sexual area. Does anybody have any experience here?

@Carl-Richard Well put ? I'll have to contemplate on this a bit, but I think the coin in my ass is going to drop soon.

@Carl-Richard I do take this as an excuse to unleash suppressed emotions onto people, if I'm being completely honest. I tell myself that if I decide to go find and slap the dude's ass, it was his own doing because he should have expected it. If this takes me to jail, so be it. But I don't see how I'm looking out for my own ass here. Other than not being dumb enough to actually act out on these thoughts.

This is how I was raised and expected to behave every single fucking day of my life because of people who never got a good taste of their own medicine! Who is going to enforce justice here? It's not like society or government cares much about the "little" things.

I know it isn't. My problem is I don't feel like it isn't (ever since having several realisations).

I'd be careful. Cults are always helpful initially...

@Carl-Richard I wouldn't feel better if I were to just talk about this to someone. It does help, but it never releases ALL the negative energy.

Why should he care about social responsibilities?

Hard to tell. Maybe post this in the mental health section?

@IAmReallyImportant As long as you don't beat yourself up about it. My best mate actually has a hard time picking up on emotions because he's in his logical thinking mode a lot more. You ever talked to someone about this? Yeah, this sounds like victim mindset. I notice this in me too from time to time. People are actually like mirrors.

You're killing me, bro ?

I know what you mean. But don't underestimate the more counterintuitive approach of not caring about balancing the odds You actually stick out more the less you're trying to control the outcome. Being a little mystical sparks her emotion more than the average guy trying his hardest to build a connection with yet another meaningless word salad.

Heard so too. My friend has dates all the time via Bumble.

@something_else There's just too many factors to take into account as to why they suddenly ghost. You also have quite a few girls on dating apps who are still in relationships. You can still build rapport first, but the goal should be to set up a date, time and place to meet and then go about your life purpose. If she's flakey about going on a date just tell her to shoot you a message if she changes her mind and send her your number. This has worked really well. Almost all of them texted me some days later.

@bloomer I am guilty of this. And I'm enjoying it more than I used to. Some millenials seem to already see other people as "NPCs" without going through an existential crisis when basically looking through the lens of solipsism.

@Danioover9000 You a beast. What's your MBTI?

@John Paul ✌️ And your approach still backfires with those who show interest initially?

@IAmReallyImportant I think I know what you're getting at. Do you have both cognitive and emotional empathy?

@bloomer I absolutely despise work. Work just never worked for me. I don't see the point in it either. At least working for someone else. But then again, if I left society and the government behind, I would actually end up having to work more. Regarding taxes: imagine you get into an accident, can't move and don't have any rescuers risk their lifes to save you.

Now imagine how fun they themselves are going to be in person...

@Zeroguy There's many narcissists in psychology. I'd give Tyler the benefit of the doubt.

Haha dude, wtf is this logic!?

@IAmReallyImportant Cognitive empathy doesn't give much insight into someone else's experience, so you can only take a guess. Emotional empathy is important for intimacy. It's also important for healing people's suffering. But it depends on your personality whether this is important to you.

@KH2 Just use 9gag.