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@Majed What are you afraid to lose?

No, celibacy is not the way for you, bro, it's cope. You simply don't read of people making posts like "I have such a great relationship!" If you're a virgin you are missing out, sorry to say.

@Ramanujan I've been there before, I know the pain and exhaustion when connection somehow doesn't come as easily. It might take some pressure off to know that you absolutely don't need a girlfriend for things to get better for you. You mention a lot about calling your friends...do you ever meet up with people in person? Where do you come across people or get opportunities to interact with them? School, work, shops? And what are your interests?

What is there to deal with? I don't really think about someone's Se level when I'm interacting with them. I usually just let things unfold rather than trying to control the situation. In fact, a funny side effect of this is that women tend to invite me over to their place first because I'm not the one pushing for it. In terms of approaching and leading girls: Yes, I've noticed the low-Se disadvantage, but that's something that can be developed.

I'm INFJ, Se is also my inferior function. What do you think a high-Se man can do in dating that you can not learn to do?

Go sit where people are and watch all the different types of people that are dating or in a relationship. Do you think they are all non-intuitive?

@Joseph Maynor Why not sell it? It's a waste of money sitting around and will deteriorate if not used.

Classic At one point I seriously considered buying a HSV Maloo and bringing it back home. Only pickup you can fit into any parking spot while throwing a motorcycle in the back. Would have been a dream.

Just like you. You haven't really been consciously dating if that's the conclusion you arrived at. I get why you'd think that way though.

Because the driving experience is insane. Driving-infinity.

You sound like a petrolhead. 812 or F12 though. My cousin's dad had a 458 Speciale, we drove it once and people gave way even in roundabouts 😂

@Never_give_up I used to have a rather short friend and he was way more successful attracting girls than I was. He was very outgoing.

To be fair, after reading through the whole thread, I think he just wanted to share his struggles, get some sympathy and clarity, rather than necessarily having a problem solved right away.

This one was eerily disturbing. Also, creepy vibe : I Am the Pretty Thing that Lives in the House

@Miguel1 I agree. There’s also something I’ve been wondering about: what’s left to do when you’ve asked for advice, genuinely tried different things but nothing seems to help? I’ve had friends show me a lot of love and support during some very distressing times and I’m grateful for that. But their advice still wasn’t helpful. The forum wasn’t helpful either, and neither was therapy. Sometimes I wonder what you’re supposed to do when you’ve reached that point. I wish you the best of luck.

@Miguel1 There's bound to be drama in relationships, but you know that. Without it, no intimacy. I do get your frustration, for what it's worth. “Words are windows, or they’re walls, They sentence us, or set us free.” It's in your control. Bro, take a break. Just chill and do some solo camping, honestly. All your questions don't need to be answered today.

@Olaf That's a bit of a stretch. You can have standards but you're bound to be with someone who isn't perfect, if you date humans.

@Miguel1 My first reply here was very short but it touches on what others pointed out too: The way it comes across to me is that you’re frustrated with “normies” and with the compromises involved in "normal" dating. But at the same time, you’re still very much a human being participating in the same human world. So I wonder whether defining yourself against “normies” is actually moving you away from unity and toward separateness, or even into avoidance. Which is basically a given if you keep dating and sleeping around with more and more women, you end up burnt out. You seem very burnt out at this point, and maybe taking a break could be beneficial without having to decide that you’re done with dating forever. Personally, I'm more curious about what exactly you think you would have to compromise in a relationship, if that's even a possibility for you? Also, I don’t think you’ll ever find someone who is not bullshitting themselves at some point, that’s just part of being human. You do it too, and so do I, and so does Leo and everyone else on this forum, no matter how spiritual or "conscious" they think they are. So I’m curious where you draw the line between accepting a girl’s humanity and compromising something fundamental in yourself. Are you yourself easy to be around in a relationship? There is no single human being out there who is going to be exactly like you, so what are you willing to compromise? It seems as if your standard is be so high that it becomes impossible for anyone to meet at this point.

Toyota Yallaris

The new Land Cruiser looks okayish. But their cars are designed for Asian eyes.

Can't go wrong with either Honda or Toyota, they are long lasting, relatively cheap cars. If you want a reliable engine get a Diesel. Personally, I've been a fan of the BMW 2-liter engines if you wanna spend a little more. Fuel-efficient and oil change every two years.

I'd argue it's a high consciousness vs. "normie" problem. Constantly getting mistmatches will definitely burn you out, I'm at this point too.

Basically a gentleman.

I've noticed people put in more effort to go out and make new friends, which in my country is definitely a big shift since people liked to keep to themselves and their established friend groups.

1st soul mates, deep, heartbreaking 2nd chill, fun times 3rd absolutely crazy in the worst way 4th ego games 5th spiritual, chaotic, triggering 6th calm, chill, fun