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Nobody here can tell you what's gonna work for you, you gotta make your own decisions. It would be best if you found a person you can trust, e.g. a therapist or life coach.

Alright. Let's appreciate that women are more caring and empathetic than men. The most empathetic man is still just on an average female spectrum probably. We also don't appreciate enough how hard it is to stay sane when you're on a roller coaster ride of emotions all the time.

@Husseinisdoingfine Yup.

dead or in jail

I agree.

It filters bad vibes.

Racism is still a problem all over the world btw.

Good to see megachurches adjusting to society.

What changed? You just watched a video that confirms your beliefs.

lol

Wait another year and see if it happens again.

Low self esteem, jealousy, to make you feel bad, there could be many reasons.

@Rishabh R What about anything fun?

Talking to a hundred more girls, in my opinion, isn't what you need right now, it's just feeding your fear to miss out. What else is there besides women? Any hobbies, sports, art, anything that gets you out of your head and into a more present and calm state?

Of course lying to yourself backfires on you. If you have no respect for yourself your surroundings are going to reflect that. She could probably tell you're not being authentic, using logic will just make it worse.

Yes.

Your heart says yes, the mind says no. Fear you're not good enough is holding you back to go after what you think you deserve. This to me sounds like friends+.

Yes it's accurate.

Thanks everyone for your replies. I cancelled, no point going on a date right now.

How do you guys go about meeting up with people when you're going through a dark phase? I had a rather challenging therapy session the other day and feel depressed since but had already set up a date for this Sunday. We didn't text all week and I was hoping for her to call it off but she's still on. Appreciate your views.

@Rahul yadav This creates a push/pull dynamic and has big potential to eat away at your confidence. But see for yourself... In general it's healthy to disqualify women who aren't a good match. It's a different story when you do this for her to chase you.

@Majed I feel you. It won't last they say.

Good boy

You're right, in a way they do lure you in like a cult, but it's really more of a multi level marketing company. An actual cult controls how you spend your spare time, who you date, what you're allowed to think and feel.

That's correct. And no, I'm not absolutely open minded, I have my biases. It's good you're coming up with your own conclusions, but not accepting something to be true doesn't prevent it from existing. Lee Rigby was still butchered in broad daylight and nobody prevented it from happening. Everyone was too shocked to accept the situation and act from a different paradigm. I do have certain triggers inside me, yes. Wanna share what happened to you?