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@Spiral If you don't do online dating I don't see how one can be awful at texting. The problem is trying to have a conversation via text. Are the people who think it's important enough to point out your texting style people you look up to? Texting is a good tool to set up meet ups or dates but a bad tool for conversation.

@Yimpa Who needs a brain after such an accomplishment?

Fair enough.

@Carl-Richard His roommate tried to get him to leave his blanket outside so he can sleep in it when he returns, while @sda thinks it was meant for his roommate's friend who stayed there. @sda T's friend was probably too shy to ask you for a blanket and got him to organise one. I wouldn't read too much into it.

Which sport you got in mind? I've never heard about this besides maybe some extreme sports and boxing.

It might not get you the results you wish for, but of course it's ok, embrace your shadow. The more conscious you become, the warmer you're going to be with people over time, because you'll realise something very important along the way. The mind always finds proof its current model of the world is correct. Stay open-minded and curious

I see what you mean, you call people with victim mentality assholes. I agree with you. Not necessarily...put yourself into the shoes of a guy trying to heal his childhood trauma. See him as someone taking his inner wounded child by its hand and guiding it through life. It can look ugly as hell when a parent is protecting their child. It's also a form of love, just not the romantic Hollywood crap. Now see how this is true for a guy putting his purpose above everything else. Anyone interfering with his mission is gonna face harsh consequences. He knows himself and has realised he's not gonna make the world a better place by being nice, it takes a little more than that. You won't find these guys telling people to smile more, appreciate life more, to radiate more love. But you sure as hell will find such people in woke circles, thinking they're being real nice all the while unaware about who they actually are. If it makes you feel better...

He's under the illusion the world and masculinity need to be saved and there's such a thing as good and bad. The nice guy still buys into his mommy's narrative, the asshole doesn't care about what others think, he's smart and can see that those who call him that are those who sleep with him, can't be too bad then. He knows his value and needs not to proof it to anyone. Don't take life too seriously

Nice is where the average guy starts his journey. OP is frustrated about dating coaches who brainwash guys on the other end of the spectrum.

A nice guy can't be a well rounded human being. Most young guys here will not land a high value woman with their current mental state anyway, what's more important for them is working on integrating their shadow and getting laid. Shadow work isn't nice, but it puts you in a better position to sleep with girls while still working out who you are and what you want. This is way more important to a man than caring about being nice. It gets him more of the results he actually cares about without worrying about what women say a man should be like.

@Schizophonia Thou shalt not stereotype.

Noticed this with Spanish girls the most compared to the rest of 1st world countries.

This is the perfect example of how you're creating a story about yourself that has nothing to do with reality, you're expecting people not to respect you because you know you have no respect for yourself. I recommend you look into IFS therapy and find out where you're limiting beliefs come from.

@Wisebaxter I'd make it a personal thing you do for yourself, as in me time and focus on spending quality time with women and people in general if you care about conscious relationships. This will get you out there more.

@Wisebaxter They do exist of course. I dated a girl I smoked with here and there. The girls of two of my friends smoke regularly. My ex gf's sister and her bf were a gamer couple. And met plenty other girls who smoke (and are into gaming) too. Yes, this would be more fulfilling.

@Schizophonia Explain?

@inFlow And of course there's always the psychopathic kid at school who can't get enough of these videos and needs you to see it. Wise man, it took me way longer to notice.

This. There's just something fishy about someone offering help when all they know is how to be nice. No human being is inherently nice, it gives off a manipulative, inauthentic impression.

But you taught me not to believe anything online 🥺 I get your point, still there are benefits...it just doesn't sound pretty. It's a sensitive subject and can rob people of their sense of security.

That's kinda naive (no offence).

Not that I'm aware of.

I wouldn't go out of my way to watch them, but the ones I came across were beneficial for my understanding of reality. They can really rot your mind though and are definitely an unhealthy way to deal with anxiety.

Unfortunately, the so called nice guy has no gifts anyone is interested in.

@Asia P I did go through something very similar, it's called the dark night of the soul in some circles (but has no special meaning). It took me a very long time to get out of it. Best you can do is be patient with yourself. Leo's advice is important in order to not get stuck and totally isolated, you'll learn to appreciate people again. Make sure to stay on the move, go on walks, to the forest, lakes, this will keep you going.

I used to get so nervous before calls all that came out was word salad. Like with any fear, the more you face it, the smaller it gets. Don't even try to send them an email. In fact, make calls whenever you get the opportunity. lol