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@Majed I feel you. It won't last they say.

Good boy

You're right, in a way they do lure you in like a cult, but it's really more of a multi level marketing company. An actual cult controls how you spend your spare time, who you date, what you're allowed to think and feel.

That's correct. And no, I'm not absolutely open minded, I have my biases. It's good you're coming up with your own conclusions, but not accepting something to be true doesn't prevent it from existing. Lee Rigby was still butchered in broad daylight and nobody prevented it from happening. Everyone was too shocked to accept the situation and act from a different paradigm. I do have certain triggers inside me, yes. Wanna share what happened to you?

Yep, this pretty much sums up introversion. Would you want to prevent feeling exhausted after a day of hiking?

@trenton It's normal at that age, kids to this stuff all the time. I tend to think I can relate to the shame inside you due to your mom's reaction. IFS has been very effective for trauma healing for me.

@Yimpa Smart guy.

Cringe af. I only ever heard cult members say shit like this.

Try it out and see for yourself I had phases where I could listen to music all day, other times where I tolerated no music at all. If you feel it's a distraction just see what it feels like if you don't listen to any of it. It's just about becoming more aware of what it does to you and then from there you can decide how to proceed.

Maybe give them veggies...

He is probably just being a normal adult and she fantasizes about him because he's in a position of authority. Seen it happen and believe me, the guy does not feel the same way.

Same as @Miguel1 I went months without socializing and eventually had to come back. I did find a way for me to not feel lonely but it leads down a rabbit hole. I think that if you were surrounded by people who do share your values you weren't interested in unwiring the need for it, right? Also, where do you intend to stop? What about the need for sleep? Or food?

Only way to be sure is to find out yourself. Psalm 146:3

@TheEnigma jokingly serious

She will not stop the negative self-talk, it's a vicious cycle (and it's not her fault). Negative thoughts create negative environment which then again confirms negative worldview. What she needs is for someone to pull her out of this. This isn't gonna happen on this forum.

Hollywood, Walmart, Mr. Hands...there's more to life outside America

It can't be defined what's high or low value. It depends on the individual, everyone has different values. Personally, I'm repulsed by Hollywood celebrities, so it's Walmart for me.

@Leo Gura Yeah but Hitler had massive social proof...

For us men it also comes around when we realise how high demanding and flakey women are by nature.

@Princess Arabia I agree with you on this for the first few dates. Maybe just me, but it's a concept I've never come across in my dating life, the girls I met usually cut off other guys after 3-4 weeks.

First off, I'm sorry you had to experience this. My therapist once told me a story about a woman who during an IFS (inner family system) session realised she was sexually abused as a child. I don't think there's a lot you could have done for it to not be a shocking realisation. What can help you short term is mindfulness and body awareness exercises, like breathing, body scans. IFS-therapy is what I can recommend long term.

Being on the lookout for the right one to come along creates fomo in my opinion. To have different experiences...is this really dating? Or F+? Not sure I understand, what do you mean?

I don't think it's ethical, more of a sign of immaturity imo. Just like focusing on having abundance which is being propagated by the pickup community. Abundance is for anxious people or a byproduct of inner growth. I'd also never get involved with a girl who dates multiple guys, just not for me.

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@Sabth I remember a school trip with sleep over when I woke up a school mate because he was breathing in his sleep. @Clarence Thanks a bunch, mate! Will look into this more, but it sure could explain a lot. Just saw there's a misophonia forum too.