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I looked up those studies, some show slightly lower satisfaction. Of course, texting strips away facial expressions, body language, tone of voice and feedback. Dating apps make it easier to meet people, but not necessarily easier to build connection. That said, the girls I've asked why they're on apps said it's cause they haven't met anyone they're attracted to in their social circles, others were just looking for something casual. So I think both online and offline dating have their place. Dating apps might attract insecure attachment patterns, though those would show up when meeting them offline too.

@Olaf Also online dating doesn't necessarily keep them single. I know several people in long term relationships who met online.

@Alexop Maybe they attend those activities to enjoy themselves instead of finding a partner. Or they're interested in dating but simply haven't met someone compatible 🤷🏻‍♂️ Why does it matter?

Point out to us when exactly this girl has rejected you. I would suggest you practice living with uncertainty, rather than already resorting to resignation. The latter can feel surprisingly peaceful, because it protects you from disappointment. But it also means you’ve already decided the outcome before anything has had the chance to develop. Notice what's missing from that comparison: everything else that matters in a relationship. You are right that she might choose him over you, but not necessarily for the reasons you think. Right now, you had some positive interactions, shared interest, her number and plans to spend time together. You don’t know where this will lead.

Sorry to hear.

Yep. It's almost impossible to recognise love bombing if you've never experienced it before.

You underestimate what the mind can block out when you're emotionally invested, it's a big blind spot. You can read actualized is a cult on the internet too, does that make it one? Or is it possible that things aren't so obvious when you're involved in something?

@Joseph Maynor Excellent choice. Take care of it.

I tried 🤷🏻‍♂️ my door is open.

Dm me if I can help you out.

@yetineti Not every exchange needs to be a contribution to the human condition.

@Monster Energy She doesn't have that monster type of energy.

If it was I would cry.

In fact, I had two girlfriends that made more money than me and before me, dated guys that you could call more masculine with more status and success than I had. So, maybe there's more to attraction than your rule says. Of course, if you constantly view yourself as a victim in dating and go in to receive, then that mindset is rather unattractive in itself. Focus on the factors you can control.

This hasn't been my experience. I had a woman who wanted to stay with me when I was very skinny, had no money, had no friends or really any other resources. She even drove me to places because she had a car and I didn't. So it's hard for me to believe that women only love men for what they bring to the table. Some women really care about you for who you are.

@Leo Gura You might like Polestar's designs. Today's cars look like they've been designed by some IT-dudes, zero soul.

Redpill is one of the few places where young men feel heard about their dating struggles. The rest of society often tells you to suck it up and that you're the problem, without really acknowledging how painful loneliness and constant rejection is. The problem with redpill is how it generalises. It takes your experiences and turns them into rules and absolute truths about women and dating. Eventually, you end up seeing every interaction through that lens, making you distrustful and holding you back from forming genuine connection. If you ask yourself if it's holding you back: How much has it helped you understand yourself and women better? How much has it helped you form meaningful relationships?

It depends on who it is.

For me it's usually sympathy when they try to hide it and their eyes tear up. But I've had girls throw a tantrum crying and that's when I feel disgusted. It really depends on the reason. There's been times when it made me tear up too. I just listen, no action needed, maybe a hug, depending on who it is.

@Joseph Maynor Give us your view in more detail. Do you mean it only applies to a small range of people?

You need to meet people in real life. Connecting with them only through your phone is like living on fast food: your hunger will be satisfied, but it doesn't give you the nourishment you actually need. Eventually that lack of connection catches up with you. What about people gives you trauma? What makes them evil?

@Schizophonia So that's where you're Phallus theory started.

@Thought Art The fuck did I just watch.

@Joseph Maynor What you mean by too extreme?

That's attachment right there.