Breakingthewall

I think the same. Nahm, you have received criticism from many, including myself, but greatness is shown by being truly humble. show what you're made of, leave your ego behind and keep contributing to that forum that you love. The important thing is the message

That sounds very dogmatic. I don't think that the problem was about alignment. Was another thing and i believe that nahm has a problem. I'm ashamed not because I said , i didn't delete, it's because I didn't say to him , but really, was impossible to talk with him, so it's done. Nahm , i wish you the best. I send you my love, sincerely. Your way was unbearable, sincerely too. but you weren't wrong in many things, on the contrary, very accurate regarding the no mind in my opinion, but the way...

Talk negative in public about anyone who isn't here to answer. Ashaming, was time before to try to say in the face. I hope nham keep posting as he love this site

I totally regret what I said, not because I don't think so, but because I should have said it to Nham's face, or kept quiet. I feel like a total idiot and a coward. apologies to all and nahm. I've had this in mind for a long time and I couldn't shut up. Mistake

Yeah yeah, hard ruthless judgement. sorry nahm. but so many times I have seen it so clear, so obvious... a total scam and nobody realizes it. I have had close experiences with narcissists and I think I know how to spot it. it's a subtle thing. It's when the guy speaks and everything he says revolves around him, he can't get out of there, he's trapped and doesn't realize it, then his speech gets poorer and ends in a series of repeated mantras that can be translated into: I'm smart and you're dumb, since you have to be dumb for it to show how smart I am. and there is no analysis of reality, just me me me...

Eckhart Tolle, the power of now, is a great introduction in the understanding of the mechanic of the ego . sounds good because it is the key to the only possible real happiness, to place yourself completely in the current present and realize what you really are, but here we enter the thorny terrain of enlightenment and that is where one can become egoic, looking for enlightenment as if it were something, when it is (imo) an angle of perception. It is a subtle matter that requires insight, which I would say you have plenty of. I think the majority of those who seek this change in the angle of perception is because the way they perceive has gradually led them to more and more anxiety, until it reaches an unbearable level.

I doubt 20 times about my intuition before I form an idea, then I do it, and then I change it... obviously I also doubt yours, but I think they are surely right, you are an honest guy, with integrity and fine perception... or so my intuition tells me. And yes, sure nahm had real awakening in a given moment, like many, but enlightened? Talking 100 of time since the empty mind as he pretended? Definitely no

Be really careful about thinking that someone is enlightened just because they say so. do not underestimate the twisted nature of the human condition

I have said unpleasant things but they are what I feel and perceive. I think I should have said it before, now it doesn't make much sense, maybe it's even mean, i felt bad couple hours since i wrote. nahm, I feel sympathy for you as for an old acquaintance, but I sincerely believe that there is a lot of the real narcissist in you, and it's very dangerous when you are promoting yourself as a teacher. I see it clearly. I'm wrong? Possible. but think: maybe there is something real. maybe it can help you to see the elephant in the room, if you want to see it

normal. every time i read nahm a wave of narcissism hits me. I get the feeling that his goal in posting is to show how advanced he is, and how stupid are the others, and to do so he deliberately makes his posts incomprehensible. toxic. narc. if you want to communicate something, if you have something to say, you do it clearly. since your goal is to contribute something. if your goal is to look like the smart kid in the class, you do those kinds of weird spins. lately it was already unbearable, a toxic aroma in this forum. another detail: to say that he has 3 successful businesses and meets with millionaires. when? please....he only has one business and it is fooling fools. Over all so nice with the pretty girls. Oh man. you were playing with a demon thinking it was an angel, as it use to happen. I had doubts at first, narcs are smart, but lately was so obvious

I understand your mental process perfectly because I used to think the same. what happens to you is called ego. Have you read Eckart Tolle? explains it pretty well. you see yourself as a process in time, and this is an erroneous vision, which leads you to try to make a satisfactory temporal process. what you really are is actual present, nothing more. it is difficult to see this really, but it is fundamental. As long as you consider yourself a temporary process, your life will be narrow, limited, like a tunnel. if you stick to the present you expand, you encompass everything. I guess I'm not explaining myself very well. first: you do not have to do anything at all. or play the drums, or meet girls, or have a family, or work or anything. I know this is radical and almost impossible to put into practice, but you have to understand it on a psychological level. you are, and that's it. the rest, really, are judgments that you have absorbed from others, even if they seem your innate. If you stay lying today in a hammock on the beach looking at the sea, and you stay there for 40 years until you die doing absolutely nothing, everything is perfect. To understand this, perhaps a 10-day meditation retreat would help. once you understand this, you erase the negative tendency to act. negative in the sense of: I have to do this, because if not....and you can start to act positively. that is, you do, solely and exclusively because you want, you love what you do. selfishly. This does not mean that you become lazy, on the contrary. you act with much more energy and true talent flows from you. To see this, I spent almost a whole year meditating in a park, everywhere except home, and doing almost nothing, almost no socializing ,not watching movies, not reading... I only had one goal: to stick to the present, eliminate all that mental garbage of seeing myself from the outside. I have achieved it in part, I am still at it but I see it very clearly, and the results are obvious, huge difference. I clearly see that I was sold, that I acted like an idiot to meet the standards that had been socially programmed for me. the sooner you get rid of that, the better. the problem is that you can start doing this also as an egoic goal, there you have to be smart and know how to differentiate

getting out of there is the key. It's an interesting mental path to get close to that, it requires a lot of deconstruction. once you do it, it seems very obvious, but before, it is a challenging process Welcome!

in case it helps, 5 meo has helped me a lot. not to see that I am a god or anything like that, it has been to disintegrate my ego and see how it rebuilds itself over and over again. makes you understand what you are. Mushrooms have also helped me, they take you to where your block is and you face it

maybe a first grade apprentice. It has only happened to me, without psychedelics, twice. It's not a matter of peace and joy, it's that you get out of the vortex that turns all the time that is the mind, and that mind is revealed as something that operates at a certain level and that has become a kind of constant interference. when it leaves (which does not disappear, you can continue thinking, but in another way, another rithm) the interior of your mind is revealed as a limitless amplitude, empty, still, but profound. it is clear that you are that ,and nothing matters since "matters" is at the level of the monkey, like everything else. this is liberation, what always was, beyond movement, time, which reveals itself as one more thought. It cannot be explained because if you say: you are nothing. It sounds like something very unattractive, less for the ego, but that is and is perfection, everything. my goal, as a monkey with goals, is to deactivate myself at will and be what I am every day, since it goes beyond any possible pleasure because it's freedom and the monkey is slavery. surely my approach will not be perfect, since my experience is very limited

the intention of this work, for me, is the cessation of the mind. when it happens, it is seen that the ego mind is a parasite that you have running full time. when the mind ceases, bottomless stillness manifests, and it is freedom. there is nothing more to understand, any idea only serves to get rid of ideas. seeing the monkey on your profile, I would say that your intention is the same

think about one detail: when you want to be a top level drummer, what do you want? What does this mean? it means reaching the level that others consider is high level. you're selling yourself, being a whore. you have to make the battery work for you, not you for it. that is: I want to get to enjoy the drums as much as possible, give the most of myself in it every day because that is a great pleasure, pure joy, and for this I increase my technique, to put the drums at my service, because here, only I matter, and I am the one who sets the standards. thus, talent can emerge. Even the technique is not the top, you can flow, that's talent, art, in battery and every art, sport, etc. otherwise, you are putting yourself as a battery server. you will only get frustration

You see your life as a career, as a page to be filled in the best possible way, a perfect resume. this is a completely wrong view that prevents you from relaxing. You live in anxiety, clinging to what should be. life is the present moment and success is being that present without obstacles. play music as a master, be the best at something, a number one... that's nothing, zero, banal, it lacks the slightest importance. it is ego, narcissism, an anxiety-generating disease that can destroy you. our society rewards this, most people think like you, only they are weaker and do not try so seriously. Do you understand what the ego is, the idea of yourself? has you trapped. past, future, achievement, fear of failure. If you want your life not to be a sterile misery you have to get out of there, stick to the present. that does not mean that you are going to stop exercising, you will do it because you like it, not because if you do not do it etc... and so on with everything. Not easy to change the angle of perception, but totally possible

when I have been self-destructive it has been because I had so much anxiety that I had to escape from it as it was unbearable. I don't know how it was possible to live like this, there was so much dissonance inside me that there was not a second of peace, so you use drugs, you get into toxic relationships, you do dangerous behavior, you are aggressive, addicted... all to have the feeling of that you escape even momentarily from the madness that is in you

Well, think of your problem as a very common one: an idiotic narcissistic parent who makes your life an obstacle course that seems impossible to solve. what you have to do, in my experience, is run that race. How? Well, with effort, determination and intuition. get out of your comfort zone as much as possible, gain self-confidence, cultivate understanding, meditate, know yourself. If you need to climb walls of 300 meters, compete in boxing, do it. whatever you notice touches your core of insecurity, of fear. you have been built in a way and that way is not optimal, it hinders your life, relationships, everything. you have to rebuild yourself. This is hard work, titanic I would say. don't take the challenge lightly when you have done the work, you can turn inward and go beyond yourself. Meanwhile, you will be trapped. It is like a game. you have to complete it or your life will be miserable. just my point of view, there are probably cleaner roads, but I don't know them on the other hand, there are cases like eckart tolle, who were mentally screwed up, with a crooked life, a succession of traumas, who were freed in one day. I understand how it can happen, but I don't know how it can be caused

no, because they would have different neural connections. if they had the same neurons, the same molecules in the same places, then yes, but they would be the same person

I wouldn't follow either one, I'd read both if they seemed interesting to me, and I'd stick with snippets that resonate with me right now. maybe trump has some kind of deep wisdom, who knows. What I wouldn't do is admire someone and accept everything he says because he seems like an exemplary guy.

if it is to haggle in a market in Morocco, trump. If it is about meditation, I would listen to Buddha, but in both cases I would listen to my intuition.

It doesn't matter who offers the advice, the important thing is what resonates with you at a given moment. don't judge the messenger, just see what the message does to you. and if in 5 years you hear it again and it seems weak, think that it was another time, another life

Good insight. That's what psychedelics are for. you cannot free yourself from you because wanting to do so is an action of you. you can meditate a lot until that happens, spend many hours in no activity, without wishing for anything, in silence, or take 5 meo that reduces activity in the frontal lobe and does that for you. if you take 5 meo you can see how you dissolve. You think: I'm going to dissolve, but that's impossible, because if I'm not there, what would there be? It can't happen...and it does.

stop your mind . stop thinking completely for 5 minutes. you can't, but if you could, you would see that reality is bottomless stillness. In that bottomless stillness there are no others, no planet, no colors, no universe, no nothing. but you are. not the you full of memories, but what you are. Now plug your mind back in. the colors, the sounds, the different things, come back. You see that they are like a dream that you are imagining. Without that activity, anything is equal to anything else. They are nothing because there is no differentiation. it is you who makes the differentiation, and thus you create reality