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@Tudo But why not live and enjoy this life you were given? Like, we don't know how we got here, but here we are, we have a chance to live this dream and experience lots of interesting stuff, and make something out of our lives, why not make a good use of it all? (disclaimer: I haven't had a direct experience that everything is just a dream, I have just heard from other users that it is the case, as well as from Leo).

@Jameskells Definitely it has potential to change you as a person and your views on things. But travel is only effective when you plan to stay for a long time (minimum 1 month) and when you visit new places every (other) day. It also helps if you have a guide who lives there who can show you around and take you out on interesting places every day. This is all from experience.

How would you feel if your gf told some random guy "I'd let you f me now but I have a bf so you won't have that luxury"

@kray this is exactly what I wouldn't want the most when I'm in relationship with someone. Of course that would be a deal breaker, I don't believe he flirts that way, but flirting is still.... Stepping into risky territory. Because where do we draw a line? Edit: Nevermind lol

@Kshantivadin Are those old habits destructive or just annoying?

@Max_V Maybe look into why you're reacting the way you are about this topic. Because some people do not have same reaction. Maybe something happened in the past that reminded you how used you felt, or you're interpreting it in some unique way that others don't, or something along those lines.

Seems like you have already made up your mind and lost attraction for him and don't even want to communicate with him and hopefully fix things.

What if you finally decide to approach someone and a meteor falls on Earth ?

And I'm with you 100%. I also would like those beliefs and customs to not exist. It will be a long process though. I still see even people high on consciousness being a bit apprehensive /uneasy when topic of female sleeping around is brought up. But oh well... Maybe one day.

@Max_V I would not be more attracted, honestly. But that shouldn't surprise us, double standards exist and it will always exist in the back of people's minds. Girls are judged for sleeping with more men, whereas for men that's desirable. It's just how life works, we should play by its rules. That's my philosophy at least.

@Max_V It's not about power or dominance. It's about being considerate of someone else's situation. This kind of behaviour would be acceptable if both parties were in same financial situation. But it was not the case.

@Gili Trawangan I actually understand her. She is a student and is dependant on her parents for money and doesn't have that much, and he is a guy who has stable income and has more money than her. I don't understand why he wants them to split bills when she is not earning the same as him. Kinda shows me he doesn't care in what financial situation she is in rn, he just wants them to pay equally even though they are not financially equal right now. If they were in similar circumstances in life (i.e. they are both students or they both work) then splitting bills would be beyond reasonable. But the way it is now, it's not so much. @AliceK I actually had bf who was earning money, unlike me who was on my second year of college, and didn't have much money. He actually didn't feel a tad bit guilty for letting me pay for both of us, despite me not being financially stable (or my family, for that matter). I offered to pay nevertheless because I was polite, but in the back of my mind I wished he would stop me and pay for both of us instead. He knew I didn't have much and that I am a student. It bothered me silently and yes, I didn't find it attractive. Not because of money, but because it showed me he was not being considerate and understanding of my situation. If we both were in same financial situation, I sure as heck would not have a problem splitting bills.

Tbh I was also surprised that some people do use condom even for oral... But then I thought, that's actually smart and responsible because of various STIs (especially if you're sleeping with someone for the first time).

@Karmadhi is the male version of me ? Literally I have all these thoughts, just the other way around.

I mean look at Afghanistan as an example. Some people wanted to force that part of the world into democracy. It backfired. People (at least not a large amount) are not developed for that yet. They didn't even fight back that much. In other words, they didn't have such a strong will and a reason "why". They have a long way to go before they become more "like the west". Whereas when you see a french revolusion in 1789, people were willing to die for values and morals they believed in. People were ready for freedom. How the west got to afford this civilized lifestyle today, however, is a matter of another discussion. Hint: it was not pretty, nor moral.

Ugh... I cringe when I look at some posts. Some people just have too much time on their hands. It's a bit pathetic. I kinda know why it happens - attention. ✅ I want to do things that fullfill me spiritually, emotionally and physically and I want to not have time for others stupid distracting things or people.

@RMQualtrough This thread sounds like a Journal type of stuff. Maybe write in that section, it would make more sense because there's nothing to help you with your given information here.

@PurpleTree It won't happen (at least not in a foreseeable future) and we shouldn't even entertain such thought because it's pointless. It's like asking what will happen if N.Korea looked more like the west. Things today are they way they are because they work. We cannot expect every country to be like the west, just because some people think democracy is the only right way. It's not for some people. Some people like being told what to think and do. Some people's mentality allow for authoritarian social systems to thrive. Some people are not developed enough to see a problem in it.

@Antor8188 What if? And what if this? And what if that? You're just too scared to do what he suggests (and that is approaching). Otherwise you wouldn't theorize too much. But I understand that fear. Going out of your comfort zone is necessary for growth though (just need to learn to take care of yourself and not overwork yourself).

Person you find attractive finding you attractive too and wanting to be in relationship with you too.

Yeah... Probably. Maybe some of it has to do with being scolded when making a small mistake in the past (like accidentally spilling something)... And it just kind of got programmed into my mind. What things fall under this value? Like, what does this entail (since beauty is a broad term) specifically for you?

If only I could pin this comment on my wall. This was very helpful info.

Lol. Some people claim they have some values but they are not embodying them at all. But it will reflect back to them and they will probably experience unfulfillment because of it. My values I live by are (random order): 1. (Inner) peace - The one thing I value the most and that gets targeted the most, because I let it, but I'm working on it. 2. Integrity - Saying something and actually following up on that. Actions over words. Not being a flaky person. I value integrity the most in people and hate the most when this value is not being honored. 3. Respect - I care about my bounderies being respected and my wishes be taken into consideration. I also care about respecting other people in that sense. 4. Perfection - Maybe not the best value but whatever I do, I try to do it with great precision and detail and it has to be how I envisioned it. 5. Being the best - Ever since I was little I've been competitive and I took defeat very hard.

@hello1234 Shitting on people hahahahaha. Wanting attention. Omg. Was lovely talking to you. You are not lazy and not biased and you are just perfect, okay? Also you are right regarding this whole situation. Gonna prioritize my mental health and save my nerves and not engage with people like you too. Have a great life. You need it.

Another example of hypocrisy of the West is putting sanctions on Russia, and pressuring others to do the same, but continuing to use their gas and energy resources.