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augisltucia
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I am 19 years old. I keep experiencing dissapointment every time I go out with my friend. We go drink a couple of beers, etc.. Every time I return home I feel very negative, dissapointed with the evening out, because I didn’t talk to some girls. I am capable of doing it, but I feel like I need to be extra stimulated every night out to feel like it was a success. The biggest stimulation I get is from talking to women, feeling desired. I don’t know what to do with this thing. I need some mindset switch help. Any ideas?
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augisltucia started following Why am I so desperate?
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I broke up with my ex a month ago and I feel much better. But when I get triggered by something, like for example a picture of her or presents she gave me, I instantly feel hurt again. I know that Leo said in his "How to overcome a breakup" video, that crying out everything will help, but I'm not sure whether it actually will. For example, if I cry out by triggering my emotions with pictures of my ex, won't it also make me want to go back to my ex or feel that I need to be with her and that she is the only one for me? I am in this paradox of thinking that crying will help, but at the same time I don't want to feel the need to go back to her. Any tips?
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augisltucia started following Is crying the best method of overcoming a heartbreak?
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me and my ex were 18 and 19 at the time of the breakup. We were in a relationship for over a year and recently she started to communicate with that "friend" more often for the last month of our relationship.
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Yep, I definitely agree with you. I believe I am going through different stages of grief right now and my mind is trying to make sense of everything that happened. Andrew Tate in that sense is quite dangerous to our society. Once you have all these vulnerable men (like me) who are trying to find themselves, some ideas that he portraits are very easily latchable since they are very relatable. Thank you for your answer.
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Thank you, great insights.
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Me and my ex broke up at the peak of Andrew Tate popularity. It was her best friend that was following and promoting Andrew’s idealogy and me and her used to make fun of him because of that. After a month she broke up with me because she fell in love with this best friend of hers. Since then my mind just switched because I was starting to think that because of the idealogy that he followed that’s why she broke up with me to get in a relationship with him. It seemed that our relationship was doing pretty good and the end of it just strucked me out of nowhere. I have just seen the new video of Leo talking about Andrew Tate, but I can’t seem to move on from the thought that she broke up with me because her best friend followed Tates principles and that’s how he got her. What do you guys think?
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augisltucia started following The Andrew Tate problem I encountered
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I have just watched “Fight Club” and the whole main characters philosophy of becoming the best version of yourself is self-destruction. Recently I have also watched Andrew Tate Christmas video where he belittles you and makes fun of you because “you didn’t achieve anything” this year. What do you think?
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augisltucia started following Is self-destruction a great way to self-actualize?
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For me it is hard to maintain a habit. Do you have any tips of how you maintain a habit?
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augisltucia started following How to create a habit without failing?
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Second Day: Meditating ❌ Cold Shower ❌ Watching Actualized.org ❌ Staying in touch with my emotions ✅ Reading a book 30 min ❌ Today was a very unproductive day since I left my hometown to another city.
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First day: Meditating ❌ Cold Shower ✅ Watching Actualized.org ✅ Staying in touch with my emotions ✅ Reading a book 30 min ✅ I watched a “Mindfulness Meditation” video by Leo. Learned some interesting things that I didn’t know before. Sadly, I didn’t meditate today, but I am committed and excited about doing it so I will try. I see some change in my perspective on life - it’s getting more positive and I am more excited about the future. Trying to stay as honest as I can with everyone I interact with - it is hard, but I enjoy it since I am more open with everyone. Tomorrow I am going to another city with my girlfriend and her friends. I don’t really enjoy interacting with her friends, but I will keep in touch with my feelings so this way it will help me get through it. Anyway, thank you for reading and I will meet you tomorrow.
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My whole purpose of this journal is to make me more committed to actualizing myself every day. With this journal I will keep track of my progress and hopefully one day reread everything I have written here to remember the whole journey. My main plan of this journal - changing my mindset to a better one. Tomorrow will be day one of my journey My to-do list: Meditating (at least 10 min per day) Cold shower Watching one Actualized.org video from the cheat sheet Staying in touch of my emotions Reading a book 30 min per day Overall, just becoming a better human being and starting to feel like I’m making progress on myself. I will share some of my thoughts and experiences in this journal.